hey peoplez..i dont plan to get married..ever..why?cuz right now im single and chillin and livin a drama-free life from any realtionship...when i get married that means i gotta be home at like 10pm instead of playin ball with my boys till like 1am...i cant play my ps2 until how long i want to...i gotta tell her where im at,where im goin,who callin me,who is that girl callin me even tho she cud be my 49year old boss!!!! why get married?its all drama right?for the guys that have been married and now are divorced and are livin the stress free..well drama free life answer this to me i shudnt get married right?i dont want to but i mean its all drama right?agian im 20,never smoked or drinked and im still a virgin but i dont want no daayum drama u feel me?so is being marrried all drama and stress?and plus on top of that in a few months im bout to become a vice president of a multi-millionar dollar company and im bout to be a multi-millionare so let me know guys/girls.
2007-10-23 12:10:02 · 21 answers · asked by ESPN NEWS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To each his own. If you don't want to get married, then don't.
Personally, I would be mighty lonely at night without my hubby.
And no, there is no drama here, because we have love and respect for each other.
2007-10-23 12:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no right answer for your question. You marry someone when you are ready. Ready meaning totally in love, you trust this person & you are totally commited. Not everyone who is in love and is ready, gets married. Marriage is the shelter where families are created. Some marriages do bend, and some will break, but we can't lose faith in marriage or become afraid of it. "Remember that trouble attracts attention! We travel the highway with thousands of cars moving in either direction without paying much attention to any of them. But should an accident occur, we notice immediately.
If it happens again, we get the false impression that no one can go safely down the road.
One accident may make the front page, while a hundred million cars that safely pass are not regarded as worth mentioning. Don't fear marriage because you or someone you know may have had a poor marriage. Every person is different & everyone desirves a chance."
2007-10-23 19:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage does not mean that you have 'another boss.' You gain a partner who helps you thru whatever life throws at you. As for curfews and restrictions, my husband goes out with the guys and plays WarCraft, PS2, and Wii and I go out with my girls, shop, and read. We also do alot of things together and enjoy our time together. Marriage is what you make it and what works for you and your spouse. When you find the right person to marry it won't feel like a chore for you and you will be willing to sacrifice for that person. On the other hand, some people don't ever get married, and there's nothing wrong with that either.
2007-10-23 19:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Addie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you. I'd suggest waiting another 10 years before you make such a statement. At 20 you think you know everything. I was there too. Guess what? You don't.
Who knows what the future holds? At some point you may meet a nice girl and want to start a family. Hopefully by then you'll drop the Gangsta persona. Gangstas don't live very long.
2007-10-23 19:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by m k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If getting married means your husband will exepect more or different form you, why will NOT getting married change that?
Eventually he will STILL want the SAME THING.
Also shacking ,sex and making babies is NOT a committment.It is a trial for as long as a person want to try it and if something "better comes along" how convenient since one foot is already out the door.
Your kids will be asked"why does your mom and dad have different last names?
You will just be his sex toy,not companion.If you have companionship and you are REALLY both what you are at your best and worst with one another, then THAT wont change after marriage.
If you (or both of you or one of you) are PRETENDING to be something you are not and putting up with things you do not like, your shack up will eventually end.
Theres so much more.
2007-10-23 19:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with what is making your heart full for now. Once you find the lady of your life, you may change your mind, but may not!
A stress free life doesn't really exist in the real world hon! Your job sounds like it will be stressful. IF your a kind loveing human being, that alone will ease all stress IF you ever decide to marry!!
2007-10-23 19:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You surely should stay away from the thoughts about marriage - atleast for now and some long time. You can play with your "boys" and your "ps2" to your hearts content. I really mean it - marriage has nothing in it for a person like you who, atleast for now, cannot think of any thoughts which betray the signs of readiness to marry....you are ways away from that mental state.
But, let me tell you this, when you feel the need of that someone who can be yours....and to whom you can belong to....a real person who loves you for who you are...don't be embarrassed by this moment of stupidity - Change your mind, find that someone and get married. We all will be happy for you.
Have fun, while you can enjoy it.
2007-10-23 19:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by The Pianist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to get marry anyhow. plus problaby in the next 10 or 15 yrs ur pals would be married and you single if you had not decided yet. having no one waiting for u. anyway. keep enjoying your life when you are ready the person will come and you will have a second or a third thought about getting marry. ciaoo. good luck!!!
2007-10-23 19:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by ^^Smile^^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have love you'll wish you never wanted that than you'll finally understand that it's NOT all drama in fact it's amazing...with ups and downs but that's life. But hey if you want that than fine have fun growing up lonely. Cuz your boys might not always be there for you when this girl could of been. Oh well.
2007-10-23 19:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Simplicity ♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are not ready to settle down and you should be ready for that step when the time comes. When you meet the right person you will known and none of this stuff you speak of or worry about will matter and you will gladly want to be home by 10 etc etc So dont sweat it your havent meet the right person
2007-10-23 19:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by Party Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋