What r some good sites that can hook u up w/ someone u have something in common with? I am divorced after 16 yrs and really want to meet the right person now...Any ideas!!!
2007-12-01 16:14:41 · 8 answers · asked by laurawith3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, online dating does work. There are honest, educated, well-intentioned men at dating sites, just be aware that there are also men who are out to use you, and they will not be honest about themselves or their goals. My bgf just got engaged after dating her online guy for a year (yahoopersonals). I recently met a man on myspace and we are chatting and he seems very interesting...so who knows. There are lots of personal sites, the well known ones have more members...a few free ones exist also..plenty of fish... for example.
Stay within about a 50 mile radius of your location, and go slowly. Check out anyone you meet as much as possible, and chat or IM a while before you meet.
Don't assume that you have to meet everyone you correspond with in person. If they just don't hit the right "note" tell them you aren't interested. When you do want to meet someone f2f then make it a meeting in a public place during the daytime. Be sure to tell a friend where you are going and with whom.
Have a back-up plan. Tell your friend to call your cell about 20 minutes into the date...if you are leary of the man you are with or just not interested, make your excuses and leave. If things are going well sign off the phone call and continue the date. Don't tell a prespective date where you work or live until you have met a couple of times and are more sure of him.
2007-12-01 16:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding a good site is always tricky. There are a few things I know you should look for:
Find out what you have to do to check out profiles of others. If you can't at least see that there are indeed people with about the same location and age range as you for free, it's not worth bothering to go to the site at all. If you have to post a profile of your own just to look, this too is a major tip off, because chances are a lot of the people you see posted a profile (for free) just to see what was out there, weren't satisfied, and left.
Figure out about payment. If they automatically re-subscribe you, chances are you'll get billed for several months of service you didn't need after you meet someone or give up on the site.
Ask about ways to report abuse. Some of these sites attract real low lifes. Bad matches will happen, the only way to ensure a good dating site is to find a way to keep the creeps from coming back. Look especially for feedback from people who have already dated these folks.
Yahoo personals seems to have a decent number of people without too much hassle needed to check out a few of them at least. Other sites are pretty cheesy and desperate. There's even a few I couldn't remove my (free) profile from.
A friend of mine was rather fond of one they had as part of the rotten tomatoes website (it's for movie reviews.) He says it lets you check people out, and you don't have to pay until you send them a message.
Some of my lady friends seem really excited about Eharmony.com, but I believe it's one of the places I have a (free) profile stuck up on, so keep that in mind, and once you find someone, at least write that you're no longer looking in your profile.
Of course, you should also keep in mind when searching through personals of any kind that the people who put in the information are usually the guys that are looking for you. They don't need to be exactly honest. A lot of them may have unsavory pasts, or odd personal habits that make it hard for them to pick up ladies in the usual way.
Check and double check is the rule of the game. Some of these guys may really be socially awkward, or new men, and great matches for you. Some of them are professional scam artists out to suck you dry. There's plenty of fish in the sea, so if you feel like you're being toyed with, don't hesitate to cut and run.
2007-12-01 16:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recently we are no longer on the ice-age and technology speed's up preety much intact. There, really, are a broad number of sides today offering various connections, ranging from just looking around, dating and marraiges. If you want a free registration form, and where you can choose from and start slow, hi5 I think is the best. Rather than that try lovehappens, eharmony, ghotokvai, muslimmatrinomy, shaddi.com.
2007-12-01 16:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Fariha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you looking for a relationship/marriage or are you looking to "hook up"?
I'm going to assume it's a relationship, and if that's the case, I'd go with match.com or eharmony. Of course there are lots of dating sites that are based on religious preference or even weight. Just google around and you're bound to find something that fits your criteria.
Also, you should pay for a monthly membership. The "free" one's are full of smarmy folk. You get what you pay for.
2007-12-01 16:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
met my fiance on singlesnet.com. He was actually my first date from the online thing and i was his first date as well. I suggest putting up not just one or two pics, but more like 5. Have ones that show your personality and that are fairly recent. (within 6 months or so.)
It doesn't really matter in my opinion which site you go to. It is all about talking to guys that profiles has similar things/tastes/interests in them. Me and my fiance both actually had two different profiles. I had one on singlesnet and another on Yahoo's personals site. he had a second one on match.com. We both had just started about 3 weeks prior to meeting.
good luck!
2007-12-01 16:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's Match.com, yahoo personals for a few. My only advice is to keep your head screwed on tight! We all have been through alot during marriages/divorces. Be prepared to hear the same story over and over!!! LOL
2007-12-01 16:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by michael w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met this wonderful guy online and it turned out to be real good until he had to be shipped ove seas. We are still friends to this day. I talk to him all the time.
I met him on blackplanet and I have met other guys on myspace and some have turned out to be good people. But I have to say I met my husband in highschool and we have been married for three years. Good Luck!
2007-12-01 16:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i prefer using jason_hill2008 on yahoo IM but thats just me lol
2007-12-01 16:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋