marriage issue..all plz answer..need ideas?

Question

so get this..im a young man who married at 19..im 25 and i have a high school diploma..in live in san antonio and im from baltimore where the school system sucks..i started computer school in bmore but moved here with wife and i got my class a cdl..i thought i wanted to drive trucks crosscountry but i dont wanna be gone away from home..now i owe 7grand to the truck school..im home because of a layoff and im starting a new job on monday making 600+ a wk..my wifes mad cause its not a trucker job but i need my cdl to work there..and im making what i would be if i drove over the road ...shes acting like shes mad..i dont know what to do..ideas of jobs that pay great and i get to stay home...i have a 7 yr old who loves me and hates for me to be gone..i dont have skills and i owe over 16grand in student loans..help..ideas plz

Answer 1

You have left a lot out of this post, but I will offer what I can. First, it could be that your wife sees that you invested this money to get you the career of "OTR" driving (as you seemed to want it), and now she sees you not following through on it, which makes her worry about how long you will be at this current job. I don't know your work history, only you can tell if this might be true. But you need to talk to her, and don't be defensive as you listen to what she has to say. That is sometimes tough, but if you are a man, then you have to have the talk without reacting like a jerk. I have faith in you to be able to do that.

I agree that your being home should be better, providing that you are a good father who helps around the house to make it livable. If you sit around the house, don't discipline your son, and have a bad track record of changing jobs constantly, then you have to own up to it. But most importantly, you have to be the father that your son needs: one who owns up to his responsibilities and puts the needs of his family and wife before his own. This means living within your means, paying off your bills quickly, and having a plan where your family's long term viability overcome the "but I want it now" mentality which culture seems to induce. This will teach your son to be a good man better than anything else.

Best of luck.

Dr.G

Answer 2

No matter what you do, it is going to be tough at first. You can not expect anyone to pay well for someone without skills. You are going to have to start at the bottom and work your way up.

Take a good look at your local economy and job market. See if you can figure out what the hot (as in well paying and in demand) jobs will be in the next 5, 10 and 15 years. Then look to see which of those interest you and start working your way towards that line of work.

The most important thing you can do is be real about the local job market now and in the future. Choose wisely now and things well be great in the future.

Answer 3

Life is an challenge, you will get threw this. Your wife is mad now because you guys owe allot of money but both of you can sit down and make a plan and tell her how you truly feel about the situation and maybe she might be understanding. But for now, their are allot of state jobs and city jobs that don't require a degree try those. Otherwise start your job and start saving little bit at a time and start paying off some of your debts also.

Answer 4

I can't give you a definite answer because I lived together with the mother of my children for 2 years before marriage, and did not spend a lot of time with wife #1, and both crashed and burned. I can say thank God I didn't marry the current fiancee' right away, because I've lived with her 9 months and she's regressed to the point where we're just in the same house as friends.

Answer 5

Congratulation for your success and perhaps they best thing you can do is have your own operated vehicle or look up for employer in your area at indeed.com, There are awesome CDL jobs with great pay in your area and you will at at home everyday or four days a week. or become and in depended contractor and make as much money as you can driving trucks

Answer 6

I'm sure she's upset because you could have gotten that job before you spent 16k in student loans... I'd be mad too! You're probably just going to have to prove to her that you can take care of your portion of your living expenses with this job. I'm not sure that there is much else that you could do, except talk to her and understand that she has a logical reason for being upset.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Sounds like she was looking forward to your being gone for a while at a time. Maybe you really need to talk to your wife and find out why she is really mad at you. It sounds a little funny that she would be mad because you have a job closer to home.

Food for thought!

Answer 8

You need to talk with a financial or career counselor perhaps at a school, bank, or another agency near you. Sometimes financial concerns make compromises necessary especially when you are in debt or just starting a new career. You may need to work out a budget and spending goals etc.

Answer 9

To me family is more important than money. I'm glad u are choosing to stay home more with your kid. No job is worth being away from family, especially when kids are that young. I have 3 young children and I wouldn't do anything that would keep apart from them for any length of time.

Answer 10

You need to sit down and discuss this with your wife. Let her know that this job is going to pay the bills until you figure something else out. Find out if she really is mad about the job or something else.