my ex-wife and i divorced several months ago. we have gotton back together a couple of times and split up. i have lied to her and she has broke up with me for no reason at times she said. we are split up now since saturday because i woke up saturday and was grumpy. i have begged her back and she says no or nothing at all. i have sent roses. i love her alot. and i don't doubt her love for me. i really want her back. how can i get her back.
2007-10-23 06:12:23 · 8 answers · asked by easy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my wife has really told me that she put me out because she was confused and felt lost. we split up this past weekend and i spotted another vehicle at her house. never seen it before. oh, at 5 in the morning. so whoever it was stayed the night.
2007-10-23 07:41:06 · update #1
You should go find a good marriage counselor and go see him/her by yourself once and find out what the counselor thinks. You should then let you wife know that you are seeking help to find out what you need to change and how you can change it and that you would like her to come to marriage counseling with you at least once so that the counselor can get a better picture of your relationship and how it works. If she is not ready, give her space, keep going to counseling and seek the changes that you need to make. Maybe she will notice and she will find a way to let the walls that she has built down and then you two can build from there, together. There is definitely some changing that has to happen for it to be better, on your part and hers, go find out what they are if you truly love her and care and want her in your life. Good luck
2007-10-23 06:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both broke up because you lied to her, about what? She now again left because you woke up Saturday morning and you were grumpy? Sounds like she breaks up with you for silly reasons. This leads to believe there are deeper problems that you have not stated or that she is just into playing mind games with you. Your question did not provide too much information. The only advice I can give to you is to sit down with her and seriously discuss with her as to the real issues that have caused her to leave. Once she tells you, ask her if she would be willing to attend marital counseling. At this point, if you give flowers it will might only fix things temporarily, in a few days you both will be back to breaking up. Get help to fix the problems that are causing you both from obtaining harmony. Best of luck to you!
2007-10-23 13:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being grumpy...I'm sure it isn't your grumpiness, but your actions that make her leave. I'd be interested in knowing what you said or did because you were grumpy. Stop making excuses and take responsibility for your actions and make changes. Otherwise, let her be and move on to someone who'll put up with a "grumpy" man.
My X was always "grumpy" too because of work, this, that or the other....but he chose to take it out on me...when he was "grumpy" he'd say nasty things to hurt my feelings or withhold affection, like it was my fault that traffic was bad or his boss was being a dick. I got tired of being his emotional punching bag.
2007-10-23 13:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife need to get some marriage counseling. It will help you realize what is wrong with your up and down relationship.
Chances are she is looking for more stability than your ups and downs are giving her.
Don't push her but ask her if she would be willing to go to counseling with you.
Good Luck
2007-10-23 13:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. She doesn't want you back. If you keep insisting, she's going to hurt your feelings. If you've lied to her, she doesn't break up with you for no reason. Stop playing games with her and move on.
2007-10-23 13:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time & space...sounds like an emotional rollar coaster...with you smothering her, she can't decide what's right for the future...
2007-10-23 13:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not easy.Mr.Easy because onces you break someone trust(mention trust not believe or belief).You never get back that person.So try to build believe and don't break trust.
2007-10-23 13:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by MS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space, stop smothering her.
2007-10-23 13:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋