My husband of 7 years has cheated on me through the internet, took my vehicle three states away and met another woman. He lied to me, his own family and promised to 'never' do it again. I cannot trust him. He does not give me a reason to trust him and here we are three yrs later (we have 2 kids together) and he doesn't even try to mend the mistrust. He does not communicate well, if at all and then tells me I have "issues". He found a pair of shorts in his drawer, well I put them there, they are a pair of shorts from my oldest son's friend, I believe, and they have been here for 6+ months. My son has not had this friend over for a while and the kid is larger than my husband. My husband tries to "make things up" in his head, to give him a reason to blame me for everything. Anyway, do you all think I am just wise to cut my ties and move on to someone I can trust.
2007-12-01 16:56:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, this is messed up.... you both have breached your vows to love, honor and cherish.......if you don't want to go visit a counselor that could help you guys sort all this out...then I would say you've got little left......
??why would you want to just "move on to someone I can trust" after all this? Is there someone waiting in the background that causes you to want to "cut your ties"??
2007-12-01 17:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by LIzzz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I feel that you should definitely give it your all before moving on but if you feel you have already done so then do what is best for you and your children. You didn't elaborate on the shorts so I am not sure if you put the shorts in your husbands drawer since the kid hasn't been back and you thought he could get use out of them or not but I could see how a man would take that and be upset. Also look into some marital counseling, or even some one on one for you to sort out your thoughts. Good luck and wait for an answer from God.
2007-12-02 01:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are all over the place...what do shorts have to do with anything?
Only you know whether you should stay and try to work things out or move on...no one here can make that decision for you.
If you and your husband have a lot of issues, seek professional counseling. If he refuses to go, go by yourself. You sound as if you need help in sorting out your feelings.
I do know you shouldn't immediately move on to someone else. Resolve these issues first.
2007-12-02 01:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer, you should have left 3 yrs ago. The reason he doesn't treat you well is because he doesn't have to. You gave him permission to walk all over you and kick you around emotionally, when you took him back!! The love and respect he once had for you has been gone for several years now, or else he would have never cheated on you.
You have already wasted 3 yrs, the question is, "are you willing to waste any more?"
2007-12-02 01:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Lina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though there is no trust at all between the two of you. Why stay together? If he isn't busting his butt to win back your trust, that is a huge red flag. Seek counseling if you really want to try to make it work, or just split. You aren't doing your kids a favor by staying together, they will pick up on more than you can imagine! Trust me!
2007-12-02 01:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised you haven't cut your loses already. Serial cheaters never change. Plus, the disrespect...............you can't live with that, can you?
2007-12-02 10:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop the drama!!!
at least separate and each of you get your heads on straight. then take it from there.
2007-12-02 01:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋