First he left her for me, He has a phone but she does not have his number. I just found out that every chance that he gets away from me he calls her on his best friend phone. I dont believe he goes to see her because he is always with me. He calls her form his moms house. She was in the hospital this past weekend he went to go see her he even spent the night with her friday night. We have sex all the time so it couldn't be sex. Does he still care about her because if you left her you still shouldn't be calling her? Men does he still care for her should I call her?
2007-10-17 03:09:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What exactly did you expect? He proved he isn't to be trusted when he left her for you. Not to get all Dr Phil......... but if he'll do it WITH you, he'll do it TO you.
Wake up....................... this guy isn't sure what he wants. He's with her, he wants you...... he's with you, he wants her. Get some PRIDE........... tell him that the door is THAT way and not to let it hit him where the good Lord split him. Let him go.... you deserve better than this.....
2007-10-17 03:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well you first need to understand the dynamic of they're relationship. Was it a long relationship? Were they very good friends before? When they split, was it a good break?
These are things that need to be addressed.
Many men, including myself here, remain friends with an ex even after they've moved on. Normally it is because there was a friendship that was stronger then the relationship, and sometimes it is because there are still lingering feelings. As far as calling her, I would not recommend that you do this. So going forward, unless you have reason NOT to trust him, I'd get off the jealousy trip. Because he's probably not telling you about the communication he has with her because he knew that you would react like this.
2007-10-17 10:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no you shouldn't call her, what are you thinking? It doesn't sound like she is the one pursuing him at all, "every chance he gets away from me he calls her", "she was in the hospital and he went to see her and even spent the night", tha's not HER that is HIM pursing her. She's in a hospital for Goodness sake I don't think she could be stalking from there. Yea (DUH) I think your man does still care for this woman very much, and it's just a matter of time before he leaves you for her. I would bet that right now she is not all that interested in him and he is trying to win her back. Once he does it's "hit the road Jack" for you. But I think if you call her you are making a total and complete fool of yourself. Your problem is with your man and if it were me I would get the hint and get out of their lives to allow them to finish what hasn't been resolved. The writting is on the wall......are you illiterate?
2007-10-17 10:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can ask this question a million times and the answer will still be the same. He left her because he was hurt, not because he doesn't love her. YES, he still cares for her. You can confront him all you want; but until he's ready to go back to her, he's going to lie. Why? Because he doesn't want to be without regular sex (which is the purpose you are serving). A man who addresses women as being "hoes" is not that much of a catch anyway; so you need to decide if you want to keep playing his game!
2007-10-17 10:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he still cares for her. And she must still care for him or she would not receive his calls. There is a need being filled here by those calls. And both of them are getting fulfilled. Sex is not necessarily the motivator, just good ole history together.
There is nothing wrong with confronting the problem with your man. Just leave him some options.
bob
2007-10-17 10:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Bob 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He spent the whole night with her? and your still convinced their not having sex? righttttt ok great fantastic , and I have an island in the south pacific for sale real cheap good bargain for you.
Wake up honey he's not over her and spending the whole night ? he wasnt sleeping on the couch , I'm a man I wouldnt sleep on the couch.
2007-10-17 10:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by Dragon 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do still talk to my ex on rare occasions, but there's no GOOD reason why he should be calling her all the time, and especially not sneaking around to do it. I would most definitely confront him about it, but do it tactfully and tell him what your thoughts are about it. Maybe it's just that he still wants to maintain a friendship with her, but he's afraid you'll be mad about it. Like I said, I am still friends with a few of my exes, but my wife knows about all of them, and she has no problem with the ones I still talk to. COMMUNICATION!!! That's the important thing.
2007-10-17 10:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by something strange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex with u all time doesn't mean he will not go to her. Men r like this .
He has not forgotten her completely. But don;t loose hope u can get him back but rem his ex is also trying to get him back .
So u will have to talk to both of them first separately and then together
2007-10-17 10:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by Rita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U say he's always with u but he visited her in the hospital (without u) and he spent Friday night with her (without u). Come out of denial it's VERY clear to me what's going on!!!
2007-10-17 10:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by Frank S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he still cares for her and the minute she gives him any encouragement, he will be back with her. he may tell you that he left her but perhaps she threw him out for cheating on her with someone else. i wouldn't call her but I would tell him to stay away until he makes up his mind who he wants. and if that breaks up your relationship, you will have your answer. you can find someone then more interested in you than an ex wife or girlfriend
2007-10-17 10:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋