problem in bed with hubby?

Question

ok here is the deal, i love to make love to my husband but I am not getting any satisfaction at all. Maybe once in a while, how can I spice it up and how can I let him know?

Answer 1

Here is the problem most woman do not have orgasm by penetration alone I'm not a lady but I'm educated enough to know that most woman need clitoral stimulation to get to there orgasm level and also helps to achieve multiple orgasms. If he is usually the one in charge switch drivers seats. It is common knowledge most ladies like to have the power or like to dominate somewhat in sex take control. If you straddle him your in control i mean infinite control for example how deep he goes in, how fast you ride him, or how slow, and you can also try different things like swaying in the hips, arching your back, and while myour doing all that you can be grinding your clitoris on his pubic bone or you could be using a small finger like massager. One other great benefit for both of you if he is a breast guy he can suck away while your riding him and of course we all know what happens when you stimulate the nipples and the breast itself. You also surprise him one night and give him some anal action if that had interested you or just wanting to experiment. It does not mean he is gay if he enjoys it because really it is the tightness of the hole around his Johnson that will make him scream in pleasure use lots of lube.

PLUS MOST COUPLE'S FORGET THIS ONE OF THE BEST POSITIONS AND ONE THAT MEN LOVE AND WOMAN TOO IF THEY ENJOY DOING IT "69".

Some people feel dressing up helps too like the DR. and the nurse or the rich man and the french maid, or let me see the nerd and the cheerleader, there are so many have fun.
Really sexual experimenting is a great opportunity in marriage the same old stuff becomes boring and routine.

God Bless and Best Wishes.

If these suggestions do not help find a sex therapist or a marriage counsellor. PLz. do not let bad sex destroy your marriage talk to him.

One final thing most men I know aim to please so if your man is not doing it time to talk he will be happy that you told him.
Another thing if certain things you know about yourself that drive you nuts he doesn't know fill him in honey if we know more about what triggers joy joy feelings the more we will hit them.

If you feel something good when he is doing something tell him so he can put it to memory.!

Remember not every man is a skilled lover some need to be taught how be his teacher skill him on what makes you tick!.


Really your married it is not a sin to go wild with your spouse.

Answer 2

I see all of these answers about toys and lotions....that is all fine.

The true answer to your question is that only you know that answer.

Sexual satisfaction is different for everyone and only you know what will satisfy you. True sexual satisfaction is much more about the mind than about the body. Let your mind go to those places that make you tremble inside and satisfaction will come.

As far as letting him know, it depends on the type of person he is. If he is open minded about sex, just come out and tell him what you want. If he is uptight about things, go slow, don't scare him or ask him to do things he is not comfortable with.

Even if he never gets to the place you would like him to be, you can bring yourself much more satisfaction than you have now by simply using your mind to take you there. Remember, he will never know what you are truly thinking about while having sex and it IS ok to fantasize about what ever you need to.

Answer 3

Alright if he isn't lasting long enough that's OK, just let him get past the first one and than go for a round two with him the second go around he will last a lot longer.

If that's not the problem you need to do what some of the other people said and try some new stuff, and let him know what you want, without crushing his ego. That's really important.

Answer 4

If you mean you just aren't having the big "O", then you need to try different techniques. Find out what works when you are alone then teach your husband what you like...try anything that might spice things up, role play, sex toys, porn, talking about fantasies etc....women often have problems with the missionary position as penetration alone is not enough stimulation, so try others. If he is a normal guy, he will love all the novelty and "naughty" stuff.

Answer 5

I don't want to assume how you do or do not communicate, but that is the key. If you're both assuming this is what a man/woman wants then you're both hurting yourselves. You're married, so talk about it. Bring it up in bed and don't say what you don't like, just mention what you do like or would like him to do in the future. Ask him if he could do something as a favor to you. You can even have foreplay by guiding his hand and so forth (not trying to be too graphic, I've counseled on this in ministry). Relax and open up to each other, you're married, have fun.

Answer 6

Are you trying any of the lotions that cause sensations of tingling or anything like that? There are so many on the market today, you can go to a good sex store and buy a small bottle, and try that.
If it is due to him not lasting long enough, you can try a cock ring on him, they can make the erection last longer..

Answer 7

buy toys and get a book on all the positions and try a few a night make it fun ..relax have a few drinks play truth are dare the dirty way and when he hints the spot for you let him know so he can do it again let him know the way you like it!!!

Answer 8

You don't need all the gadgets and lotions. You just need to communicate with your husband and let him know what you want. Deep down, men have an innate tendency to enjoy pleasing more than being pleased. Don't be ashamed to tell him. He wants to enjoy sex too.

Answer 9

try different possitions or just tie him up and torcher him ,he deserves it if he doesn't please you you will get plessure from torchering him like he does you sex should be great all the time
relax it gets worse the longer your married this is just the begining but you can try to dress and smell dufferenmtly aND MABE AROUSE HIM IN DIFFERENT WAYS,SPICE IT UP TALK ABOUT IT ON THE PHONE DURING THE DAY AND SEE IF THE NIGHT IS BETTER.

Answer 10

If you don't know what you want and need how do you expect him to meet your unknown needs. Figure out what you like or want then communicate those needs to him. It sound like it's your problem not his!