a problem with my exs wife, she as never met spoken with me, but is accusing me of lying, hitting my children?

Question

My husbands ex wife, who does not want any contact, even though my two girls have been staying with her, she as now started sending emails, saying I am a patherlogical lier, because I was adopted, its effected my ability to have a good relationship with my older daugher, she turned against me after living with her dad, her step mom put her on the pill at 14 without my knowlege, also allowed her to sleep around, she got pregnant at 15, my ex and his wife arranged for her to marry her boyfriend at Christmas without my consent, she is now in Utah and does not contact me, recently my other two daughters were visiting their dad and her in the Summer, she went ahead and cut my youngests daughters hair, from very long to 1.5in all over, she looks like a boy, she also now saying im heartless, and blaming me for my ex whos suffering from illness she said, if he dies I will have that on my plate, he originally got ill through disturbance from a next door neighbors dog that would not stop barking

Answer 1

Your daughter was on the pill at 14 and got pregnant at 15.
Then they arranged for her to get married at 15.
She says you're a liar because you were adopted?
Your ex has an illness from a neighbor's barking dog?
This has Jerry Springer written all over it.

If this is for real, contact your attorney.

Answer 2

You have waited way too long to have this taken care of. When things first started happening with your oldest, and they got her on the pill and allowed her to have sex, you should have gotten a lawyer and taken him back to court. They were endangering a minor and you could have stopped visitation or gotten it changed to supervised visitation. Now it is too late.

If this happens with your next daughter, and you find her on the pill, call an attorney immedietely or you will have another under age daughter getting married.

It does not matter if she hates you for a while for doing this. It is in her best interest and the best interest of the other child.

Even if you can't do anything else, take your children to family therapy. Let a therapist help your child to understand that your ex's family is trying to turn them against you. Sometimes it is important for a divorced person to earn the love of the children any way they can. It usually stems from the guilt from leaving them in the first place. As for his new wife, she wants the children to like her and she will let them do anything to be the "cool one".

Good Luck

Answer 3

One of my friends cousin over course of 3 years turned her partner and everyone around her against her.Already in her family due to them poisoning one of her aunts killed herself now her cousin was doing same thing to her my friend hit back so hard told cousin to back off and get lost now hes no longer in picture..First of get an attorney even though your husband isnt on your side you need to have everything noted down next your children are minors taking them anywhere without your permission could get his ex arrested make it clear you will press charges next go to a therapist counsellor so they can give you a clean bill on mental health incase she starts harping your not mentally sound finally tell her this is your husband its your kids its your turf

Answer 4

First off, I wouldn't worry too much about what she is saying. She obviously has a problem that you were first in his life, not her. Don't allow her to suck you into her drama. As far as the daughter's go, all of that negativity will adversely affect her relationship with them and their dad. I wouldn't worry about the hair, it will grow back. Unhappy people want others to join in their misery. Let her have her own, and you find your happiness.

Answer 5

I would be angry about the pill,cutting the hair and all but the hitting would be the straw that broke the camels back. Have you called child protective services? if so what are they doing?

Answer 6

Jerry Springer will tell your story.