Marriage & Divorce - 17 October 2007

See around when I was eight years old, I discovered that the man in my life was not my biological father, but merely just someone my mother had married. I want to know how I can find my biological father. His name is Robert Gardner. He lives in Memphis Tennesse. What do I need to do first in order to find out information about how I can find him. I know many of you will say that he is not going to want to want to be a part of my life. But I just have to see him or I know I will always wonder. Is there anyone who can help?

2007-10-17 08:35:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married and then divorced, married and right now I'm going through another divorce. My man wants to get married but this will be my third marrege and I'm affraid that this one will end up the same way as the others. I don't want to be that old woman that was married 50 times in her life. I want to settle down and just be happy.

2007-10-17 08:31:55 · 19 answers · asked by jessicabranigin 1

I mean, because the majority of children are from divorced parents today. Should we have a new model and what would it be like?

2007-10-17 08:30:06 · 6 answers · asked by Is that all there is? 4

Which ones get on your nerves the most? The moralists, the informed, the uninformed, or the idiots?

2007-10-17 08:26:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-17 08:26:19 · 11 answers · asked by Persepolis 1

I feel like I'm not doing my job. I'm ALWAYS first at it. What could be the problem?

2007-10-17 08:18:24 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-17 08:14:55 · 13 answers · asked by Persepolis 1

I (23) met my bf (33) in Jan 07. We started seeing each other in June, and shortly after I moved into his house. He is currently seperated. His wife left him Oct 06 after starting a relationship with a man she met online.
My bf has told me that he loves me, wants to be with me, and eventually marry me. He got divorce papers 3 months ago and has done nothing with them. Whenever I ask about them, he goes silent and leaves the room.
He wont hear a bad word said about his wife because she is the mother of his 2 children (7 & 2) He uses that line a lot. And it really hurts, because we accidently fell pregnant and after several weeks of him saying everything would be ok, we would be a family one day, I had a termination at 15 weeks. When I agreed to it, I asked if he would start the divorce so we could start planning our future and he said yes. But it's been 3 weeks since and he has done nothing.
Do you think I'm an idiot? I cant help thinking He's never going to divorce her.

2007-10-17 08:12:13 · 56 answers · asked by T. A. H. 1

Okay having relationship issues, and I'm an ex-cutter!!!
I am having the same feelings I use to get, and DONT want to cut! HELP!
Something I can do to destress, and not hurt myself, I dont want to fall back into that!!!!

2007-10-17 08:12:08 · 21 answers · asked by Jenny 1

My wife says she has no urge to kiss or have sex with me. It's been this way for about 6 years, we've been married for 8. I've tried everything from not asking for it and it goes a year without it, to pressuring, to trying to romance, etc... Nothing works. Is it a bad choice to say I'll let her spend more money on clothes and stuff if she does have sex?

I'm 99% sure she isn't cheating because she is either at work or here. And her work is a small place that I know of near by.

What are your thoughts? Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can actually get some intimacy (kissing, hugging, sex)?

We've also tried counseling (non religuous and through our church). I'm at witts end and going insaine.

2007-10-17 08:11:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

We lived together the past five years and dated for four previous to that. His son has lived with us for the whole time and is now 20. There have been lots of problems between us because his son constantly wanted me out. Ironically, the son (Dave) and I have become close the last year or so. My boyfriend (Sam) seemed to have lost feelings for me the last year. When I asked him a month ago if he wanted to break up, he said yes. He didn't want to go for counselling and refused to talk. I moved out two weeks ago and was feeling o.k. but now I seemed to have hit a wall. I spoke to him yesterday and he told me he has no feelings for me. I asked him if was seeing someone else and he said yes and that he has feelings for her. She is someone he dated nine yrs. ago before me, but would not commit to. He committed to me and we were so totally in love for years. I cannot believe he called her and they are involved again. It hurts to know he is so happy and I feel like never going out.

2007-10-17 08:10:14 · 8 answers · asked by bingoland 1

My husband and I have been married since nov2006. We had a big arguement at his mom house out of state and I told him I was leaving and that I wasnt his wife and I wanted a divorce and that same night he cheated on me with an old fling. This was last month hes 22 and I am 26 what do I do?

2007-10-17 08:01:06 · 62 answers · asked by felotha 1

2007-10-17 07:53:57 · 10 answers · asked by sassykim20 1

My husband been in jail for 2 years 1/2 hes almost out in like 2 weeks..but i cheated on him with 5 different guys so i was doubting my love for my husband..but i feel so guilty when i go see my husband so i dont if i should tell him or no??But im afraid to loose him if i tell him the truth...What should i do???

2007-10-17 07:49:07 · 27 answers · asked by mz_virgo_818@att.net 1

X-husband wants to take children to a Halloween party an hour away, on what is a school night, and doesn't know when he will get back, but the hayride doesn't start until 9 p.m. Children are 2,4, and 6 years old and usually are supposed to be back to me by 8 p.m. (they live with me, but he gets them one evening a week). He wants to keep them overnight after the party and get them to school the next morning. If I don't let them go, he'll likely tell them that "mommy wouldn't let me take you to a party" and make them sit home (he doesn't approve of trick or treating). Should I let them go, offer to extend the return time until...? 10?... Or just tell him no, that the proposed party is too far away and goes too late. Oh, and his house is 30 minutes from their schools, so they would have to get up extra early the next morning to be on time.

2007-10-17 07:43:09 · 25 answers · asked by Melissa C 2

But now he decides he is in love with her and that she would drop everything for him. meanwhile, he is married to her best friend, but would drop his wife for mine. What do i do?

2007-10-17 07:38:33 · 19 answers · asked by Nano 4

my husband and I have been married for seven years this year. He has been having affairs but just looking at him you wouldntt say he is that type of person. He has been physically verbally and emotionally abusive to me. His mother takes his side. Recently he has been having and affair. When someone called the girls workplace,(which is also where his sister works) to say she should lose her job they blamed me. Now the girl received a text via a computer to her phone and he took the girl to the police station and gave them my name and workplace number and said I was the one who sent the text because it mentioned having an affair with someone. They have no proof that it was me but i was called by the police. What should I do when my husband has taken the girl he is having an affair with to make a police report on me. He states that if I loved him I should still wash his clothes and cook and iron even though I believe he has someone else. He says he should'nt give me money because I work

2007-10-17 07:37:14 · 29 answers · asked by moniwat 1

He did this at the "moment of truth" if you know what I mean. He is a great husband and father, we have been married for 12 years so this really shocked the hell out of me! What does it mean??

2007-10-17 07:29:09 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

how can i express this to her there r many factores to take into consideration

2007-10-17 07:28:16 · 26 answers · asked by michael h 1

My husband has been in jail a little over 2 weeks for assualt on me, we've been married almost 2 years and since hes been gone I've been with another guy, a guy that is so nice and sweet and caring, and I have fallen for him and he has me to. I know it seems wrong but is it really?

2007-10-17 07:22:54 · 33 answers · asked by nextelfan25 4

My hubby and I are very sexual with each other and he initiates it often, but we don't kiss as much as we used to. I feel like we used to "make out" all the time and now we just smooch hello, goodbye and here and there throughout the day, but it doesnt seem like he enjoys making out anymore. Weird or what?

2007-10-17 07:21:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please read my prior question to better understand my question. Does my marriage have a chance, do you think if I give my husband space, not call him that in time his heart will soften, that he will come to miss me, or do you think he will never call me and not want to continue in our marriage? I feel so down right now and am looking for serious answers to my questions from people who will really give my questions some thought. Thank you.

2007-10-17 07:07:40 · 12 answers · asked by pictureshygirl 7

Help! I am an attractive 27 year old. My husband is 35. It seems I want to be intimate more than him. He turns me down ALOT. I feel like any other guy would love to have a wife like me. He is happy twice a week but I am not. I want sex every day. Am I being selfish? He claims he doesn't have a low sex drive. I am tired of getting rejected. It is effecting our relationship. When we do, it is great....but not often enough. Can any guys tell me why this could be? Is he too comfortable? I am 100% sure he is not cheating, and I know he loves me. What's up?

2007-10-17 06:00:26 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had post a question about my problem with my husband but I still have more question to ask .I don't know how to make our marriage better if only myself work on it. I am pragnant about 5 month now I want him to be kind to me casue when I upset it was effect the baby too. He like to tell me to clean all the time and nagging me the way I do thing that he don't like he want me to do thing his way... I am cook and clean for him and his son but he still use me the same.. sometime I tired and my belly is bigger everyday I can't move as well as before anymore. I want him to care the baby that I carrying too not just his son...it's kind na hurt sometime to see him give a lot of attention to his son but he never ask or seem to care what inside me. it's his baby too..he think he is right all the time because he is a lot older than me and I have to listen to him...I want to stand up for myself but when come down to the point I don't have any where to go no family here...just want a happy life

2007-10-17 05:36:11 · 40 answers · asked by pae 1

way of responding to the problems with his ex and his children that I have even begun thinking of suicide as a way out. I know I won't do this, however it is a reoccurring thought. He never stands up to the children when they are acting out and telling me to shut up.....I never act like their parent and therefore I am being told to shut up over things like...what would you like for dinner....which usually means three different menus....I do it. His ex is always trying to break us up....he really rarely makes a stand....and now he is saying if I can't make friends with his children, who are the best things that ever happened to him....he doesn't know what he'll do. I feel that I am in an impossible situation because these kids are never going to want to be my friend with all of the basing going on in their custodial parents home......What should I do...should I keep trying for the sake of our marriage or leave.

2007-10-17 05:30:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ladies let's be honest. How many times has your husband taken you out to dinner thinking he might get some sex afterwards? How many times has he bought you jewelry? Taken you on a nice trip? Bought you some nice clothes? Bought you a fancy car? How often do you use sex as an incentive, many times without evening realizing it, to get the things you want, go to the places you want to go, and do the things you want to do?

Why then would you think that talking, bytching, and complaining is going to get your husband to stop playing video games? Looking at porn? Going to strip clubs with friends you don't approve of? Or cutting back on his drinking? If the promise of sex works when you want to go to dinner, go to a movie, go on a trip, get some new earrings, or buy some fancy clothes, then why not use sex as an incentive for getting him to behave the way you want him to behave?

2007-10-17 05:24:23 · 19 answers · asked by ? 5

I recently discovered that my wife has been having an affair with a work college. We tried to work things out but shortly after I found out that she would not stop seeing him and is now pregnant by him, I decided enough was enough and told my wife I wanted a divorce. As expected this other man wants nothing to do with the baby and has advised my wife to get an abortion. My wife now wants us to make our marriage work and raise the child together. The problem is I just cant do that. To me the pregnancy just represents all of the lies and pain that this whole affair has brought about. My wife now tells me that she would get an abortion to save our marriage but the viewpoint of her friends and family is that I should stand by my wife and raise the child together if I really love her. Now I feel so guilty for my decision but I just cant raise the child as my own knowing that I'll resent it for other peoples mistakes. Am I really the bad guy here for not standing by my wife?

2007-10-17 05:23:47 · 72 answers · asked by still ill 1

I had a suspicion my hubby was cheating so I got into his yahoo email. Well there were several dating site emails and porn links. I got into one of them and he had written that he was married looking for a discreet encounter. He signed up for it when I was out of town with friends. I approached him about it, he said he doesnt remember doing that. There were also pictures of some half naked girl saved into his email. He claimed that someone must have sent them and he didnt delete them, but they were in a separate folder marked "Pics" What the hell should I do? Ive logged into his messenger as him and No one has messeged? I dont know whats up?

2007-10-17 05:18:21 · 40 answers · asked by ~The doctors Wife~ 2

The Wedding Test


I was a very happy person. My wonderful girlfriend and I had been
dating for over a year, and so we decided to get married.

There was only one little thing bothering me...It was her beautiful
younger sister.

My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two, wore very tight
miniskirts, and generally was bra-less. She would regularly bend down
when she was near me, and I always got more than a nice view.

It had to be deliberate because she never did it when she was near
anyone else.

One day her "little" sister called and asked me to come over to check
the wedding invitations. She was alone when I arrived, and she whispered
to me that she had feelings and desires for me that she couldn't
overcome.

She told me that she wanted me just once before I got married and
committed my life to her sister.

Well, I was in total shock, and couldn't say a word. She said, I'm
going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want one last wild fling, just
come up and get me."

I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs. I
stood there for a moment, then turned and made a beeline straight to the
front door. I opened the door, and headed straight towards my car.

Lo and behold, my entire future family was standing outside all
clapping! With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law hugged me and said,
"We are very happy that you have passed our little test.

We couldn't ask for better man for our daughter.

Welcome to the family!"

And The Moral

Of This Story is:

Always Keep Your Condoms In Your Car.

2007-10-17 04:52:14 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

HOW MANY OF YOU HATE GOING BACK TO WORK AFTER A HOLIDAY???? AND WHY???

2007-10-17 04:40:47 · 13 answers · asked by LITTLE NUGGET 3