I work the graveyard shift and my wife does not work. I am forced to work this shift though I like it. When I get home at 7 or 8 AM she almost everyday wakes me up by nagging or putting our son on me to take care of him after only 5 or 6 hours of sleep. Then she says that she doesn't get good sleep. Is what she does to me right or wrong, keeping in mind she has no logical reason to do it?
2007-10-23 05:49:58 · 22 answers · asked by Kevin M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it doesn't sound like your wife is being very respectful.
I'm sure she's tired from taking care of your son all the time, but she needs to respect the fact that you are the one bringing in the money and you need your sleep just as much as she does.
Sounds like you need to sit her down and talk about this.
Don't go pointing the finger at who's right or who's wrong in the situation...who cares.
Just explain that this isn't working out and you need your sleep.
Work out something that after you wake up then you'll take your son for a couple of hours so she can nap to get caught up on some sleep.
Good luck ;)
2007-10-23 05:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it's okay that she wants to you take care of your son when she is tired or not getting enough sleep, just not expect for you to do it everyday since you work graveyard shift and when you come home you need your sleep even though it's during the day when she and your child is up. Watching a child all day can make you tired, but she doesn't work and is home all day she shouldn't be losing too much energy since taking care of the child is her main concern nothing else, also making sure you get your sleep since you are the only one bringing home the bacon she should be a bit more considerate.
2007-10-23 05:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what she is doing wrong. I can understand that she must be tired from taking care of the baby but it is not a reason to nag you about it when you've been working graveyard. I think you guys should find some type of compromise, sounds difficult though. My boyfriend use to work graveyard when I was still in HS and our times would clash. I think it just takes some time getting use to. Maybe offer your wife some time along at a certain time of the day, at least 1-2 hrs or so? Let her know your up to being a good father by taking care of your son still, but that you're also tired from work. Gluck.
2007-10-23 05:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by juleyana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly...if she isn't working and you're working a night shift at the very least she should let you sleep when you get home from work. I know being a mom is hard work (I'm a single mother AND I work full time) BUT you are the bread winner. She should really take into consideration that you need your rest. Being a stay at home mom gives her the chance to take naps (when your son naps/goes to school) So if she's not getting any sleep at night...why can't she rest during the day?? I think your wife is lookin' for the best of both worlds. I think she's being unfair and selfish.
2007-10-23 06:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by MeLikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not work and has no other reason to wake you then she needs to respect the fact that you need your sleep. This is not to say that staying at home is not a hard job in itself. Maybe you need to tell her that you need xx amount of sleep, then she can wake you up and you can give her a break and take care of your son, which is good for your relationship too. She could be bored and need someone to talk to and decides to wake you up. Women like to nag sometimes just to get a conversation out of someone!! Does she have friends or groups to go to??
2007-10-23 05:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your first baby?
Why? Because she probably feels overwhelmed with the new change in her life. Very hard to be tied down to a baby. First child is the hardest to adjust to.
What she does is wrong. Yes. But I think I understand why. She probably has nothing else going on in her life since she had that baby. Right? Stays at home and does the same thing all day every day?? Monotonous and insane, literally.
She needs to get a babysitter and get a part time job. She'll go nutz and drive you there real quick. I kow, I've done it!! I hated to see my husband resting. I couldn't, why should he?? I know. Horrible right? But I felt it wasn't fair that my ife had to change so drastically and his went on like normal. I resented him in a way.
Not right but, just trying to maybe explain what she mght be feeling. I was young and it was all too new and i didn't get alot of support from him. He didn't understand.
2007-10-23 06:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by tammy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she does to you is wrong and you need to stop it. The woman doesn't work, which means she can make her own schedule for getting her rest. Let her know that you do not want to be awakened, once you've gone to bed. You'll have to be firm with her, because she's playing games. Women can sometimes act foolish. They can be selfish and controlling. Clearly you need your uninterrupted rest, after you've worked all night long. You have to tell her this and mean it. If she won't coorperate, tell her to get a job and you quit the graveyard shift!
2007-10-23 06:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is wrong becuase she does not work she is only with the baby witch is an all day thing but still you work you bring food to the table you need to rest I suggest you try to get a day job or I suugest you talk to her and ask her what is her problem and what you can do to help her maybe becuase you are not having sex that is why she is in a bad mood and you leave her alone at night. hey think about it. And if all else fails then tell her to get a job and a babysitter and strat working and have her feel what you feel.
2007-10-23 05:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say wrong. unless, your son is a small baby, i don't see why she wouldn't be getting good sleep. even then, that's just something that should be expected. no one gets goo0d sleep when your children are small. she is a stay at home mother, she should be taking care of the child. i'm not saying all the time, but you need your sleep in order to be able to work. that's what puts food on the table. talk to her about it.
2007-10-23 05:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to be a woman and a mother. If she is not sleeping good she needs to go to bed early or modify her diet or exercise to improve her sleep. If you are the sole provider than her job is to take care of your son and be a stay at home mother.
Ask her if the roles were reversed and she was working and you were not how fair she would think it would be.
2007-10-23 05:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tarheel mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋