My husband and I have been having some problems and we are determined to work it out. We want to start doing more things together to just have more fun, and to build trust. Any ideas?? Keep in mind we are not millioniares and have 2 kids.
2007-10-23 04:42:33 · 28 answers · asked by hollytu514 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I started having a date night at least once a month. We would stay overnight at a motel to get away from our kids. Once a month expense, time away from life's stresses, and a chance to reconnect is worth it.
2007-10-23 04:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tammi B 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Go out just the 2 of u at least once a week usually Saturdays are good, have dinner go to a bar or a movie something for adults only...Then have Sunday ur family day w/ the kids, take the kids somewhere enjoyable for them...
Just picnics at the park are nice if theres no money, sitting by a lakeside and just talking to get to know each other again... be more affectionate w/ each other...
First thing u need to find out is why the problems are occurring then find a way to fix it... If u love each other it will all work out u just have to remember that letting the other know how special they are to u on a regular basis is good, people need to here that their important to the other...
Good luck
2007-10-23 11:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by uloseallurmarbles 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try picnics together on a Saturday afternoon after finding a babysitter for the kids. Include a long walk maybe near a lake. Talk about your hopes and dreams for the future.
Get grandma or someone else to keep the kids overnight. Have a romantic dinner, play music and slow dance.
Take long drives into the country without the children.
Anything to be together without the kids. That will give you time to rediscover your love and passion for one another.
Don't forget to include spending time with the kids to make sure they don't begin to feel left out.
Good Luck
2007-10-23 11:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No matter how bad the day was or how much the kids get on your nerves....Always find time for each other.....keep the home fires burning at home.......This was advice that I was given on my wedding day.....my wife and I have been married for 8 years, we both sacrifice a little for each other every day, that's what marriage, relationships and being in love is all about.....so find something that you both have in common and like to do, that's the best place to start......and here's one of my personal favorites...... a surprise candlight dinner.....and you don't have to dirty your kitchen..even if it's just throwing a piece of pizza on a plate keep the candles burning and the bubble bath handy that should set the furnace to SMOKING HOT!!!! OH!! AND DON'T FORGET TO HAVE A BABYSITTER HANDY!!!!!!
2007-10-23 12:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by trekkie1972566 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if its more family time you're looking for or time together. Mini golf, restaurants, movies, hot tubs, even to go have a drink and play some pool or something, go to a casino for a night, take a hike and a picnic, all sorts of things. Im happy to hear for once people are determined to work out their marriage and the best of luck to you both.
2007-10-23 11:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by LifeIsPeachy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go for a walk after dinner, start playing tennis, roller blades, bicycling,
Picnics, feeding the duck at a local park, cuddling at the movies...
semi-public display's of affection... kissing while your car goes through a car wash. Kissing in an empty elevator... try to end the session before the doors open... (work back... some romance into your relationship.)
2007-10-23 12:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Darren 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am glad to hear that you are both committed on working out your marriage. Trust is a big issue. Start by going to the movies maybe a nice home cooked meal. Take the family bowling were you can act goofy and relax and enjoy yourselves. Do some Karaoke that's a blast...Remember to tell him you love him everyday, never go to bed upset work on your issues daily when they come up and learn to let things go pick your arguments. Example: So he didn't pick up his laundry off the floor ---Not a Big Deal You found another girl's number ---A BIG DEAL. Hope this helped. Good Luck!!
2007-10-23 11:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by Virgo Rose 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Two of the most important aspects of a relationship are time and communication. You need to have those worked out. Talk to each other more often, and try to communicate problems calmly and effectively. try to avoid attacking each other, and seek counseling with this if you need to.
Spending time together is extremely important. Definately have a date night once a week like the others have said, but also make sure you are spending time together daily. Go to bed together, cuddle with each other, do things he enjoys with him and try to get him to do things you enjoy. Maybe make breakfast for him before you guys have to go in the morning. Little stuff like that can make a whole lot of difference.
If you are christians Pray together, every day, morning and night at least more if possible.
Also make sure you have a healthy sexual relationship. Healthy being that you are consistently having sexual intimacy. There is nothing wrong with having it every night, or multiple times a day, Remember the purpose is to please him, and his purpose is to please you, so be sure you give all you can to make him feel good, and try to get him to do the same for you. Don't be selfish in bed
2007-10-23 11:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by bakerchris 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do things together you liked to do when you first met.Go to the restaurant where you had your first dinner together,or rent the movie you´ve watched together at your first date.
Is your husband a baseball fan?`Have you ever been together at a ball game?Buy tickets and enjoy your time together watching the game.Share a hot dog.Afterwards stop at the fanciest hotel in town! NO! not to spent the night-just have a drink at the bar and then leave that place again.Try to learn a new language together. Have fun,be silly,laugh a lot.But do it together!!!
2007-10-23 11:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by tampagirl 2005 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try packing a picnic and going somewhere that there is very few people around - no distractions and stuff... that always gives a nice romantic feel and lots of time for talks...
Also - if the kids can be dropped off at a friends house for the night - try having a "picnic" in your living room - maybe some wine, strawberries, chocolate, etc... and there is this game called "a night to remember" that may help get the romance back into your life...
Surprising the spouse out of the blue with a romantic dinner at home always works well for me -not to get too descriptive, but I cook with little to no clothes or in a really fancy dress - in the candle light with nice music, etc - he loves coming home to that!!!
2007-10-23 11:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by Me 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well building trust and having fun are very different. As far as the trust, if someone broke it then they need to be on their best behavior. As for the fun, well thats easier, try to have a designated night where someone can watch the kids and you two can go out, go to dinner, watch a movie, have sex, something where it is just you guys alone.
2007-10-23 11:48:52 · answer #11 · answered by Raz9Caz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋