Marriage & Divorce - 23 October 2007

I am married to a wonderful man who is a wonderful father to our new baby girl and i have absolutely no interest in any other man...so here is my problem...i have an ex-boyfriend from 4 years ago who has landed himself in prison he has been writing me letters and sending me cards (they have been sent to my mothers house because that is where i lived the last time we talked) i want to write him back and let him know that i am married with a family now and that i do not think it is appropriate for me to correspond with him because i have moved on (and i did not think my husband would mind because i do not intend to keep in contact) but when i told my husband about wanting to do this he forbid me, saying he does not want me to talk to him at all...i think it is cruel to let my ex continue writing me and think that i am ignoring him (we had a very close relationship), so should i just write my ex-boyfriend and not let my husband know that i did it??? any advice would be much appreciated...

2007-10-23 06:12:59 · 12 answers · asked by Savannah's Mommy! 4

my ex-wife and i divorced several months ago. we have gotton back together a couple of times and split up. i have lied to her and she has broke up with me for no reason at times she said. we are split up now since saturday because i woke up saturday and was grumpy. i have begged her back and she says no or nothing at all. i have sent roses. i love her alot. and i don't doubt her love for me. i really want her back. how can i get her back.

2007-10-23 06:12:23 · 8 answers · asked by easy 1

In serious relationship or in marriage.. During sexual intercourse do you think the boy/husband should ask for permission to finish inside .....


I think he should ask if its ok.... birth control sometime slips up...... What about if the she is not ready to be a mother...

2007-10-23 06:12:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been happily married now for 8 years,My husband and I have a very active sex life.The other night we were talking and my husband asked me if I would consider going to a swingers party.I have never thought about sleeping with another person since we have been married.I know he is very curious about the lifestyle,he said that if I said no that would be the end of the subject and he wouldnt ask me again.The thing is I am not sure what to do.I am a little curious about it but just dont think I could sleep with another man.And if I say no will he go behind my back.

2007-10-23 06:10:47 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-23 06:09:57 · 13 answers · asked by heyjude 4

2007-10-23 06:09:28 · 21 answers · asked by juv 1

When I moved in this townhouse he was in jail so it is just me and my to kids on the lease. I am a good tenant always pay on time etc. How do I ask my landlord to add him to the lease professionally with out having any problems or having to move somewhere else? When I moved in I told them we were seperated because of his alcoholism that put him where he is at. I dont think they know he is in jail though. Help advice please?

2007-10-23 06:00:29 · 12 answers · asked by jodi d 2

I have been married for a long time when the big announcement came that he was done. Of course I wish things would have been different but he was abusive and I need to move on with my life. Not necessarily with a new man but at least past him. It hurts so much and I started out of course wanting to see him and talk to him as much as I can. He does disrespect me and plays games and still wants to control me and my life so I know I have to get over this. How can I be sure that my heart has moved on and I am REALLY ready to go on with a new great life?

2007-10-23 05:58:35 · 9 answers · asked by just me 1

she helped in the garden while my wife was watching tv. Both of us got pretty messy because it rained recently, and we both needed a shower.

I think my wife is overreacting to the dirt we tracked into the house. Your thoughts?

2007-10-23 05:57:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm just curious, why a lot of woman think that the father supposes to provide 100% for the kids, I always thought it’s 50/50? I see a lot of complains that " Daddy" doesn’t want to provide...But what about the "Mama" or she just the baby-factory... Everything is the man responsibility... I think it's wrong... U want it, U got it, now handle it…What are U think?

2007-10-23 05:53:05 · 16 answers · asked by Tatyana K 2

I work the graveyard shift and my wife does not work. I am forced to work this shift though I like it. When I get home at 7 or 8 AM she almost everyday wakes me up by nagging or putting our son on me to take care of him after only 5 or 6 hours of sleep. Then she says that she doesn't get good sleep. Is what she does to me right or wrong, keeping in mind she has no logical reason to do it?

2007-10-23 05:49:58 · 22 answers · asked by Kevin M 2

porch swing that she bought on Sunday. She couldn't wait for me to get home and asked her to help her put it together.

Should I swing with both of them?

:)

2007-10-23 05:49:17 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

met the girl and the guy and joked about doing it while the girl complained about what the guy wouldnt do, i admitted that i would or thought about it.

she told me if i was serious that i should present it to the guy, what should i do if the opportunity presents itself.

and i already see that jealousy is an issue for the other guy....

2007-10-23 05:44:26 · 16 answers · asked by badbitty101 2

in the beauty salon

2007-10-23 05:42:59 · 26 answers · asked by jessemaeholley 1

how did you get over this, or accept this, and move on?

2007-10-23 05:19:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

i hound out my mate a few months ago was texting and call yes you quess it another guy. I found out from her cell bill. i confronted her about this and she lied about it, and then a few months later said "it was nothing serious" but by judging her cell bill it looks bad. they talked 1100 min and 500 text's. Nothing serious? She told me they were "just friends" and i said friends dont do this.. Then not long ago she cleared the air and said that she just wanted to be friends and she guessed it crossed the line. she finally admitted going out to dinner, and movie with this person, and then she said she went to his house 1 time " to watch tv" as friends and he made her unconfortable and she left. I was also told all of this from some of her ex coworkers and she said they was lying, but it appears she was lying the whole time.. she is begging me everyday to forgive her and move on but it is easy for her to say that.. i love her, but she betrayed me.. i cant put myself thru this any more..

2007-10-23 05:03:08 · 15 answers · asked by sullierodgers 1

My husband and I have been having some problems and we are determined to work it out. We want to start doing more things together to just have more fun, and to build trust. Any ideas?? Keep in mind we are not millioniares and have 2 kids.

2007-10-23 04:42:33 · 28 answers · asked by hollytu514 2

Its not 1950 anymore and today both parties need to make that ends meet I believe.. Im not rich yet! The cost of living in California is rediculous So I ask my fiance' for $320.00 a month to help things run smoothly around the house.. I dont think im asking for much. She makes about $1000.00 a month while going to school full time. She has $680.00 to herself that I dont touch or ask for anything She complains.

More over I dont believe in women living off of men .. Even when Im rich my wife will work and contribute cause thats the way I was brought up. I think relationships are teams.. and I dont spend a dime without discussing it..

Am I asking for to much?

2007-10-23 04:33:01 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husbands ex wife, who does not want any contact, even though my two girls have been staying with her, she as now started sending emails, saying I am a patherlogical lier, because I was adopted, its effected my ability to have a good relationship with my older daugher, she turned against me after living with her dad, her step mom put her on the pill at 14 without my knowlege, also allowed her to sleep around, she got pregnant at 15, my ex and his wife arranged for her to marry her boyfriend at Christmas without my consent, she is now in Utah and does not contact me, recently my other two daughters were visiting their dad and her in the Summer, she went ahead and cut my youngests daughters hair, from very long to 1.5in all over, she looks like a boy, she also now saying im heartless, and blaming me for my ex whos suffering from illness she said, if he dies I will have that on my plate, he originally got ill through disturbance from a next door neighbors dog that would not stop barking

2007-10-23 04:30:13 · 6 answers · asked by julia23561 1

My husband and i have been haveing some major problems. I have moved to Utah and he is supose to join me in two weeks. two days ago he was talking to me and all of the sudden he wont talk to me any more. he ignors my phone calls and wont talk to me. this has upset me a great deal. i don't know if he is having doubts about moving or what. i don't know what to do. we need to talk about the apartment and everything and i can't get him to talk to me. what should i do.

2007-10-23 04:26:15 · 13 answers · asked by Amers 2

My current position is of low pay, yet yields very rewarding moments. It seems the office is divided, from issues past, and I am stuck in the middle. I am trying to stay off radar and just do my job the best I can and not get pulled down with pety squabbling. Confused and stressed.

2007-10-23 04:22:04 · 8 answers · asked by TS=) 1

He says that evertime I get upset I am over reacting. He never reacts to anything. The roof could be caving in and he will say "it will be fine, we'll get it", but then makes me feel like a jerk for getting upset about it.
The other day he suggested that maybe I should get on anxiety pills. I do not have an anxiety problem. Sometimes I do get a little overly upset about something gone wrong but I also can be fine in 5 mins. I feel like I am an emotional person and sometimes I just need to vent. He says I "take it out" on him. Shouldn't I be able to vent to my husband? I am trying to not get too upset about stuff, but then I feel like I can't be myself around him.
I'm I in the wrong here? Or is he? Or neither?

2007-10-23 04:20:36 · 29 answers · asked by Knome Lover 4

every time he comes cring ,and saying sorry, but keep on hapeening again. i cant trust him agian. but i love him,and we have a son toghether.

2007-10-23 04:18:57 · 48 answers · asked by gisele_homan 1

My ex and i got married with i was 23. He was military, we got married and didnt tell anyone. I'd been with him for 2 and a half years. We figrued we'd get married, i could live with him, he'd get more money, i'd get benefits, we'd tell people we were engaged, then have a wedding later. DUMB! It lasted a year, then he called me on the phone from another state and told me he didnt want to be with me anymore. My world shattered. I didnt have a plan B. i thought he was it and i never thought i'd be living life without him. It has been hard for me to find the good in any of this. It's good, because he obviously didnt love me, now i'm free from that...but my relationships have suffered greatly in the past 4 years. Ive anesthesized myself with alcohol, I've been promiscuous, the men i like are losers. I have a good job and i'm in grad school, but my relationships have been awful, i've lost friends. I have gone to therapy, what should i do? I'm 29 now....

2007-10-23 04:13:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i split with my ex last febuary, i was very hurt at the time as she kicked me out with no were to go. it has taken many months but i have re built my life to a better standard than it was whilst in the relationship. during the split i did and said some appauling things to hurt her as i was hurting and wanted her to feel the same. but now i feel ashamed about this. my ex had a child from previous relationship that i help raise as my own for 4 yrs so i felt i was losing two people that i loved. its her daughters birthday on saturday should i send a card or leave well alone. i was thinking to send the card to my ex with a letter explaining why i did these things to hurt her and telling her there will allways be in my thoughts? that way she can decide weather to give the card or not, what do you think?

2007-10-23 04:13:12 · 21 answers · asked by john 2

I was with my ex-gf for 4 years from 2002-06. just didnt marry her, just got SCARED about it. I did tell her we would marry a few times, then always told her to wait. I know I messed up BIG TIME. I am stupid. I never was with another girl, just thought things were great as they were and I knew in time I would marry this girl. Well, all of the sudden she told me in December that she was tired of waiting and that she didnt want to "waste her life waiting for me and false promises." She reconnected with some friend she had and they got maried 4 months later in April. I was and am still DEVASTATED. I love this girl deeply, I cant believe she did this!! I told her to marry me instead when I found out about it, but she said it was "too late." Since this time, she has called/email a bunch of times telling me she prefers to be with me and made a mistake. But, she cant see herself getting divorced bcs. she would hurt him and herself. Anything I can do? Will she be happy? I love her too much.

2007-10-23 04:08:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been dating a guy for 4 months, and things were going great, he was affectionate, caring, we talked every day for hours, and we were almost like best friends....during this time his car was not working, and he felt kinda down about it....but he finally got his car fixed this weekend, and he is happy about that, but now his whole attitude has changed ! he's acting cocky, arrogant, rude, we got into an argument, and he hung up on me ! WTF ? why oh why is he acting like this ? Does this seem strange ?? (Oh just to let you know, I did NOT drive him around at all, my car was in the shop too, he used a relative's car)

2007-10-23 04:06:40 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-23 04:06:31 · 5 answers · asked by cindy 1

I have been married almost a year and been with my husband for 3 years now i love him dearly but i have never forgot about my ex husband me and my ex husband have a 6 year old son and he loves his dad very much but hasnt been around his dad very much in the past year and a half my new husband loves my son but he is not his dad and i dont think that he can fully treat him like his son recienty my sons father has came baack in to his life and wants to spend more time with him and he has also informed me that he wants to try us again me and him were very young when we got together and i know today if we met we could make it but a lot has heppened between us in the past years but i still love him and probly always will but i dont know what to do i love my husband but my son misses his father and desirves to have his dad. any and all advise welcome. thanks

2007-10-23 04:06:16 · 7 answers · asked by sassy1011984 2

If you were married for 45 years and you found out in year 46 that your wife or husband had a six month affair in year 25, would you care?

2007-10-23 03:59:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous