My husband has visitation rights 'which is great', but he is refusing to let me speak with my children on the phone 'when I have always let him speak to them on the phone'. Is this legal? Also, he refuses to communicate with me about them, when they are in his care. Is this legal also? What can I do about it, if it's not?
2007-12-01 16:24:30 · 9 answers · asked by bobthebuilder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's being really petty and the kids are picking up the tab for his issues. There is no reason to deny you reasonable contact (once a day is reasonable). If you are calling 10 times a day then it is a different subject. That said the courts really hate dealing with this kind of stuff and will think you are being petty if you push it, plus he will just lie anyways ans say you are upsetting his house or calling too much or the kids don't want to talk to you or whatever. If the divorce is fresh maybe give it some time. Keep a log and if something bad happens, like one of the kids needs medical treatment and he doesn't call you for two days (god forbid) then you can push it.
2007-12-01 16:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they old enough to have a cell phone? Can they tell you about what happened while at dads? My oldest has a cell phone that I pay for and will call me from dads at least once during the weekend to let me know they all are fine or if there is a problem I need to be aware of. There are reasons for this I won't go into now, but it is necessary that they be able to contact me.
2007-12-01 16:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do u have this written in your decree that he must make the kids available for u to talk to? I hate when ur the complient one and he's not. How old r the kids? Do any have special needs that u need to be updated with? Next time they come home u might work out a plan and present this to him before he gets them again. If he doesn't comply, you can go to court. Just document everything. Email if u can and keep copies
2007-12-01 16:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by laurawith3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to call your lawyer and ask. This sounds nuts your the mother not only that your darn right you want to check on your c hildren and ask them if they are okay.
You don't know if he's hitting them or what he's doing you are the parent here and protecting your children if you are worried about his past actions yes you indeed check on them and if he doesn't like that you tell him tough beans this is the way it is if you want to see the children. They need to be your first priority here specially if somethings happened between them before. I know cause I come from an abusive back ground and when i had to visit my father at odd times he would flair up and beat my brother up and throw me up against the wall. So darn right you want your mother to call and check in on you.
2007-12-01 18:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is not in the divorce agreement he doesn't have to do anything. Mind you it is common courtesy to let you speak to them.
We don't like it when my step kids talk often to their mom & step dad when they are with us for the summer because they become very upset afterwards. Their mom tells them about all the fun stuff they are missing and the kids end up in tears for hours afterwards. So maybe your kids are having the same ort of reaction when you call. Ask him what the reaction is and see if you can resolve this peacefully.
2007-12-01 16:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by speranzacampbell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's really hard to deal with. In all honestly, you'll probably have to go to court if you really want this dealt with. If he's not abusing the kids, and they seem to have a good time with him, then just let it slide (especially if he doesn't have them for long stretches of time). Also, explain to your kids that you love them every single day, even if you don't get to talk to them when they're at their dad's.
Maybe even make a journal for them where you write things in it every day they're gone... that they can read when they get home.
Best of luck to you.
2007-12-01 16:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're doing this to your self. tell your daughter to get her FATASS domicile and end being this style of deadbeat mom! it isn't your duty to guard her mistakes. this is unhappy to assert yet her little ones are patently undesirable and there are a good number of human beings everywhere in the planet who're desirous to undertake. heavily, your tale is sickening me. and also you of route did a crap pastime of being a mom for your toddlers, because your man or woman daughter is rebelling antagonistic to you and her personal little ones this is PATHETIC.
2016-10-25 07:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a good lawyer, because I think sooner or later you are going to need one.
2007-12-01 17:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the kids will be home soon, why create more problems.
if he wants to be a fool, let him
2007-12-01 16:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋