He won't keep a job and I am tired of working for both of us. When I leave him, he gets a job that lasts until I return. I have a hard job and he accuses me of other men. I am so stressed. I have left him and don't think I want him back this time. He constantly calls and begs. How do I make him leave me alone? I'm afraid he couldn't handle the rejection and would stalk me.
2007-10-23 11:56:56 · 26 answers · asked by woodedlane11 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bottom line -- tell him it's over. Get an unlisted number and avoid him like the plague. If he stalks you, call the police and get a restraining order.
Sadly, it may require a change of address to an area that's not as convenient as you'd like. And he may cause problems for you at work.
But you now have enough info and history to prove that he's not really going to change and that his talk is just that -- talk. Get out. Now. Let him sort out his own problems, and pray for him that he does. If he doesn't and if he does cause problems, then he needs to deal with the law.
You move on with your life and don't ever enter a relationship with anyone who remotely reminds you of this guy. Take care of yourself. Period.
2007-10-23 12:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by CapnPen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand these kind of people are sick.. You need to go to the county court house and see the District Attorney or the Sheriff and get a PFA I am a retired Deputy Sheriff and I have delivered 1000's of them.. It is a protection from abuse order and states that the guy has to stay away from you and cant come closer than 100 feet, he cant call you or send you notes and cant communicate through anyone to you about anything... Do it ASAP... Good luck Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-23 12:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one, but relationships that are held together by the sympathy string are doomed. There is no real good answer, that string must be pulled at some point. I think if you are afraid he will be unable to accept the breakup you must consider a stealthy get away. Prepare to move...and do it quickly when you do. If he shows up at your work, get a restraining order immediately. A clean cut heals soonest; for both of you.
2007-10-23 12:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by zootriotus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to go back to his mother. You are not his mom nor do you want to be a mom to him. He is a grown man that needs to grow up or move back home with the parents.
If you are afraid of him stalking you or if he begins to stalk you then file a report with the police and get a restraining order.
2007-10-23 12:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Honestly, It sounds like you know what you have to do. I'm worried he might stalk you too, but the longer you delay it the worse you will make the problem. Be very clear and confident and let him know that you are done with the relationship and nothing he can say or do will change your mind. Don't show any doubt in your decision and hopefully he will leave for good. You will have to be strong.
2007-10-23 12:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Meep, the Kind Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister left a relationship of 13 years after 2 kids and a newly bought house. She just left him and ran off with her first love who she hadn't seen in (coincidently) 13 years after just being one night together. Everyone thought she was crazy to leave her 2 young daughters behind and move to a different city 4 hrs away. Anyways, karma got her back soo bad that she's living with his mom, with a new baby who she can't support and the guy is such a loser. What I'm trying to say is... If you really want to.. you'd do it.. assuming you don't have kids together. Just break ties with him and start fresh. The story about my sister.. I don't know.. just had to let it out.
2007-10-23 12:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by ******* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a contact break from him for a couple months- have friends or family get what you need from his place. Don't answer his calls if you don't need to talk to him. Take him out of your cell list and block his emails. Staying with someone because you're scared of him is the last reason you should stick around. He sounds like trouble and you should definately leave the situation. Good luck
2007-10-23 12:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him to stop calling you. If he keeps doing it after that. you can file on him for harassment. If he stalks you, call the police and file on him for stalking, you should also be able to request a protection order. On the other side, you can stop answering his calls, and try to take time for yourself, you do not have to start dating right away, but as you have said, you have a hard job and you need to take care of yourself. I think you made the right decision by leaving him.
2007-10-23 12:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by Settelbanat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? Serve him with divorce papers. It's time to change your phone number and be clear with him that you are finished. There are anti-stalking laws and if it comes to it, you could get a restraining order. If you are concerned at all for your safety, it may be a good idea to begin the process for a temporary restraining order. Be strong in your convictions and move on. Good luck!
2007-10-23 12:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Shibi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That man is a leach.
He is living of you and that is okay for him. He is not staying with you because of love....that is for sure. Since you left this leach already, keep him away and if he is bothering you call the police and a get restraining order for him to stay away from you.
2007-10-23 12:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋