Marriage & Divorce - 23 October 2007

So my husband has never hit me in 8 years. Good thing too, because he is 13 inches taller and 125 pounds heavier than me. He's just cranky and a yeller.

Yes, I've asked him for counseling. He replied "F--- you, go yourself." He can be sweet and fun, and then he tells me to "shut the hell up" so he can watch TV in peace.

*shrugs* I give up. Suggestions, anyone? By now I'm happy when one of us is at work and out of the house. We have small children.

2007-10-23 12:50:46 · 32 answers · asked by Rapunzel XVIII 5

Me and my husband seperated because I thought it was what I wanted. Things happened before and after the seperation to hurt him and I feel terrible, as I should. A couple of months ago I realized what I lost and how bad I really messed up and started to change my actions to show him how I've changed and wanted US back. I didn't say anything at 1st, Ijust wanted my actions to say it for me. After a situation, I finally told him I wanted to work on our marriage. Things have been good but when something goes slightly wrong I feel like I am always the blame no matter what the situation is. I know I screwed up bad and have apologized profusely but how long am I suppose to be the enemy. When can I be "right" with him and not the blame for all that goes wrog with us. I'm starting to feel a little beat up.

2007-10-23 12:41:52 · 25 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2

2007-10-23 12:35:51 · 20 answers · asked by hotchick04xxx 1

Is there paperwork or something ?

2007-10-23 12:34:14 · 4 answers · asked by BrideofTyr 3

about having "relations"with another person,and one does sneak with anotherperson then when caught red handed in the end they lie,how long do you think it should take for the relationship to regain trust?

2007-10-23 12:25:32 · 18 answers · asked by lingosdeaf 2

I'm asking this as it says it in "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus". It mentions that when a man reaches a level of intimacy with a woman meaning they get very close mentally, he feels the need to withdraw and be on his own, its therefore up to the woman to understand this and relax i.e. don't chase or call him or even worry because he'll be back and when he does, he'll want to continue getting close to the woman. Guys, do you get this?!
I'm going thru this with my bf of 2 1/2 yrs. We spent the weekend together, had a great time, he was even talkin bout his desire to get married next yr, didn't mention to me but in general, anyway, he texted me once I came home saying he had fun, thanks for comin etc....since then he has been acting distant. Called him a few nights ago, but he didn't answer but has been online MSN. I don't wanna make a fuss because the book mentions he may just be pulling away, but how do I know for sure?! I'm confused, I thought we were getting closer!

2007-10-23 12:24:17 · 12 answers · asked by Nikita 1

My Hubby subscribes to playboy, talks dirty to women in chat rooms, and buys nasty pics on ebay. He says all men do it and I'm just insecure and should get over it. I've given him nude pics of me, he still wants to look at other women. Do All Men?

2007-10-23 12:23:29 · 65 answers · asked by Fishin G 1

how to reassure my ex boyfriend? guys, i need advice!!!?
my boyfriend of 3 yrs recently dumped me. he is threatened by my independence. he feels emasculated and disrespected by my other male friends and independent life of him. he is 37 and im 25.


im sooo in love with him and love him to death. i would do anything to get him back. its been 15 days since we last spoke to eachother. im deathly afraid of making a wrong move.

if i call him, i dont want him to think that i cant respect his decision or appear "clingy or desperate".
if i dont call him, i dont want him to think i no longer want to be with him or am with someone else


please help me.

confused hopeless romantic

2007-10-23 12:12:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-23 12:12:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is still friends with an ex from high school. I think he still has feelings for this girl. I asked him if he loves her, he use to tell me no. But the last time I asked he said "As a friend." What is he meaning by this?

2007-10-23 12:11:24 · 35 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

hey peoplez..i dont plan to get married..ever..why?cuz right now im single and chillin and livin a drama-free life from any realtionship...when i get married that means i gotta be home at like 10pm instead of playin ball with my boys till like 1am...i cant play my ps2 until how long i want to...i gotta tell her where im at,where im goin,who callin me,who is that girl callin me even tho she cud be my 49year old boss!!!! why get married?its all drama right?for the guys that have been married and now are divorced and are livin the stress free..well drama free life answer this to me i shudnt get married right?i dont want to but i mean its all drama right?agian im 20,never smoked or drinked and im still a virgin but i dont want no daayum drama u feel me?so is being marrried all drama and stress?and plus on top of that in a few months im bout to become a vice president of a multi-millionar dollar company and im bout to be a multi-millionare so let me know guys/girls.

2007-10-23 12:10:02 · 21 answers · asked by ESPN NEWS 1

2007-10-23 12:06:11 · 16 answers · asked by faithfully_true2u 1

my children have my last name seeing as i was never married to their bio. father during our relationship and when they were born i gave them my last name and never put their fathers name on their birth certificate ... my question is when i get married can i change their last name to my married last name or would he have to legally adopt them .. i would prefer just being able to change their last name w/o the whole adoption scenerio ...



their bio. father is counted as their father for child support .. (that he doesnt pay) but other then that .. no visitation no nothin ...


btw i live in oklahoma


there is absolutely no reconsile with my childrens sperm donor .. he has not been in their life for over 6 years and my youngest he has never lied eyes on .. he is not their father he is their bio. father/sperm donor!

2007-10-23 11:59:45 · 7 answers · asked by Mama To 2 Onry Girls 3

He won't keep a job and I am tired of working for both of us. When I leave him, he gets a job that lasts until I return. I have a hard job and he accuses me of other men. I am so stressed. I have left him and don't think I want him back this time. He constantly calls and begs. How do I make him leave me alone? I'm afraid he couldn't handle the rejection and would stalk me.

2007-10-23 11:56:56 · 26 answers · asked by woodedlane11 2

2007-10-23 11:55:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-23 11:44:47 · 10 answers · asked by Becca 2

I need help.. My ex husband does not allow our children to speak with me. He has our children weekly on his days off (which are during the work week). I never try to make contact with our children just because I feel that it is his time with them. But there are times when our children call me and ask that I call them back but when I do he either tells me that I can't talk to them or that they're busy. Only to find out that he never told them I returned their call. For example, today my daughter called me at work and left a voice mail message for me to return her call. I called her back and my ex answered the phone. I asked to speak with her and he asked if he if he could ask me a question.. I'm at work, so I told him no... His reply was that since he couldn't ask me a question then I couldn't speak with our daughter.... I never do this to him.... What can I do? She has a cell phone but he tells her to turn it off.. The only way I can talk to them is going through him...

2007-10-23 11:40:55 · 11 answers · asked by Caligirl 2

2007-10-23 11:39:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

he consumed me..now doesnt..im jittery n scared .. how can i be sooo free? i dont want a rebound EVER!
We both are respectivly marred..my emotins got in b/w and rhings happened great chemistry etc.
but now he is rude n mean and thru his bad attitude he has pushed me away..i dont respect him no more ... ofcoursei FED his ego ... did all to please him...etc ..well im just surprised that he is no more wat he meant to me????



we were not together "together\;" it was more of an indirect affiar being sweet kind etc .
Well .. it was a great phase and i thought i can never get over him .. iv been trying for 8 months..and now iv realized .iv come a long way..but im scared ..wat if.. he tries to woo ? will i be strong?

2007-10-23 11:28:35 · 7 answers · asked by barley 2

its unfair to the unmarried person.

2007-10-23 11:24:05 · 17 answers · asked by leaf 1

I'm 23, my boyfriend is 19 and we live in 2 different countries. We have been dating for just over a year and we both aren't looking to marry or settle down soon but we are completely happy with eachother. We talk daily and are planing to move closer to eachother once I'm done my degree (I was already looking for a job where he lives before we even met). The first 4 months of our relationship we spent together in the same country. We trust eachother completely so that is not an issue. What do you think the chances that something like this will last? Do you have any success stories??

2007-10-23 11:21:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can say that I would personally.. My wife and I have been married 17 years now. And even though we have had our moments, she has been and continues to be my best friend!
So... Would you tie the not, or WOULD NOT marry your spouse all over again? Honest answer too!

2007-10-23 11:16:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

i love my husband, we have been married for nearly seven years now. we have two great kids but we don't get intimate anymore. We rarely say I love you. Most of the time I get a peck on the lips there isn't any passion. My husband looks at porn every now and then. Sometimes it makes me feel so robbed, because he could be intimate with me but he just doesn't. It's not atleast from my side a lack of wanting it. I am almost always in the mood. We have only done it maybe five times since may of this year. We don't really talk except about stupid little things, and he just seems really unhappy. I've become very unhappy and very lonely. I wouldn't ever even consider cheating because I don't honestly believe in it. I'm not so miserable that I'm looking for something else it's just sometimes I think about leaving and being alone. He isn't a terrible person. He has been a good husband to me. He won't even admit to being happy with me. He says he still loves me, but it's his actions that seem off

2007-10-23 11:16:06 · 16 answers · asked by beautiful tragedy 4

me and my husband are getting divorced soon. He said that i cheated on him when i really didn't. He caught me in bed with another man, but I wasn't cheating because he allowed me to. The reason he did that was because he wasn't comfortable of the idea of sex cause he is a virgin, so I just went somewhere else. At first he said it was fine, but now he turned the tables and is getting divorced from me. What will happen? Will i still get half the stuff?

2007-10-23 11:02:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

To play love connection in hooking up his friend with a co-worker? He works out of state and comes home every weekend. At first I thought nothing of it but now there is another girl he gossips about. Keep in mind I call them girls because they are 18-20. I don't think its right for him to even say a word to them because he's married and he shouldn't be wasting his time on gossiping or trying to hook up his friend when he's there to work. Today, a male co-worker of his gave him an ugly look. When he started to talk about it a month ago, I didn't say anything. Now, theres another girl along with the first he gossips about and I had to call him out on it. He says I'm being jealous and he doesn't even talk to these girls he only did it once to hook his friend up which I think its stupid because we are not in high school anymore for such games, he says its just gossip he hears. But then again both of his brothers had affairs with women at work! What do you think, am I overreacting?

2007-10-23 10:55:24 · 14 answers · asked by ♪♫♫♪ 5

he is an old boyfriend from the past back when i was 15 years old. he has ask me to move in with him

2007-10-23 10:45:28 · 34 answers · asked by texas 1

I live in Stamford, CT. Due to personal preferences, I would rather have a divorce attorney (or general) who is fluent or proficient in speaking Mandarin Chinese. If anyone can give me some names, phone numbers, addresses, etc. of any such attorneys (not even in Stamford but in preferably in CT or even NY), I'd greatly appreciate it. :)

2007-10-23 10:42:58 · 1 answers · asked by Elisa M. 1

The way many spouses whine and talk in here, you would think that they were carrying the world on their shoulders. In the meantime, their hubbies are working 8, 10 or more hours to bring home enough bacon to live. That muhla also allows the spouse to go to coffee clatches, shopping, and making herself pretty. Then she gets pissed off when he doesn't bring flowers, a card or forgets a birthday, or anniversary. Then she needs affection, not sex. Thanks. Like, I'm working all day, tired and she wants nonconsumptive loving. I'm going to bed! Tell me your opinion.

2007-10-23 10:38:28 · 3 answers · asked by reinformer 6

I'm an absolute idiot for getting emotionally involved with a married man, but I am in this deep!! I am married too. He is my ex from many years ago. We e-mail each other a few times each week, but lately his e-mails have been coming less often. Is this a sign that he wants this to end? I hope it just means that he's been busy with work because I would be just devastated if this ends. I love him so much. It's making me crazy not seeing his name in my inbox.

2007-10-23 10:25:09 · 24 answers · asked by J Mack 3

Have you ever been chatted up & in a situation where cheating could be on the cards.... & then thaught, do you know what my partner is worth a million compared to a afternoon of passion with someone else. just as they give you their number.

Or do you go for it..

2007-10-23 10:10:30 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous