I only want answers from people in relationships. please don't just answer to get points. sometimes when im lying in bed with my live in boyfriend i just despise him. but other times i love him more than anything. is it normal to feel this way??
2007-12-01 11:53:05 · 12 answers · asked by leah_wooooo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its just a hard question coz no1 i know is gonna admit to hating there partner at times... and hollywood paints such a rosey picture of love and leaves out the messy bits
2007-12-01 12:04:50 · update #1
Yeah, Id say it was kinda normal. There are times when i despise my hubby. When he ignores me and i feel like im a ghost cause it seems he cant even see me. I have been told there is a very thin line between love and hate. Don't beat yourself up over this. Its just human. Good luck...
2007-12-01 13:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean! In the beginning honeymoon phase, red flags were unnoticed or forgiven, but in time, he gets bored of me and takes me for granted thinking I'll be over here (it doesn't help I let myself go some either). New people are more exciting, and that boy that was once sweet to me, though nasty and selfish to his own family...now I am being treated like that and he bends over backwards for his new musician friends and music fans.
Yeah, when I'm still trying in the relationships and he constantly ignores me when playing his video games or he blows all his money on pot and drinks with his friends and has nothing left when I want us to go out, and he snaps at me, or doesn't buy me anything for holidays (unless I remind, then I get a last-minute) AND WHEN HE HASN'T HAD SEX WITH ME FOR ALMOST TWO YEARS and I try to communicate in a positive manner and he says "It's just how our relationship has evolved and I like it. Besides I heard great musicians were celibate." YES I WANT TO SCREAM "I HHHHHAAAATEEEEEE YYYOOOOUUUUUU Good Riddence!"
But I had a disability that kept me out of work and my car permanently died and I live in rural area, a few miles from busline and though I maxed out my CCs and $ I saved to help us, just b/c he pays most of rent now (he was the mooch before), the way he currently treats me, though he can be very nice at other times (but he is to a stranger as well and he can be a total jerk the next)...
Yeah, I feel you!
2007-12-01 21:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's normal to have 'good' and 'bad' feelings at different times towards your loved one, but I don't think it's necessarily normal to hate them. To me, that would be a red flag. I've been married 3 times, and with my 2nd husband there were actually times I could say I truly despised him. I wish I had listened to my instincts, because he was the biggest liar and cheater you ever saw. I insticntively 'knew' there were some things about him that were 'so wrong' and maybe that was my subconscious mind telling me to beware. I'd definitely keep an eye on those feelings, they could be trying to tell you something.
2007-12-01 20:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by TwyztedChyck 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u don't really hate them, but sometimes hate the things they do, and the way they react to things. it is perfectly normal at times, because being in a relationship is never easy and ever is without its problems. u love him u just don't like his actions.
2007-12-01 20:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't ever hate my boyfriend. never have lied in bed thinking that. we don't live together. if we did live together & he was not a "partner" in us living together (meaning pulling his half of the rent, chores, cooking) i could see how one could feel hate sometimes. no one likes to be taken for granted & not appreciated. perhaps he doesn't appreciate you & doesn't care to be an equal partner. it's the saying about buying the cow when you're getting free milk. just make sure it is an equal partnership or you will be hating for many years to come...
good luck!
2007-12-01 20:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by s. m. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
right now i am so furious with my husband........i am so angry....i want to leave him right now......but then i begin thinking about all the good times...his personal touch.....the way he looks at me....the special thoughtful things he does (once a year) and love him to peices......i believe it is normal even though everytime he does something wrong everyone tells me to leave....and when we do break it off we are back togather at the end of the week......i love him so much.....but hate him as well.........
2007-12-01 20:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by mrslewis1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's normal, but i definitely know where you're coming from. With my last boyfriend, i would be sitting there with him just wanting to be like "I ******* hate you, this is over" a bunch of times, or i'd be biting him in a cute/sexy way and just want to tear a chunk of his skin off in a really mean way, lol. But at the end of the day, i loved him, i think.
2007-12-01 19:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Oh my goodness, yes I do! I think everyone has those moments. Sometimes you just look at him and wanna sock him in the mouth, other times you wanna kiss him all over.
2007-12-01 20:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by grneyes8621 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Love and hate are passion. They are not opposites and there is a thin line between the two. It is absolutely normal to have both of these emotions when you have strong feelings for someone and that all of them will be strong.
FYI ... the opposite of hate is not love, it is indifference - not caring at all.
2007-12-01 19:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mia ... Yay, best answer! 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
probably nothing again either forgot or spent all that money on herself or friends
2007-12-01 20:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Hi T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋