2007-12-01 17:09:35 · 17 answers · asked by little star 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be honest with your wife. Tell her you're still in love with the other woman. It is unfair to your wife that you frauded her when you married her---that is you made her believe that SHE was the only one when if fact you were still in love. You can correct this problem by talking with her and seeing if an attorney will try to get your marriage annulled due to fraud. That way, your wife can find someone who truly loves her and you can do whatever it is that you want, too.
2007-12-02 02:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, well, I never used to believe that a person can love to at the same time, but I know I do, and will be having to face choosing soon.You really didn't give enough information. I do not know if you love your husband. The one you say u truly love..where is he? Do you see him? Does he know how you feel? Or has he moved on? Did he get married?There are a lot of factors in this.If he( the one you truly love) loves you too, then I guess it is time to really sort this out. I wish you all the best.
2007-12-01 17:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rev.Hoffman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will lead to nothing but trouble. You need to find ways to focus on the one who truly loves you (the one who married you) and I really suggest that you let your spouse know about the feelings you are having for someone else. I am sure you think it sounds crazy but the one you married may be willing to do some other things to help you heal (give them the chance to listen). I hope you make the right decision and everthing works out for you and your spouse.
2007-12-01 17:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well marriage is a very big thing. If you find yourself thinking and feeling for someone else, obviously thats not good. You either need to let those feelings go and put it behind you. Or you need to tell your partner whats going on. You need to be honest. Because maybe she/he could help you overcome what your feeling and maybe they understand what your feeling because they had feelings for someone once before too. So honesty is best. Just make sure you don't do anything physical with the person your thinking about. Don't make things more confusing than they already are. You know.
2007-12-01 17:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get "un" married. Granted, that doesn't mean go rush off to be with that other true love. For love to trully workout between two people they need to be on similiar maturity levels. That's right MATURITY levels, not smiliar IMMATURITY levels. Marrying someone you don't love is a sign of immaturity. Not the end of the world, you've got a whole life ahead of you to work on growing up.
2007-12-01 17:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you shouldn't have gotten married. It's a bit late now. Learn to love the person you're married to. It's unfair to them for you to feel this way about someone else.
2007-12-01 17:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters I'm sure you must feel like you're living a lie and got married for the wrong reasons. You are the only one who can figure this out and decide what you want.
2007-12-02 00:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, staying married is a choice you make happy or not. If you're not happy in your marriage, get out of it. If you are happy, have some closure on that past love of yours and move on. For all you know, you're the only one making problems for yourself.
2007-12-01 17:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you should try to get over the other person. Yes, this may be difficult (you're probably thinking 'easier said then done'), but you owe it to your partner and to yourself to be 100% in the marriage. Besides, even if you ended up in a relationship with that other person, it may not have worked out.
2007-12-01 17:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then quit wasting both yours and your spouse's lives and be with the one you want.
Life is too short to waste it on lies, being unhappy or living a lie.
But it's also too short to be selfish.. something you are doing from preventing your spouse from finding someone to love and cherish them for as long as they live, something that YOU made a vow to do.
Do it soon! Good luck!
2007-12-01 17:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by Omar J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋