I'm asking this as it says it in "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus". It mentions that when a man reaches a level of intimacy with a woman meaning they get very close mentally, he feels the need to withdraw and be on his own, its therefore up to the woman to understand this and relax i.e. don't chase or call him or even worry because he'll be back and when he does, he'll want to continue getting close to the woman. Guys, do you get this?!
I'm going thru this with my bf of 2 1/2 yrs. We spent the weekend together, had a great time, he was even talkin bout his desire to get married next yr, didn't mention to me but in general, anyway, he texted me once I came home saying he had fun, thanks for comin etc....since then he has been acting distant. Called him a few nights ago, but he didn't answer but has been online MSN. I don't wanna make a fuss because the book mentions he may just be pulling away, but how do I know for sure?! I'm confused, I thought we were getting closer!
2007-10-23 12:24:17 · 12 answers · asked by Nikita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because they are worthless and no good and cant commit to any relationship, there are some good ones out there though
2007-10-23 12:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Give him his space. Accept that he has taking some time away from you and the relationship. Understand that in no way is he being selfish towards you but once in a while we all need "me" time. From previewing what you wrote, it seems to be a strong connection. Do not fret over things you know nothing about because it leads you to jump to conclusions and possible be totally wrong. I am sure he'll explain to you what has been going on with. The thoughts that have been plagueing his mind and heart. You're a woman and he's a man, we take things in differently. When see themselves looking at the big picture it isn't always a clearly rooted as a woman's perspective. Relax and let time take its course. He'll call. He'll visit. He'll do all the things he should do to keep his title as your boyfriend and probably future husband. Love is a wonderful thing to have and a horrible thing to lose.
2016-05-25 06:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman will leave a man sooner or later. Not maybe. Not if. She will. When is the only question. Why should we get too close then? Answerer number one said it all: men suck. Because women do. We just operate on a more practical and simple notion: everyone does it and men say it, too. Women lie, trick, and hold relationships to unworkable high standards and when they come to that realization, they take off.
2007-10-23 12:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sarrafzedehkhoee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've experienced that, and I believe it's a normal, natural cycling of autonomy vs intimacy. Consider that mothers are the primary caretakers for most children, and that for male children, it's always a struggle for independence from mother, but also a need for her love. So, growing up, males wander further and further from parents, but always check back to make sure the love and support are there. Be willing to let him go, and know that if the golden thread of love is stretchable, and flexible, he'll be back, because there is love.
2007-10-23 12:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be a number of reasons. I was dating a guy for 2 years who did this. He said he needed some time to get with God and prepare for the future. We were on friendly terms, but did not go on a date for 8 months. After the 8 months, he wrote me a letter telling me to meet him at a train station. A man was there in a tux (one of his friends) and a red corvet. He drove me up to a mountain, and there is where my "friend" proposed to me at the top. We've been married for two years!
2007-10-23 12:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one experience like this. I guess I got very nerverous, very uneasy. I made a mistake, though. Luckily I learned from my mistake so I won't do it again--it costed me a very valuable relationship.
Well, just give him some time alone. Take it easy on him. Maybe that would help?
2007-10-23 12:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the two of you are probably just friends and need to take it easy he will come around when he feels like it or if you want to then talk to him on your issue if you feel it's necessary but you know that's how some guys are!!!! when they get to close they pull away its just them or their just scared of intimacy like some women are!!!
2007-10-23 12:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by alex t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its becuse of our fathers who have been afraid of commitment for some reason so guys now-a-days are having commirment problems because we are scared of loosing our ego
2007-10-23 12:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by Komedian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus Christ will you get away from me? Just lemme alone for a minute will you?
You're always hanging on me and asking me this goddamn bizzare male/female questions!
Quit trying to figure me out! I've given up on figuring out you ladies a long time ago!
Oh...sorry. What were you saying hun?
2007-10-23 12:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hey thats a good book..it also says don't question gys so much..give them their space they want (let them go into their 'cave' and when hes ready he'll come back to you. you just have to accept it, not ask why.
2007-10-23 13:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Danu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most men are scare on commitments. just gave him a break for a few days. them look for him. ask him what wrong with him.? why he is behaving so.? and to be honest.. good luck!!
2007-10-23 12:30:48 · answer #11 · answered by ^^Smile^^ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋