Marriage & Divorce - 17 October 2007

My annoying, obnoxious and controlling ex came into my work to pretty much threaten me. He didn't like the sarcastic message I left on his cell phone. I didn't yell or swear in the message, just thanked him for not calling me regarding one of our kids. He told me never to leave him a message like that again and he doesn't have to call me if he doesn't want to. We have 50/50 custody and I think we should communicate regarding our children. He thinks the kids should have to tell me things instead of him. How immature is that! His attitude and personality is a big reason he is an EX!! Should I just ignore it or let my lawyer know?

2007-10-17 04:35:52 · 15 answers · asked by mommacat 4

My fiancé is going through a lot of stress right now. He is self employed, and is not making near the amount of money that he used to. There isn't enough money to pay all the bills! I have a job also, I work 5 nights a week. I do all that, plus I take care of ALL the household duties. He is moody, bitchy, and just plain miserable to be around. I told him not to take all his frustration out on me and he said, "Well I have to take it out on you, because I don't have anyone else to take it out on!". If I wanted to work my a*s off, and still come home and do EVERYTHING, I would be single.

2007-10-17 04:34:59 · 31 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

My husband of 20 years has been going to a strip club for a year already. I asked him to stop even said if u go again I'll leave u and he promise I'll stop but he's still going. The bad part is last year I caught him on the phone with a striper.I know cause I checked his phone bill. He was tolking to at lease 3 20 year old strippers. He's 46. He called them almost every day.
When I found out he said that he would stop talking to them. What do I do. He only goes 1 day of the week for at least 3-4 Hrs. He's home with me the rest of the day's. I's it cheating or just a man just relaxing and drinking beer with his buddy? Searious questions only please.

2007-10-17 04:27:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has full custody of his two children. His ex-wife owes him thousands of dollars in child support, medical expenses, and debts from their divorce. My husband thankfully paid off all of the debts recently ON HIS OWN without her help, despite her agreement in the decree to pay half. He still needs her to pay him back, however, but she refuses to do so. I suppose she thinks she doesn't have to because she hates him and thinks he'll spend it on something for himself instead of on the children or medical bills, which I think is totally immature, since my husband is the most responsible person I have ever met, UNLIKE HER. He spent five years paying off all the debts she left him (over $48,000), sacrificing everything for his two children, whom he loves unconditionally. It makes me sick the way she acts like she's the victim in this situation, even though she CREATED it and her children suffer because of it. Any suggestions how to handle this? My loved ones are hurting.

2007-10-17 04:15:33 · 16 answers · asked by Laughing_Chick 3

Does this mean he dosent love me any more? or does it mean I am not satsfining him or is he worried he is not pleasing me please help I am so confused

2007-10-17 04:04:10 · 34 answers · asked by chrissy k 1

Months after the guy who abused me, swore at me, cheated on me with his boss texted message my cell phone asking if I am around and he wants to say hello and see me. I did not reply yet but in this case what would you do? Reply or not reply at all? Or something else? What could he want?

2007-10-17 04:01:01 · 80 answers · asked by bubi 2

We recently married and I had never seen him drink while we were dating (he hid it well), we dated for a year. After we married he "came clean" with me about his alchoholism. So here it is.....20 years ago when he graduated college he got into some serious trouble with alchohol and had to choose between rehab or jail. Obviously he chose rehab and AA. Ok, so he never quit drinking he just drank more "socially" on the weekends and then about five years ago his wife is diagnosed with Breast cancer and he is drinking to deal with that. She passed (I know very sad) three years ago and up unitl our marriage (4months ago) he admitted he was drinking when the kids went to bed in his bedroom until he passed out and this was every night. Now we are married and I have noticed some drinking and I don't like it, my ex was an alchoholic and it was terrible. So I haven't seen any beer for months until last night when I found his whiskey above the stove? See he can hide it in his Pepsi.

2007-10-17 04:00:14 · 20 answers · asked by LilSunbeam 4

Ok well I am pregnant with my husbands brothers baby BUT i found out that my husband was cheating on me with another man soooo does it make it ok????

2007-10-17 04:00:11 · 21 answers · asked by Beth 3

Just wondering what peoples opinion is on this.. How young is too young to be married? And Why is that too young? How young is too young to have children and why?

2007-10-17 03:57:53 · 11 answers · asked by Special K 2

Our relationship has suffered. He hasn't work in 6 years as he is trying to get disability. I have become the main breadwinner. I also go to school full time. Because of all the meds he is on he has no sex drive or basically no feelings about anything. I have to intiate any affection if I want a hug or kiss. I love my husband and have suggested we need therapy because of how our relationship has changed but no response from him. I need suggestions I'm so lonely.

2007-10-17 03:55:33 · 4 answers · asked by Sassyred 2

when i got married i promised to love and support my wife and homour her with my body . she promised the same...

now we are getting divorced, she still expects to be supported.

but she wont come up with the sex...

is this fair

2007-10-17 03:52:18 · 10 answers · asked by J-C-T J 2

I don't do this to my ex husband...for many reasons, mostly respect for our daughter and for him as her father. However I am certain if I did cause problems with his girlfriends or wife if he had one that I would be in huge trouble somehow and he wouldn't stand for it. What is it that my husband could do to back her off....she is always calling, controling, bashing and manipulating. She even picked fights with the three girlfriends he had before me...arguments in his house. I really need for this to stop before my head twists off....it is making me nuts.

2007-10-17 03:51:32 · 16 answers · asked by Rein 5

can some you ladies(men too) give me recipes?

2007-10-17 03:49:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

my ex and i broke up about 3 months ago..I did have my goodbyes with his son (very sad) but i had to break it off with his dad since he was incapable of telling the truth...I guess he was a pathological liar...
Anyway, i havent seen or heard from him or his son (which is probably for the best) I guess im feeling the guilt (which i shouldnt) but its that stage of the healing process where i am feeling guilty thinking i abondoned my ex and his son.....Has anyone ever experienced this before?

2007-10-17 03:47:41 · 4 answers · asked by kakeydec 4

I think so! £50m for a short marriage is taking the P in anyones book!

2007-10-17 03:44:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't know why I keep searching for more proof, but I do. I was advised he got a hotel room with a woman sometime around this past April. I know the hotel, but also know he would have paid cash. It's not likely the hotel would give me that information, since I'm not him, but I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas? Or....do any of you know anyone who works for Red Roof Inn who would be able to tell me?

2007-10-17 03:42:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i like this girl a lot and im a cancer, but she is a leo. we are dating and it seems she is the one. who here has a successful LEO and CANCER marriage?
and who believes that the compatibility with different horoscopes makes a true telling of who you should choose?
thanks...
take care and god bless

2007-10-17 03:36:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

do you think it is wrong to set a deadline for the two of you to marry? I know after one or two years an ultimatum is bad, but after 10 years, is it fair?

2007-10-17 03:20:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

First he left her for me, He has a phone but she does not have his number. I just found out that every chance that he gets away from me he calls her on his best friend phone. I dont believe he goes to see her because he is always with me. He calls her form his moms house. She was in the hospital this past weekend he went to go see her he even spent the night with her friday night. We have sex all the time so it couldn't be sex. Does he still care about her because if you left her you still shouldn't be calling her? Men does he still care for her should I call her?

2007-10-17 03:09:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a history of choosing the wrong men in my life the abusive ones, the men who dont want to help me out in life so im single now and raising my 9 year old son who does not belong to my husband, it does get lonely but im holden out for the right one im 38 and if it never comes i guess ill be alone forever, any suggestions ty jewels

2007-10-17 03:02:07 · 13 answers · asked by jewels 2

I am divorced person.I got marraige on just three years ago and having one daughter aged Two.After marraige,my Ex-wife always gone to her parents house and stayed with them.Whenever I called her to live with me or stay with me,she began to blame me that I am lazy,I am not worth to earn money to run the family.Still she talk about me that I am the liar,towards her relations and family.Her parents also supporting their daughter and says that they are not ready to sent her daughter to live with me.I have waited for her along past two years,and tried many way to compramise her,but all in vain.I have filed case at court to make her to live with me.But she is not ready to live with me.But another point is,If I talk to her means,She will not hesistate,and talk with me as lovable person.At last I have appealed for divorce,she also accept it,
ready to give a divorce .I got disappointed in my marraige life.If I set my mind towards in alternative way I Can't.Please make my vision in right way.

2007-10-17 02:46:18 · 7 answers · asked by madawin 1

2007-10-17 02:42:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I are seperated.

Her 1st husband has been a real jerk to her for months since moving her ex sister in law into his house with him as his g/f , she uses drug's and is known for abuse physically and emotionally towards her ex step daughter , my wife's niece.

The problem is , my step daughter has to by court order visit her dad every 2nd weekend and the last time they had her they bullied her into a hair cut she didnt want she's 9.

My wife has a son who was conceived while her and her ex husband were seperated for a year back in 1994 , he begged her to take him back and after 7 months she caved and he's been raising this boy as his own ever since , his real father had no guts and when he was told to stay out of the boys life he did and moved to another state.But her ex husband decided he didnt want to be the boys dad anymore and stopped visitation accusing him of all sort's of stupid thing's.

Now the ex husband wants custody of my wife's daughter and is claiming ..

2007-10-17 02:39:48 · 9 answers · asked by Dragon 2

my ex husband had an affair with a "friend" of mine. WE were married 23yrs . WE have been divorced 1month . He is trying now to get my 15 yr old daughter to meet this woman.. She backstabbed me lied to me stole my husband and took their daddy. It infuriates me to the point of uncounciousness that he doesn't understand how insensitive this request is.. I dislike him more and more each day but I dispise her for now trying to get in good with my children which is all I have.. Someone tell me what to do

2007-10-17 02:39:39 · 35 answers · asked by jusayg 2

he owes the company we work, all the income is the family trust which i'm not included, i came here with nothing, he pays for everything, my son, my niece education, am i asking to much, but i really work hard, really hard i just dont have the guts to tell him that i would like to have a salary or just work for somebody else, but i still be working with him i just wanna work just a couple of hours to to others so i could have some money for my self,

2007-10-17 02:32:00 · 13 answers · asked by CECILIA 1

2007-10-17 02:31:53 · 6 answers · asked by ameeker 3

My boyfriend and I have talked a little about marriage. He says that he doesnt want to get married because his grandfather, father and brother have been divorced. Also that everyone that he knows that has been married their new wife acts like they own the man and he doesnt want to be trapped like that. I told him that was the most BS reason that I have ever heard.

From my side why would I want to stay with someone that is never going to want to marry me? Never move forward in our relationship just stay idle. Granted I love him very much and I would love to spend the rest of my life with him but I feel like he just isnt willing to fully commit himself to me.

2007-10-17 02:28:15 · 48 answers · asked by Heather B 4

I have been married for 6 years and love my husband very much. We have 3 kids and I wouldn't change a thing. During the last few semesters of college I met a guy that I became very good friends with. We did projects together, sat by each other, and helped each other. He gave me his number for projects (we never met outside of class). He is also married with 1 kid.

We had a lot in common so it was very easy to talk (we both farm, hunt, etc... both come from a small farming community). Our conversations sometimes had sexual content, not about us but about sex in general. And yes I am like this with most guys (and do it in front of my husband) since I am more confortable with them than girls (grew up with guys). My husband knows this and is okay with it.

Why can't I stop thinking about him? I see him in my dreams. We still talk since he is borrowing some books, but not for 3 months. I would NEVER cheat on my husband. I can't get him out of my head. My husband knows I think he's hot

2007-10-17 02:26:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

In other words, do you agree that women should only limit their choices of marriage to men who come from the same culture as they do? ... and why? ... thanks ...this is for a debate so thats why i asked it here to see what other people think...

2007-10-17 02:25:51 · 28 answers · asked by ? 1

fake ploy to sell timeshares?
They tell you to come in the mall to pick up your prize. when there really is no prize at all.
They just want you to look at their 15 min sales pitch, give you refreshments and pitch a timeshare sale to you.
When a guy called me to tell me I won, and i asked it was for timeshares...he pretended it wasnt...then i was asking too much details..and he hung up on me. I hate that sh*T.
My wife signed up. ugh

2007-10-17 02:24:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous