what should I do about my husband?

Question

my husband and I have been married for seven years this year. He has been having affairs but just looking at him you wouldntt say he is that type of person. He has been physically verbally and emotionally abusive to me. His mother takes his side. Recently he has been having and affair. When someone called the girls workplace,(which is also where his sister works) to say she should lose her job they blamed me. Now the girl received a text via a computer to her phone and he took the girl to the police station and gave them my name and workplace number and said I was the one who sent the text because it mentioned having an affair with someone. They have no proof that it was me but i was called by the police. What should I do when my husband has taken the girl he is having an affair with to make a police report on me. He states that if I loved him I should still wash his clothes and cook and iron even though I believe he has someone else. He says he should'nt give me money because I work

Answer 1

You should head straight to the lawyer's office and divorce this jerk! The evidence you have proves the affair. You should take everything you can and don't worry about what his family thinks. His mom is the one who created this monster and she is no better than him!I know it's embarrassing but confide in a trusted friend or family member. You need support. I know you will come out of this just fine. I have been there, too and I KNOW how tough it is. When you get away from him you will feel so much better and wonder what the hell you were thinking to stay so long! I did and have no regrets.

Answer 2

I don't care about who is on your side, If he is abusive, get out now, studies show that it will only get worse. Once a wife beater, ALWAYS a wife beater. Now about the affairs, nobody deserves to be disrespected like that. I case you aren't understanding me, you have a slime ball looser for a husband, that is going to really hurt you if he has'nt already. YOU deserve better, and you are better then that. I will even say that if he even attemps to come after you, first get a restraining order, then if that doen'nt stop him, get a gun, and learn how to use it. Your safety and future depend on you, not anybody else, even the police can't be there fast enough.

Answer 3

There are multiple red flags here:
Abuse physically, emotionally, and verbally
He is having an affair
He is taking his mistress's side over his wife's
He is demanding
Why are you still with this man? Pack up what's left of your pride and leave. This man is a user, a cheater, and an abuser. No one deserves that. I suggest you start telling yourself you have to leave. Get some money saved. Start taking care of YOU and try to get he courage to get out of there ASAP. The stress from this relationship will destroy you and what will it be for? Someone who cares so little for you that they would sleep with other women, abuse you physcially, and disrespect you beyond words.
Try to see the light here and get out. Find someone who will cherish you as you deserve to be. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

Ok what you need to do is tell your husband to go f*ck himself then take all his clothes and throw them in the mud out side, tell him from now on he can cook, clean or have his little wh*re do it for him because not only did he betray you by having an affair but he betrayed you by filing police report on you. Then you need to divorce him. Why would you stick around. You need to be strong enough to have a little bit of pride and leave this a** hole. Im sorry but this story disgusts me. LEAVE HIM!!!!

Answer 5

KICK HIM OUT!!! I can't stress that enough, he's got to go. He even had the nerve to bring the wench to the police station and accuse you. Oh yeah I'd wash his clothes with straight Clorox, and cook his meals with , lets say something very unappetizing. Well and the money issue, he'll have to give you money after you've brought his *** to court. Just make sure you get some pics of him doing his dirt.

Answer 6

Reasons to leave your husband:
1. He is havin an affair
2. He is physically abusive
3. He is emotionally abusive
4. He is verbally abusive

This relationship is totally not fair to you. You deserve better. I don't understand how men can do these things to women. Hunny, you don't deserve that. Your husband seems a little odd to think that you should still do things for him, when obviously he does nothing but hurt you.. Get out of the relationship you DON'T DESERVE THAT! There is someone out there that will treat you how you deserve to be treated.
Best of luck!

And he is truly A LOSER

Answer 7

My God WOMAN! What is wrong with you?! Why would you stay with an unfaithful man that treats you like garbage. Please grow some confidence and self respect and leave this A S S H O L E! He doesn't deserve you! You don't have to put up with his crap or his mothers. She doesn't have anything to do with your relationship. She's not married to him and she'll never see him do any wrong even if he murdered his father! Don't even talk with her about it. Tell him he's on his own and if he wants a mommy to cook and clean and do his laundry he should go back and live with his parents!

Answer 8

I will rarely advise this but here goes. Your husband is an extremely self centered sob and should be cut loose at the very soonest opportunity. The fact that HE knows that YOU know about his flings and is willing to stand behind them at the police station should have been enough to hire an attorney. Kick his butt to the gutter where his mind is already.

Answer 9

Girl, if you put up with this bullshit any longer your crazy!!. I would not walk but run so far from his ***! Have you watched the movie Why did I get married? if not you should!!!! Let him have is 20 because your an 80!!. (mabey if you watched the movie which is in theaters now, then you will understand the 80/20 rule.)

Answer 10

Divorce him hes not worth it!! I been trought almost the same and what i see that they get used to u doing everything for them, and they see your weak side and there like o she wont leave me but girl you need to stop him abusing you is not right let him go...There someone better out there that will respect u and love u....