Marriage & Divorce - 1 December 2007

He's a musician and I trust him a lot... But I just don't trust other people. I know I'll be thinking about those rediculous girls throwing themselves at him and it REALLY irritates me... And the other thing is that I'll know I'll miss the hell out of him! He's only doing shows right now, but his band's about to get signed to a record label. I'm so worried that this will make our relationship fall apart since we will barely see each other =[

How do I cope with this?? How have you other women coped with this same type of situation? I know it's his dream and I fully support it, but I don't want to see our relationship go through a black hole...

2007-12-01 17:33:49 · 8 answers · asked by laurynhorror 1

We ended up having sex, i had a natural attraction to this guy over the past few months, he is a friend of both my ex-husband & I. Next month i find out i am pregnant, i have always wanted another child i have one already to my ex Husband. I have decided to keep the baby. This all happened whilst we were on holiday in Australia and he and my ex hubby are over there, however my husband is coming back home to see our child for Xmas & the father of my baby! is coming over at the same time to be part of the pregnancy & we want to make a go of it and try and get together. My ex hubby is very emotional, depressed, angry & going thru the grief process, he is very much in love with me still, i don't know what he will do. Is it wise to have my new love interest (our mutual friend, who is the father of my baby) over here at the same time my ex hubby is visiting in view of all has happened. DO YOU THINK IT IS SAFE TO DO SO, or should we wait till he is back in Aussie to start our new life?

2007-12-01 17:26:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married when I was only 17, Then I filed a divorced at 19. My divorce took almost two years and it was just final three days ago. I have dated around and have not found any femal that I care for as much as I did my ex-wife untill I met the girl I am with now. I want to get married to her and have a child with her though I have a wonderful son three year old son with my ex-wife. I love my girlfriend but we are young. I am about to be 22 and she is about to be 19. She has never been in a seriouse relationship before me. This girl is my everything other than my son who is my number one. We have only been together for about a half of a year but I feel so conected to her. She has a good head on her sholders and is a hard worker. I tend to attract psycho femals but this one is nothing like my past girlfriends and ex-wife. She is wonderful, beautiful and her and my son love eachother very much. So, do I ask her to marry me and set a date giving more time, try to marry now, or just wait?

2007-12-01 17:21:46 · 18 answers · asked by justin1jd 2

2007-12-01 17:09:35 · 17 answers · asked by little star 1

My husband of 7 years has cheated on me through the internet, took my vehicle three states away and met another woman. He lied to me, his own family and promised to 'never' do it again. I cannot trust him. He does not give me a reason to trust him and here we are three yrs later (we have 2 kids together) and he doesn't even try to mend the mistrust. He does not communicate well, if at all and then tells me I have "issues". He found a pair of shorts in his drawer, well I put them there, they are a pair of shorts from my oldest son's friend, I believe, and they have been here for 6+ months. My son has not had this friend over for a while and the kid is larger than my husband. My husband tries to "make things up" in his head, to give him a reason to blame me for everything. Anyway, do you all think I am just wise to cut my ties and move on to someone I can trust.

2007-12-01 16:56:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello I'm from Mexico and my husband is american we have diferent ways to cook an I nedd recipes of the american food, I know cook mush potatoes, but I need more I know mexican food, but my baby needs very good food and he can not eat every day tacos, tamales burritos, I do not want to loss my baby
THANKS

2007-12-01 16:47:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my ex-wife got devoiced 3 months ago and she has found a new boyfriend in that time period and is going to be moving in with him soon, And my problem is if I get this job I got interviewed for (laid off from last job) I will be only seeing the kids on the weekend which is very little but what I am worried about the most is that our kid (2 years old) will be seeing this new guy alot more then me and makes me worried that our daughter will starting see this new guy as a father more then me since he will be there more.. I really think its them to soon to live together but thats just me, Any advice you guys can give me to calm my nervousness

2007-12-01 16:38:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had a fling/relationship with a man who's 22. He's 12 years younger than me. I'm divorcing and i have 2 young children. He's completing his last year of college and comes from another state, but goes to school here. I ended up falling for him hard and scared him away. He ended up calling and saying he just wanted to be friends right now. At first we were still talking and texting, then just texting, and during the past week I have sent him like 8 messages and he is totally avoiding me now. I know that this probably wouldn't turn into something more, but it hurts to be ignored. I would rather him say "leave me alone *****" than to ignore me. I have decided to let him go and go on with my life, but i want to send him one last email letting him know that whatever the reason he's avoiding me, the door is always home to him for friendship etc. my dilemma is, should i let him know the door is open or is that desperate? How would you say it? Am I being too nice after him ignoring me? hel

2007-12-01 16:32:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has visitation rights 'which is great', but he is refusing to let me speak with my children on the phone 'when I have always let him speak to them on the phone'. Is this legal? Also, he refuses to communicate with me about them, when they are in his care. Is this legal also? What can I do about it, if it's not?

2007-12-01 16:24:30 · 9 answers · asked by bobthebuilder 1

please say your views.

2007-12-01 16:18:53 · 2 answers · asked by alan 1

What r some good sites that can hook u up w/ someone u have something in common with? I am divorced after 16 yrs and really want to meet the right person now...Any ideas!!!

2007-12-01 16:14:41 · 8 answers · asked by laurawith3 2

I was engaged and he chated on me. Now I need some advice. I bought a house last August. The house and all bills are in my name only. His (ex-fi's) dad did give us money to help with a downpayment, but he signed one of those gift forms, saying that it was a gift to me (FI never mentioned). The monthly payment is taken out of a joint account. (I think I am going to change this and have it taken out of a account that only I have). Does fi have any right to the house, because everything is only in my name? He thinks he does, I of course say no because his name is not on anything. I am not sure if anyone was ever in a situatioon like this. We are NOT married, and each of us made deposits into this joint account to pay all HH bills, as well as any bills FI had (his carpayment, student loans) Whle I kept a different account to pay my bills (CC, cell phone ect).

2007-12-01 16:07:50 · 10 answers · asked by almatters 2

so get this..im a young man who married at 19..im 25 and i have a high school diploma..in live in san antonio and im from baltimore where the school system sucks..i started computer school in bmore but moved here with wife and i got my class a cdl..i thought i wanted to drive trucks crosscountry but i dont wanna be gone away from home..now i owe 7grand to the truck school..im home because of a layoff and im starting a new job on monday making 600+ a wk..my wifes mad cause its not a trucker job but i need my cdl to work there..and im making what i would be if i drove over the road ...shes acting like shes mad..i dont know what to do..ideas of jobs that pay great and i get to stay home...i have a 7 yr old who loves me and hates for me to be gone..i dont have skills and i owe over 16grand in student loans..help..ideas plz

2007-12-01 16:02:21 · 13 answers · asked by b.moretee24 2

I mean, what are the chances of that?

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2007-12-01 16:01:26 · 10 answers · asked by GeminiVirgo1971 5

Me and my wife Valerie have been married for 4 years and we had been going out since 1995 we waited 8 years before getting married. now i have anger issues and they almost scared her off twice. It wasnt till the second time when i decided enough was enough and its time for a change checked myself into a mental help hospital and in my opinion that saved my relationship and got us married. but sometimes i cannot forgive myself for even having a temper around her. I want to be a better person but how? But it seems if somthing tries to knock our relationship down we just get right back up twice as strong and we agreed that there is no problem that cant be talked out and divorce is never ever an option unless one of us cheats and I just dont see that ever happining. I just hope i am being a good husband

2007-12-01 15:52:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok here is the deal, i love to make love to my husband but I am not getting any satisfaction at all. Maybe once in a while, how can I spice it up and how can I let him know?

2007-12-01 15:49:00 · 16 answers · asked by thegirl 2

Will starting with a clean slate, really make her feel differently? Any advice will be good. I am told that I need to give her, her space but I always want to be close. We had a great dinner the other day and after talking for an hour afterwards she say’s…”this is why I want a divorce, we are so good to each other when we are friends, we treat each other with respect. We have no burdens on our shoulders.” Of course, Im thinking, “I don’t remember turning off the married button, actually we still are married.” but that would have ruined the moment. I am lost and confused….please help...I know I screwed up, but can it be fixed in the future?? Any opinions on that? Looking for new responses...do I have any hope?

2007-12-01 15:39:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband, me and my kids live in another state from all our family.This is our first year out of state. For Christmas, every year we have been together (11) we have always gone to my mom and dad's house. His mom lives too far away to visit and his dad lives in the same state as my mom and dad. This year is no different for we are driving to be with family on christmas. His dad just sprung on us that he wants us to be with him Christmas Eve at a resort sort of place. I said, no way...i'm not spending Christmas Eve at a hotel and having my kids wake up on Christmas with no christmas tree or family there. My kids are VERY close to my mom and dad and doesn't really even know his dad or his dad's new wife. My husband is pretty upset about this but I feel like i'm doing what will make my kids the happiest. I told him we can see his dad the day after Christmas or that his dad is welcome to come to Christmas at my parents house. Am I being unresonable about this?

2007-12-01 15:36:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married and faithful for almost 6 years with a daughter of almost 4. The problem is that I dont love my wife anymore, in fact I dont think I ever was. We live in the same house but live almost entirely seperate lives. We have nothing in common. I have lost all of my friends because either she 'didnt like them' or because Ive been getting depressed and distancing myself. I will never break my promise I made on our wedding day (to death) and I WILL NOT leave my kid. What can I do.

2007-12-01 15:27:07 · 30 answers · asked by .hey 1

I have been married to the same man not 1x but 2x's. He cheated on me with my distant cuz and when we got a divor. they moved in together and had a child. I remarried him a few yrs. later. Since then he has cheated on my I know 2x's. Don't know if it involved sex or not. I don't think he's cheating now! However, for the last 1 1/2 yrs., the sex has gone from 2-3x's wkly to 1x a week. Never seconds. Only 1 round. I forgot to mention he is 16 yrs older than me. He will come home sometimes and not even say a word 2 me. Then the next day he may talk me 2 death. However, he does have funny ways!!
If I question him about something such as him calling his baby mama on the phone only when I'm not home, he catches an attitude. He thinks I'm just suppose 2 trust him, but he messed that part up! We never go anywhere 2gether like movies out 2 eat etc. I get tired of that. He will say he will do better, but don't.
I love him, but I'm tired of living like this. Am I being selffish or what?

2007-12-01 15:26:58 · 49 answers · asked by Slim 2

2007-12-01 15:23:47 · 13 answers · asked by Blondie 3

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and I'm just not happy anymore. He's a work alcoholic and even his son said he wants his "daddy back for christmas". To deal with the stresses of being a work alcoholic, he drinks and often times it too much. I understand a drink or 2 after work but not the whole bottle. His drinking isn't even the beginning, I'm just not happy with our relationship anymore. I think we've out grown eachother and I just don't feel the same connection we used to have. We talked about marriage and having a child together oneday in the future, but I just don't see that future anymore. His work has taken over his life and he thinks money is more important then being with me and his family...he wants to give us materialistic things but I think time with us is more important. I don't live with him and I really only see him on the weekends but even then he goes into the office. I'm just not happy anymore. What should I do?

2007-12-01 15:14:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

For example,
You get a ticket, you don't want your spouse to know so that you don't worry them. So you pay it in secret and never tell them. Another example is you get a low score on your test, you don't tell your parents about it fearing the consequences but you solve it on your own. So is hiding these things from these people the same as lying?

2007-12-01 15:03:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are really happy in our marriage. I think much of it has to do with the amount of time we spend together talking (lots) and (ahem...) the fact that we're in the sack quite a bit. How about you? What makes it work for you?

2007-12-01 14:59:02 · 12 answers · asked by Jennifer M 2

2007-12-01 14:55:00 · 20 answers · asked by kerim5 1

He drank alot when we first met and smoked weed but tried to stop for me and cut down alot. He proposed and then things went down hill. He began helping a male friend remodel his kitchen and for months and I hardly saw him. This is what makes me think he is gay. But I also found that he was smoking weed and drinking alot when with this friend. Then he bought an invest prop next door and rented it out to a family he knows. They are heavy drinkers and also smoke weed. He began going there every waking free minute possible and practically lives there! Even the other neighbors noticed he is never home! He doesn't do anything w/ me n doesn't ask what I want to do - he is always there. He also doesn't care about HIS home. I also found he's texting that 'male friend' again. NO-no wed plans! I want to know is it that he is addicted to drink n weed or that he never wanted to get married in the first place or could he really be gay since he text messages that guy and never texts me? Suggestions!

2007-12-01 14:53:33 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-01 14:52:49 · 3 answers · asked by Heather B 4

Im 19 hes 21 and 3 times money came up unaccounted for,
he hardly calls me for his lunch break, says " i take naps for my lunch break" but twice i suprised him for lunch and he was in a female co workers car she like 40 (but still a cat is a cat probably has more tricks)
last yr got an std and said " the doctor mis diagnose u cause i dont have it" and i am a faithful wife
he lied about going to a strip club until i caught him in a lie
this yr he tried a new trick (intimacy)

I just need to know cause i still bring up "old" things and sometimes my gut says he is sometimes my gut says no
i want to find out how to bust him
oh yeah he has this new friend who cheats on his wife and refuses to stop hangin around him even though i insisted

2007-12-01 14:40:49 · 17 answers · asked by proudmama 2

my wife has this idea that not talking to me is suposed to make me mad..when i ignore her being mad..she gets madder..when i ask whats wrong she either doesnt wanna talk or makes it worse and says something dumb about something that i did that she didnt like but i didnt intentionally do..and even when im not wrong and she thinks i should appologize and i do..she calls the apology b.s and its a basic smack in the face..so when i dont apologize she wonders why..at this very second shes down stairs braiding hair and im ignoring her cause she is acting weird..every few minutes shes nice then shes mean..she freakn nuts...earlier she was all nice i came back from the store an she was given me dirty looks..i wanna communicate and talk..she thinks slamming doors and ignoring me is the way to get my attention but we have been married 5 yrs..that crap doesnt phase me anymore..what the hecks her prob??

2007-12-01 14:37:27 · 13 answers · asked by b.moretee24 2

Married for 20yrs , separated off and on because I still loved him and hoped we were apart long enough to recapture what we lost but now divorced I cannot seem to stop thinking about what he is doing or sending him a text hello. Friendly divorce but I want a sure way to be friendly still but disappear.. I feel I am his and my comfort zone buffer. HELP!!!! I need ideas like yesterday

2007-12-01 14:32:14 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3