To play love connection in hooking up his friend with a co-worker? He works out of state and comes home every weekend. At first I thought nothing of it but now there is another girl he gossips about. Keep in mind I call them girls because they are 18-20. I don't think its right for him to even say a word to them because he's married and he shouldn't be wasting his time on gossiping or trying to hook up his friend when he's there to work. Today, a male co-worker of his gave him an ugly look. When he started to talk about it a month ago, I didn't say anything. Now, theres another girl along with the first he gossips about and I had to call him out on it. He says I'm being jealous and he doesn't even talk to these girls he only did it once to hook his friend up which I think its stupid because we are not in high school anymore for such games, he says its just gossip he hears. But then again both of his brothers had affairs with women at work! What do you think, am I overreacting?
2007-10-23 10:55:24 · 14 answers · asked by ♪♫♫♪ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep in mind, he works out of state which makes the situation difficult. I don't agree with this since I believe he's making himself look stupid by being involved in this situation.
2007-10-23 11:02:56 · update #1
"That someone special" thanks for the comment.
I think matchmaker only makes the women interested on the person trying to match and they forget about the friend. Being the fact that he's married might make these girls want him instead of the single guy.
2007-10-23 11:07:00 · update #2
I think you are right. He should not be engaging in this type of gossip and small talk. As a married man, it isn't right. I hope he listens to you.
2007-10-23 11:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should tell him that you're not interested in hearing his gossip. Ask him to stop telling you about this garbage. I don't think he's having an affair. I just think that he doesn't have anything better to talk about. If he gets caught gossiping at work then he'll get himself into trouble. It's not worth him losing his job over. It just sounds like he's not getting his actual work accomplished. His employer will probably figure out on their own that your husband's gossiping is causing a problem.
2007-10-23 18:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you thinking your husband is fooling around too? I say if the young ladies are up for fun and they fool around then alls fair..... One thing to watch out for, if you start giving hubby hell about the gossiping, and being that he's telling you all, he might stop telling you all. The same things could keep going on but you won't be in the loop. Don't do anything that gets you out of that loop of information. Also make sure hubby is not up to no good Good Luck
2007-10-23 18:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your wrong to be a little suspicious. Tell him you don't want him playing match-maker and that you would prefer if he wasn't talking to all these young girls about their social lives or too much at all outside of what is needed for work. He shouldn't be involved with rumors anyway.
2007-10-23 18:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Dani Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. My husband somethimes feels like he has to be match maker for his fellow Marines and it gets annoying. These men should be able to find women on there own. He needs to take your feeling into consideration and drop the whole thing. Cuz I know half the time the girl he tries to set his friend up with starts to become more interested in him the his friend, and thats where the problem begins.
2007-10-23 18:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by That Special Someone 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you are right too it is stupid and childish and really none of his business. what important of it to him whether his friend gets a date or not? shouldnt his friend be looking for his own date? he is married and he should be worried about you know his friend and for a man to gossip is childish also and from what i hear women are the ones who gossip?
2007-10-23 19:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by cylenneh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask me you guys are all pathetic.
If he wants to cheat he will. If you make him feel like all his activities are being scrutinized by the Gestapo (you) then he will tire of your bickering. If he feels like his job is interesting enough that he comes home and tells you about it then that's great do you know how many people would die to be able to have a civilized conversation with their spouse that does not pertain to kids or bills?
As women we need to stop being so over critical of our men that's why half of them want to leave you now, they don't feel like they can be their selves, these women in the office they act they actually care about how our husband's feel that's why they cheat
2007-10-23 18:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by iampricelessru 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be a little concerned. But just because brothers cheated does not mean your husband will. I would tell him to let his friend find his own girlfriend. It is not your husbands business whether or not his friend had a girlfriend. Just ask him to step back and not to worry about his friend.
2007-10-23 18:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Behavin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You husband is very immature.
He is not the husband he should be. He is playing the market hopping that something might come along for his enjoyment. Don't let his excuses calm you down. Tell him to grow up and he has to stop what he is doing immediately or he will have to face the consequences and tell him that you are not bluffing.
2007-10-23 18:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Theres a name for a man that arranges get togethers with women. It's called a pimp.
You madam...are not overreacting by any stretch of the imagination
2007-10-23 18:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋