I'm 20 yrs old and just got married about 6 monthes ago. My husband is not super old compared to me but he is somewhat older (29 yrs old) Last night he went to go put gas in my car for me since he know I would be driving around alot the next day and found a speeding ticket I got a few days ago. When he came home he asked me if there was anything I wanted to tell him about. Of course I told him no and thats when he pulled out the ticket and told me to start explaining. Honestly this isnt the first ticket I've gotton its the 3rd in one year. Yeah I KNOW I need to slow down. He told me he refuses to let me put my life and others and danger and proceeded to SPANK ME. He didnt leave any marks on me but it hurt enough to make me whimper and whine. He said that from now onthat this kind of crap will be delt with accordingly. I would have just paid the ticket and he would have been none the wiser BUT I dont work since I go to college and he pays for EVERYTHING. What should I do???
2007-12-01 11:15:25 · 35 answers · asked by Luv_My_Baby 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Besides this he's PERFECT. Literally, sweet loving, romantic, and gentle (well up untill last night when he wore my butt out) I'm confused on what I should do
2007-12-01 11:16:43 · update #1
Probably should stop speeding...He may send you to bed without supper along with a spanking next time...
Not everyone believes your stupid story....
2007-12-01 11:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
My Husband Spanked Me
2016-10-13 08:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with being an adult is that we seem to get away with many things our children would not. If you were older and had a 16 year old son or daughter who drove, you too, would be angry for the speeding ticket, the none payment of it, and the lying about it. Right?
I believe this is a sound idea in the household and should be used by both the husband and wife. It may sound silly to many people, but I believe it would make for a more sound relationship. We as adults have no one to guide us through the rough times in life. We take the wrong path, we end up going to prison or jail. Sometimes even worse. Dead!
As long as you're not being abused or spanked for every little thing, then I believe you deserved what he gave you. Also, this should never be done in front of children. Never! It should also never be done where children can hear it hapening. This sends out the wrong signals.
I wish you luck!
2007-12-04 05:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by pj m 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you deserved it, and maybe next time you're tempted to speed you'll remember the spanking and slow down. Which would would you rather, a sore bottom for a few hours or losing your licence? Or even worse, winding up in hospital or jail, maybe with someone's death on your conscience?
It's precisely because he is sweet and loving that he cares enough to spank you when you're behaving so irresponsibly. You're lucky to have a husband that cares.
2007-12-01 21:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Until I read your additional comments I was not as confused as I am now.
First of all spanking is assault and battery IF it was unwanted or intentional. Second, if he is going to spank you when he chooses this is a complicated relationship, to say the least. So, I guess you need to decide if this "spanking" was unwanted, and whether you intend to allow it to occur again. Spanking your butt is no differant that slapping your face- except spanking can lead to things slapping your face generally doesn't.
What should you do? Demand that he never touch you in that way again, or learn to enjoy it!
2007-12-01 11:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by bink 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell him flat out stay off the sex stories site and he should have been more considerate to sit you down and discuss how he'd like to try a new way in your marriage , he wants you to be his sex slave and obey him , he think's if he has to play daddy by bailing your rear end out all the time that he can play daddy and punish you.
If you dont like it tell him and threaten him with a DVO if he does it again , he'll cut it out real quick.
WHY do you people marry if your still in college? your NOT his equal , he pays for everything , if I were him I'd stop your extracurricular activities , no movies , no night's out with the girl's , you need financial security of your own get a part time job and start helping to pay the bill's that way he wont think he is your daddy , if you were my wife I'd take the car away and make you catch a bus.
2007-12-01 11:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you won't tolerate being spanked like a child. He isn't your Daddy, you are his wife. Also tell him you will change your driving habits and then follow thru. He's right-you are endangering yourself and others. Did he know about the other tickets? I don't think he should have spanked you and I am not defending him but perhaps he was frustrated at the fact that you have not learned from the first two tickets not to mention the waste of money.
2007-12-01 11:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
My wife is everything I could ask for. We ve been married 37 years, and I wouldn t ever consider striking her.
Until she continued to push my buttons, and horribly disrespected me one day when we were on vacation. We talked about her behavior - frankly, it was so bad that if we had been at home I probably would have left the house for several days. She couldn t see where she had been wrong, even though I gave her several examples. Perhaps this is what upset me the most.
Anyway, we went to bed with nothing solved. She started snuggling and caressing me as a pretext to intercourse. Even when I kept moving away from her she persisted. Finally I had had enough, and turned on the light. I directed her to walk around to my side of the bed, where I grabbed her wrist, pulled her across my knee, flipped up her nightie, and spanked her bare bottom about 20 times. Needless to say, the look on her face was one of incredulity. I told her that I wasn t going to put up with anymore disrespect, and that she could expect another spanking if she was going to act like a spoiled brat. I think it was about then that the light came on, and she saw how upset she had made me. We were finally able to clear the air, and we solved a whole multitude of marital issues that had been festering. O
But I told her two things: if she ever disrespected me like what she d done that day, then I was going to treat her to another session across my knee. I then told her that if I ever disrespected her then I was man enough to know I deserved the same punishment from her.
I don t think it ll ever happen again (for either of us), but I know she appreciated my willingness to level the playing field.
The funny thing is that the making up we did later was possibly the best we d ever experienced in our entire relationship!
2015-11-26 07:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by Deepinnahearta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly hope that you don't think this is normal because it is not...you are a grown woman yeah OK you got a speeding ticket so what no big deal how many has he had Mr perfect how would he feel if you hit him for leaving the toilet seat up or not taking out the trash ... be very careful this could be the beginning of an abusive relationship.. by the way when was the last time you got a spanking from your parents?????
2007-12-01 11:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by neesa o 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No! I don't think a spanking was called for, but if you're going to 'act' like a child, then maybe it was called for.
He is probably so totally frustrated because of your behavior in your lack of responsibility, that spanking you was his way of getting your attention. At least it wasn't more violent than what it could have been - so count your blessings for that.
If you want to be treated like a grown woman, then act like one. 3 speeding tickets in one year is outrageous, especially on one income....Insurance rates go up. Maybe if you would be more responsible he won't spank you anymore.........
2007-12-01 11:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by Susan M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well clearly your collection of speeding tickets has done nothing to eradicate your potentially dangerous driving habits.
If I found that you had collected another speeding ticket, I would take you down to the police house and spank you in front of everyone.
2007-12-02 00:57:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋