I have been married almost a year and been with my husband for 3 years now i love him dearly but i have never forgot about my ex husband me and my ex husband have a 6 year old son and he loves his dad very much but hasnt been around his dad very much in the past year and a half my new husband loves my son but he is not his dad and i dont think that he can fully treat him like his son recienty my sons father has came baack in to his life and wants to spend more time with him and he has also informed me that he wants to try us again me and him were very young when we got together and i know today if we met we could make it but a lot has heppened between us in the past years but i still love him and probly always will but i dont know what to do i love my husband but my son misses his father and desirves to have his dad. any and all advise welcome. thanks
2007-10-23 04:06:16 · 7 answers · asked by sassy1011984 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i do wont to say that i do love my current husband and i want to be with my current husband but i feel like im being kinda of selfish by not giving my sons father another chance for my sons sake im not immature i have been mother and father for his whole life and i will continue that I take care of him bath him and feed ect i steped up my ex has not and i have never stoped him i was asking fopr my son what do you think is best for him?
2007-10-23 06:29:53 · update #1
Yes, punctuation is your friend. With that said, you are being unfair to new hubby. It's simple really, all you have to do is let ex see son more often.
I would have made a better response, but the lack of punctuation caused a loss in understanding what you are trying to ask.
2007-10-23 04:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in trouble lady and you know it dont you? You can let your husband back into your sons life but you do it through domestic relations and get it in writing.. Too, you are not fair to your new husband... i.e. How could you possible love him after her abandoned you and hs son.. And to not see his son for over a year? You need to make up you mind once and for all... And you do not love these two guys the same... So take a step back.... And looki at the situation... Do I want what I had and did not work out or do I want what I have and it works? Good luck and God bless.... Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-23 04:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously do NOT love your current husband if you can say that you love your son's father YOU obviously are too immature to be married but sadly you have a child in the middle of your immaturity and he is the one who is going to suffer while you flit between these two guys playing your games. I suggest you start using your brain and do what is right for your son, grow up and start being a parent rather than a butterfly.
2007-10-23 06:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This maybe considered harsh, but I am being honest.
You need to grow up and stop the drama. People are not disposable and or replaceable.
Get a divorce and spend at least one year without dating any men. You need to straighten yourself out. Take care of your son with any men in your life. Then you can figure out which one you want.
Or stay with your husband. You married this man. And now your a unsure....... Wow, how many people are going to get hurt here. YOU NEED TO PUT A STOP TO THIS!!!!!
2007-10-23 04:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son can have his dad and a step father who treats him like a son. You on the other hand have a HUSBAND! Get your head out of the clouds and work on your marriage. Why would you want to hook your star on a man who cut his son out of his life for a year and a half???? Get real dear and grow up!
2007-10-23 04:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex has the right to spend time with his son, that does not mean that he needs to spend time with you or that you two should give it another try. You should not have married your current husband if you were not completely over your ex.
2007-10-23 04:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-09 07:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋