i feel so depressed right now, christmas is coming up and my parents are still living togther. i'm so confused i thouht everything was over with and that the divorce was settled. it happened before school ended and i just want things to just happen and get it over with. its just so much and i can't do it anymore. i know a lot of people go through it and there are so many other problems in the world. i feel pathetic, but i hate that my parents dont love each other anymore and what am i supposed to do? i don't even know what i'm aking you people, but maybe a little support, what do i do? what is going on? has anyone else gone through this sort of thing?
2007-12-01 11:39:23 · 6 answers · asked by rachel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First things first. Your parents are adults and it their responsibilty to make themselves happy, not yours. Tell yourself that every time you start to get upset about this scenario.
Two, if you are an "adult" child, don't stay in the house with your parents. Staying with a supportive friend or booking a hotel room will take a lot of stress out of the situation.
If you live at home, spend a certain amount of time alone in your room each day of the visit. Take a nap, talk to a friend, read a book, or watch TV.
Whatever you do, don't allow either of your parents to suck you up into their misery. Keep your head up, kid.
2007-12-01 11:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could go either way, depends on the reason for the divorce and how badly the child was affected: 1 - a divorce will be more likely because the child has not witnessed fully the sanctity of marriage and therefore could decide to give up when things get tough 2 - a divorce will be less likely as the child knows first-hand the rough time his parents (and he) had as a direct result of the divorce, and would not like to experience that (or for his children to experience that) therefore he would be more inclined to do whatever it took to make the marriage work. Have I actually answered your question here or just stated the plain obvious? Apologies if you feel I have!
2016-04-07 02:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor kid. It must be really hard on you. Have you talked to your folks about this? Maybe they are still living together because they think it is what you would want. Divorce is very hard on everybody, but the kids best interests should always be put first. As for your parents not loving each other any more, you do know that fact has nothing at all to do with you, right? I am sure they both are absolutely in love with you. A parents love for their children is the strongest love around. Know that this will pass, and that life will go on. Next year will be different. Hopefully they are not fighting around you.
2007-12-01 11:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not choose sides or get in the middle of any problem. Love them both as always and help them like you always have. They will work through thier problem thier way and just let them both know you want thier love and them to be happy. Talking with them will about your thoughts will help. With them seperate or together what ever makes you more comfortable.
2007-12-01 11:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents have been divorced since i was 4, and now I'm 13. the important thing to remember is that its not your fault that they aren't happy. its hard but now i have a step mom, a stepsister, and soon another brother or sister. just be positive and think about that happening to you too.
2007-12-01 11:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that to 5 years ago it's hard
2007-12-01 11:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jeoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋