Just a little question?

Question

I'm just curious, why a lot of woman think that the father supposes to provide 100% for the kids, I always thought it’s 50/50? I see a lot of complains that " Daddy" doesn’t want to provide...But what about the "Mama" or she just the baby-factory... Everything is the man responsibility... I think it's wrong... U want it, U got it, now handle it…What are U think?

Answer 1

I think that perhaps you seem a little more than biased in your statement.

A lot of men make a lot more money than the women who they fathered children with, and when a divorce happens -- regardless of who initiated it or why -- the father SHOULD help support those same children. Sadly, a lot of the statements I see on this forum are from women complaining about the fathers NOT doing any such thing.

I have an ex-brother-in-law who had to be taken to jail to prove the point that he had to pay child support for his son, and my dumbass-non-brother is headed the same direction....he refuses to send any money to the mother of HIS child...and in both instances it was THEY who left and/or f**ked around on their wives.

Furthermore, if you're referring to the wives who stay at home with the kids, they ARE doing their fair share of childcare....its just not financial, you know.

So step back and take a look around before making such an asinine statement.

Answer 2

50/50??? So I get 50% of the support costs, 50% of school suplly costs, 50% of what I pay for insurance and medical costs, .......... I would be a rich woman!

I didn't get myself pregnant 7 times, there was a person right there with making those children. I wanted it, sure every time the birth control failed I wanted to have a healthy child, I got it all right. I handle it by raising my seven children alone without any help from their father or from the state by working 2 jobs. What am I thinking, that you and the people like you who judge others should try walking in my shoes for a week.

Grow up!!!

Answer 3

Even if women expect 100% from a man,they are never gonna get it! Most woman I know don't even get the 50/50,it's more like men 60 and woman 40 because the man makes more money. Being a father doesnt just consist of bringing home a paycheck,most mothers do that and more,way more!

Answer 4

I am one to agree on the 50/50 responsibility, from financial stats, child care expenses, living expenses, we divide and share everything. I've been raised to be an independent woman and don't expect to live off a man, even with my husband I don't expect 100% from him since I know it's not possible since I wouldn't be able to give him my 100% that just wouldn't be fair. We are in it together we need to share the responsibilities. I even mentioned to my husband that if we were to divorce for any reason for him not to worry about child support, I wouldn't seek any from him since I know I'll be able to make it as a single mom. You set your priorities straight, think ahead and you'll be fine.

Answer 5

There is a large number of a certain type of chick that thinks once she has squeezed out a rugrat or two that she has earned the right to no longer contribute.

We all hear the claims of "Ohhhhhhhh how Sooooooo very, very hard it all is" B.S.
There are plenty of single mothers who manage, surely a woman with a husband could contribute something .

Answer 6

The man is supposed to be the provider for the family. His main responsibility is to provide for both material, leadership and emotional needs of his family, love them, and promote a feeling of protection with security and stability within the home. The wife's primary responsibility is to be being there for her husband and to run her house. This is biblical so has nothing to do with tradition. its the way it was from the beginning. I'm not saying a woman is his slave or any nonsense like that read proverbs chapter 31, it will give a good idea of what a wife is supposed to be like. Actually read it it might be different then you expect it talks about her providing for her family having her own business and managing her home.

Answer 7

u r right to some degree .there are alot of men out there that are dead beat dad's though.My brother is married and his wife left and took the kids during that time of seperation my brother better himself and got a good career.his wife filed for childsupport.I can't believe they make you pay childsupport while still married.$800to be exact. he gets his kids ,sometimes she won't let him see them.he went to see a lawyer it's like there totally on her side.they can take childsupport out but they can't see to it that he gets visitation. plus besides him paying she still milks him saying what the kids need.he is somewhat easy to manipulate and has a weak spot when it comes to her.she dosen't take care of the kids.what do you do I guess when not only the baby moma's are against u but the system is too.they can't decern who really wants to be a part of there kids lives and who's trying to get over.

Answer 8

I am sorry I think this is a stupid question. Women have to take care of the child regardless if the father is in the picture or not. what about all the women who do it all by themselves, I don't see anyone giving them a clap on the back. So what if there are some men who takes on this responsibility. They chose to, and i applaud them, but women have been doing it for centuries.

Answer 9

There are no rules carved in stone. Some parents work it out that one parent stays at home with the kids while the other works. While in others, both parents work. Obviously, how much either parent could contribute will be affected by how they are doing it.

The central point is that they are doing it together which means they are both part of making it work.

Answer 10

I assume you are talking about people who are single and never married each other... 50/50 should be the case then... and that's that... most single women want to milk the man for every penny... and that's not fair if they never married... in most cases it's not fair...