ok so my friend is having a problem...she's married to a guy that is best friends with his ex'girlfriends husband..anyway,they used to all hang out together until my friend saw her husband (bf at the time this happened) fondling and rubbing on his ex-girlfriend...naturally,there was a big fight and the two couples stopped hanging out...well about 2 years go by and my friends husband starts hanging out with his best friend and
ex-girlfriend again,my friend refuses to go over there ,i guess out of embarassment and anger,but she still allows it,she also said that his ex-gf was allowing her husband to fondle her....so she pretty much just lets her hubby hang with them whilst she stays home...the problem is there is a concert in another state coming up and her husband wants to go with his best friend and the ex-girlfriend (out of state)....would you allow this...she is upset about it but she keeps saying that she doesn't want to seem like a ball and chain....sorry so long..
thx
2007-12-01 11:26:35 · 5 answers · asked by storm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
btw,she absolutely does not want to go to the concert with these people,because of what happened,so going is out of the question
2007-12-01 11:41:54 · update #1
If she thinks demanding fidelity is being a ball and chain, she's the one who needs counseling. He's just doing whatever he can get away with. If the two of them agreed they would be faithful when they got married then she needs to put an end to this behavior or the marriage. I wouldn't tolerate it, once he was caught fondling anyone that would have been it, either the behavior or the marriage would have ended.
2007-12-01 11:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's about brain-dead, isn't she. Does she have any kind of backbone at all? Her husband is over there screwing around and she sits at home like a good little dog?
He has absolutely no respect for her, first of all, and that's not love, secondly.
So she is letting him screw around because she doesn't want to seem like a ball and chain? Cause that's what he's going to do when they go to the concert.
Your friend gets what she deserves, if she has no more respect for herself than that. Her husband sure doesn't respect her. I just hope they don't breed and bring kids into the situation, cause it's not going to last long.
2007-12-01 11:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This marriage is a farce....If her husband was truly sorry for being caught with his ex girlfriend...then he wouldn't be hanging around her and her husband....something doesn't sound right....You would think that her husband wouldn't want his so called "best friend" around either...given their history....At any rate...your friend's husband obviously has no respect for her...and she married the man knowing that he is a cheater...
2007-12-01 11:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman needs to let her husband know how uncomfortable this situation is for her. Then she needs to decide if she wants to let it continue. Me personally, I would say that she shouldn't let this happen unsupervised. If she doesn't want to have to worry something is going on behind her back then she should face the situation.
2007-12-01 11:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by freeD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to go or him stay home there has already been problems. If he goes and knows she does not like it then she should start the seperation.
2007-12-01 11:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋