2007-10-23 12:06:11 · 16 answers · asked by faithfully_true2u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
drag him to a marriage counselor.
2007-10-23 12:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I just went through this. If whatever he has done has mad you angry to the point where you are trying to force it out of him then you should wait until you are calm. Evidence is the key. Tell him you already know the truth and just really want to know why he did it or why he is lying about it. Tell him that you are no longer angry about what he did but you just want the truth so that you can take that next step in forgiving him and moving forward... I did this with my significant other and i felt like I was talking to a brick wall. but you know what, he heard every single word I said and later that night, he confessed.
2007-10-23 19:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could make him/her aware that dishonesty is cause for distrust, and see if he/she is willing to work through the issues in a more honest way, perhaps with a therapist. But the bottom line is that you can't make anybody do anything. Truth telling is a matter of character, either he/she has it, or he/she doesn't. Just be aware of your spouse's character, or lack thereof, and decide accordingly.
2007-10-23 19:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have absolute proof? If so, tell him you have it and show it to him. If you don't, then how do you know he isn't telling the truth? Trust is the #1 thing in a marriage (love comes second). If you can't trust your spouse, your marriage will fail.
2007-10-23 19:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to confront him/her. If you don't it will continue to create tension and anger between the two of you. It's better to get it out and communicate about the problem, no matter what it is. Nothing good can come from you being upset about their dishonesty and them being upset at you for badgering them.
My husband had a hard time with overspending before we married and it caused problems because I would find expenses and ask and he would deny them. It really helped when I discussed it with him rather than let myself get even more upset about it. He was worried about disappointing me because he knew he needed to work on it. Talking about it brought us closer and has helped us avoid larger problems in our marriage.
2007-10-23 19:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by Addie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their not being honest, and you know their not, it just gives you something to really think about! IF their denying something, yet YOU know the truth, let it drop! Why keep pressuring them to keep lieing? Just know what to watch for from now on.
2007-10-23 19:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a very good question, I wish I knew the answer it sure would help me out on some days. Good luck with finding the answer!!
2007-10-23 19:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by PG with #3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistics or proof..... Then the denial is moot.... Good luck Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-23 19:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont, he knows he did it and you know it too, why do you you need him to admit to it? i never understood the question. once i had proof of something my husband did it was enough for me, i told him i know, but i wont make a fool out of myself and throw the proof in his face, i have more pride and i am an adult, i am not a teacher that needs to show a first grader he did something bad and lied about it.....
2007-10-23 19:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by not this way 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew too. I had bank statements, and he still won't fess up!
2007-10-23 19:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋