We ended up having sex, i had a natural attraction to this guy over the past few months, he is a friend of both my ex-husband & I. Next month i find out i am pregnant, i have always wanted another child i have one already to my ex Husband. I have decided to keep the baby. This all happened whilst we were on holiday in Australia and he and my ex hubby are over there, however my husband is coming back home to see our child for Xmas & the father of my baby! is coming over at the same time to be part of the pregnancy & we want to make a go of it and try and get together. My ex hubby is very emotional, depressed, angry & going thru the grief process, he is very much in love with me still, i don't know what he will do. Is it wise to have my new love interest (our mutual friend, who is the father of my baby) over here at the same time my ex hubby is visiting in view of all has happened. DO YOU THINK IT IS SAFE TO DO SO, or should we wait till he is back in Aussie to start our new life?
2007-12-01 17:26:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go for it rip his heart out and stamp on it right there you heartless b!tch i hope you get whats coming to you
2007-12-01 17:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
Bad idea. First off, you said he is still in love with you. You have got to respect that. For some it is not easy to let go. I imagine, you probably were either interested in this other friend or hooked up before your last marriage was over. Sorry, but that is what typically happens in line 99% of these deals. And even so, it doesn't sound like you and he waited long anyway according to your info. What kind of friend is he. He should have known his friends wife/x wife is a no no, at least until he has squared it away with him. So I would be sensitive with your ex. I doubt he will take it well. And he shouldn't either. Congrats on the new, child. Just wish you had given it a little more time though.
2007-12-01 17:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by amber s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow your a mixed up puppy. What the hell were you thinking. First your husband friend as if there arn't enough men out there you had to chose his friend. And as far as the other guy some friend he was to your husband you deserve each other.
Yes of course your husband will feel sick to his stomach its hard enough when a marriage breaks up but to screw his friend then even have a baby. HELLO birth control. You must be a country bumpkin. What a sad mess you are in.
and to answer your question you should not have your new boyfriend there with you while your ex is there You already hurt him enough why not put the final nail in the coffin you nit witt.
2007-12-01 17:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that your ex might try to start something and you may need back up then by all means have him there, but preferably not hanging out with you. If you feel safe around your ex, then it might be best to have your new man out of sight while he is visiting with your child. There really isn't any need for you to rub the situation in his face, he will have to gradually become used to it and adjust. For now though, just try to be thoughtful of his feelings. At the same time, make sure this won't make your friend feel alienated. Congratulations on your pregnancy and I wish you the best of luck!
2007-12-01 17:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by lkn4trth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you joking? You mean you don't know the difference between right and wrong here? You say you're ex is emotional, depressed, angry and going through grief and you want to throw all of this stuff up right under his nose?
2007-12-02 01:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For crying use the shoulder of the abandoned husband. For a relationship use the mutual male friend. That is called logic.
2007-12-02 00:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by eematters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should probably ask yourself is what kind of morals and standards do you want to raise these children with? If you actually have to ASK if it is wise to have two people you have slept with and made children with in the same arena while one is still in tremedous pain, I really question your judgement. For the sake of your husbands well being and the well being your children will have because of it, learn to have some compassion and sensitivity.
2007-12-01 17:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think you already have the right idea,for this little web is going to take some carefull untangleing,and i think for the moment distance is the best option,until you can plan how and when,you never know you may have luck on your side and your ex meets another woman,for that would make things easier,take care and good luck.
2007-12-01 17:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by fozz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you have to ask that question should alarm you. Are you scared of your ex? You might want to try all of you meeting at a neutral place, such as a restruant first to break the ice.
2007-12-01 17:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by bobthebuilder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tricky one, since eventually all of you will probably have to stand being in the same room together, with kids and all. but being that you are intelligent enough to know that your ex is in the grieving process, be considerate enough to allow him a relatively peaceful holiday with his child before you start more drama in his life.
2007-12-01 17:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you still loved your ex husband loads and he left you, got another woman pregnant (a friend you know) and brought her with him to see your child when you are there?
Pretty damn mean and cruel!
2007-12-01 20:29:44 · answer #11 · answered by Carlton J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋