My husband and I are really happy in our marriage. I think much of it has to do with the amount of time we spend together talking (lots) and (ahem...) the fact that we're in the sack quite a bit. How about you? What makes it work for you?
2007-12-01 14:59:02 · 12 answers · asked by Jennifer M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I could write a long treatise on this subject, but here is a succinct, one word answer. unselfishness. Put the needs of your spouse first. As both of you do that for each other, guess what happens? Your needs are in fact met; just by the other spouse.
2007-12-02 04:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of things:
-We pray together a lot! We believe that God is the third partner in our marriage. If we don't have Him, we ain't workin' out!
-We talk a lot.
-We try to resolve our differences quietly...our kids yell "STOP FIGHTING" if we raise our voices! And it's really hard to argue in a whisper!
-We talk some more.
-We kiss, cuddle, snuggle, tickle, smooch, (ahem...)
-We tell each other funny things.
-We say "I love you" every day.
-As I have started putting him first (okay, second behind God!) in my life, he has reciprocated by treating me like a queen.
----He was divorced when I met him. And we have lived with the idea that divorce is just not an option for us. Well, we couldn't afford it anyhow! :) We have made sacrifices for each other, for our marriage and they have worked...we have been through a lot and we love each other more than ever.
This was a great question!
2007-12-01 18:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are. I've never married and have no children. I have a wonderful, fulfilling career, I live in a beautiful area with lots of outdoor activities year round, and I have great friends I love to spend time with. I enjoy my own company and not having to be responsible for anyone but myself. Plus, all my money goes to whatever I want to buy. I don't have to consult anyone else or worry about paying for school, braces, etc. It's a personal choice, and many people choose differently and are happy. You just have to figure out what's best for you.
2016-04-07 02:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the biggest thing is that we try to make each other laugh. If I can make my hubby laugh, my whole world lights up. To me, it's just as magical each and every time my husband laughs as it was when our babies laughed for the first time.
Our religious beliefs also help quite a bit. We pray and study scripture together and attend various worship services together.
2007-12-01 18:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by gumby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication, love, respect, spending a lot of time together, sharing activities and interests (running, biking, lifting weights), and always remembering that we HAVE to work through our problems because divorce is NOT an option.
2007-12-01 15:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by KitKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, laughter, and lots of compromise. After 18 years you learn to choose your battles. And never lose sight of the fact that no matter how bad things are, they could ALWAYS be worse.
2007-12-01 15:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Putting each other first, being fair, spending time together, having time to ourselves, doing the things we want to do together and as individuals and keeping our money separate!
2007-12-01 15:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by KC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spending time together, honesty even when it's inconvenient/unpleasant, regular sex, shared goals for the future, patience, respect and communication, communication COMMUNICATION.
Being best friends helps too ;)
2007-12-01 15:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its really not that hard....just decide to make it work. Unless one of you is a whack job, if you both decide to make it work you will. Whatever you are going through other couples have survived worse.
2007-12-01 15:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love each other understand communicate and trust
2007-12-01 15:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋