I feel that i am not welcome to his daughter, he never say hi or bye whenever she comes to the house. (this house we're now has been their house with his ex... long time ago and the daughter was born here). I always say hi to her, trying hard to be friend with her. Yes she talk to me sometimes i often noticed her eyes rolling whenever we have conversation, the three of us ( my husband, me and her) i just ignore that. As much as possible i don't want to embrace that feeling that she is not in to me. This morning, my husband and the daughter went to pick up something, i didn't go with them because i have a lot of stuff to do in the house. When he came home... we started talking casually. He mentioned about the grandmother of her daughter (mother of his ex-wife) that the daughter said, grandmother wants to do baking and that she cannot do that because she's living in a home. The home is very close to the ex where the daughter's live, very convenient to the grandma, no steps to climb.
2007-12-01 11:01:30 · 6 answers · asked by margarita lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the daughter is 21 years of age. my husband accused me of not being compassionate to an old woman. I told him that's not the point. Last week he ask me if i could bake the cookie of his ex-mother in-law i said yes i will do that this weekend and we will bring it to the home. and now that i question the suggestion of his daughter (I FELT LIKE SHE IS REALLY TRYING TO ANNOY ME). My husband made me feel that i am very bad. i notice whenever i say something about his ex.. i'm always the bad guy. One time i call his attention because his ex-wife keeps calling. so i said "why she keeps calling, can't she not live by herself". He was upset of me and told me that she's not a threat in our marriage. but hello have a little respect to our marriage. I wonder if the ex wife knows about the word respect. is she trying to annoy me?Whenever she needs something to be fixed at home, she calls him. The ex is dating someone else, she got a "boyfriend". Isn't she lucky. She got two men taking cared of her
2007-12-01 11:10:11 · update #1
And you married this man, why? Sounds to me like his daughter is trying to cause problems between you two and she's using her grandmother to do it. You need to sit down and have a serious talk with your husband about his priorities. His daughter is grown, his ex has her own boyfriend and house and you shouldn't be catering to all of their little whims and wishes. I would tell him to either start thinking about your feelings or you will find someone who will.
2007-12-01 11:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to do this in front of the daughter but you should say something to your husband about stopping this problem. He has to much connection with the ex inlaws. It is good to have some and be on good terms but he needs to put you first. Do you need to invite your people over to show him how this feels? Do something if asking does not help to show him how this makes you feel. Even if it is geting some fast food that he does not like for diner with a comment about not having a kitchen or not being able to find things after others use your kitchen. Sometimes it takes hurting someones feelings that they will get over.
2007-12-01 11:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's up to you. i, honestly, can't stand anyone in my kitchen, male or female. drives me crazy. baking is MY job!! but hey, i'm territorial that way. i suppose you could do it, ask if she needs some help mixing, or lifting anything. or require the daughter to help out and clean up after her.
edit: Hold up. this wasn't about the baking was it? her daughter lives there. she's going to call. she's 21?? why hasn't dad kicked her out already? when each of my boys are 18, there will be a U-Haul outside wating for them. at 21, she needs a place of her own, not yours. dad needs to stop alienating you. YOU are the one he goes to bed with at night, not his daughter. she's grown woman now. she's in someone else's home right now. not hers.
and someone make that ex stop calling her ex-husband for help around her home. she is definitely old enough to take care of her own house.
2007-12-01 11:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't he ask you if you mined her coming over then again his daughter would feel that you are kicking them out of the family home if he had said no
What would he say if you wanted to move to a new house and sell the old one???
2007-12-01 11:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Myra N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a problem my friend how old is this child and if granny wants to cook and you don't have a problem with it let her do it but you need to talk to your husband about his daughter and her behavior do something about it now or it will continue to get worse as time goes by
2007-12-01 11:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by neesa o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were me .. I would probably tell my husband to decide which family he wants.
I would not be dealing with my husband's ex-mil.
2007-12-01 11:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋