i hound out my mate a few months ago was texting and call yes you quess it another guy. I found out from her cell bill. i confronted her about this and she lied about it, and then a few months later said "it was nothing serious" but by judging her cell bill it looks bad. they talked 1100 min and 500 text's. Nothing serious? She told me they were "just friends" and i said friends dont do this.. Then not long ago she cleared the air and said that she just wanted to be friends and she guessed it crossed the line. she finally admitted going out to dinner, and movie with this person, and then she said she went to his house 1 time " to watch tv" as friends and he made her unconfortable and she left. I was also told all of this from some of her ex coworkers and she said they was lying, but it appears she was lying the whole time.. she is begging me everyday to forgive her and move on but it is easy for her to say that.. i love her, but she betrayed me.. i cant put myself thru this any more..
2007-10-23 05:03:08 · 15 answers · asked by sullierodgers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Then don't.
2007-10-23 05:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by CC 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
For one, ask yourself if you could put up with lies the rest of your life. I couldn't. She tells you she just wants to be friends, but then turns around and asks you for forgiveness? She can't make up her mind. I don't think she wants to be tied down with just one person right now. You need to give her that time to think. Tell her you will not put up with the lies, and she needs to find herself. Someone that puts a lot into a relationship obviously does not deserve to be treated like that.When you're with someone, you are with only them. That's kind of the point of life. You find a mate, and together decide if you want to raise a family and live the rest of your life that way. Going out with friends is one thing, but going out with another guy is the worst. Especially lying to you about it. It's all about trust. I've said this before, but it's just one of the things you have to have to make it work. You might love her, but is it worth living completely miserable, wondering what she's doing, or who she's with? Live happy with no worries, and have fun with life with the one you love. That's a combination of the good stuff in life. Think of yourself too.
2007-10-23 05:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by mp 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You mean you are not gone already. She is disloyal period and you don't need to know anything else.
Show her the respect of learning from her mistakes and maybe she will treat the next person better. But she has to learn.
You need to just go to the clinic and get the STD check-up and fthen find a real women instead of a lieing little girl texting a boyfriend on the side. That is unless sloppy seconds turns you on.
You're still in love and this crap makes me want to take a shower.
2007-10-23 05:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Find out why she was seeking outside attention. That will be a huge determining factor on whether or not you should trust her again. Personally, I am guessing you should probably let her go. If she screws up once, gets caught, and is then forgiven, she will then have the option to screw up again and be forgiven. The temptation may be too overwhelming. She takes you for granted and only seems to care at the threat of you leaving. That shows a great deal of immaturity on her part. This one is broken. Trade her in for one that works.
2007-10-23 05:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
if you really love her and want to make it through try counseling. but before you do anything you have to clear the air for yourself and just think through. give yourself some time and tell her you want the FULL truth and every detail. to move on you have to know or you'll be in a thought of "what if's" which isnt a good stage. so tell her straight out that if she doesnt give you the whole truth and everything you need to know your gone. then go from there decide if you need counseling or if you need to go your seperate ways.
2007-10-23 05:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by bballbabe725 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
good thing that you never married this girl move on life's to short to be worrying over just one girl go find someone else that you could totally trust. trust me their are still a few good women out their.. take care....oh and you might want to tune in on your radio station to 97.1 fm between 3pmto6pm TOM will teach you a thing or too....
2007-10-23 06:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by valrietorres 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
what you need to do is move on. sounds like she did, several times, maybe once with that guy... but, how many other's since him??
Get out and start anew. You need time to heal from her dishonesty... but, that don't mean the next person you meet may do the same... Atleast you'll be prepared.
Once the TRUST is broken.... It's done!!!
2007-10-23 05:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by Petunia 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
sigh =(... this is the type of woman who will never change as long as she is hanging around the wrong friends... or works at a place that encourages this type of behaviour... IF you want to give her another chance, then do so, but, only if she quits her job... and gets different friends to hang around... if she does not do these things, she does not love you!!! IF you choose to let her go, do so, and don't ever take her back... good luck! =)
2007-10-23 05:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Been there done that. only thing you can say to her is
"DON'T LET THE $@^^DOOR HIT YOU WHERE THE LORD SPLIT YA."
PUT HERE SHI T IN THE STREET, CHANGE THE LOCKS.
IF YOU HAVE KIDS GO TO COURT AND GET CUSTODY ( I DID).
go to the doctors get checked for anything she might of giving you!!!!!!!
and don't look back.... you can do better
2007-10-23 05:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by cajun 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you can't put up with it anymore, then ship out. You said "mate" you aren't attached to her in any way, so take your leave and have your peace.
2007-10-23 05:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The good thing is you've already made up your mind and know you cannot trust her anymore.
My advice is to cut off any contact with her. The more you talk to her, the more she will be on your mind.
2007-10-23 05:08:59 · answer #11 · answered by Mimi 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋