2007-10-17 08:26:19 · 11 answers · asked by Persepolis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Great answer Cliff! I can remember when I was in the same situation. I wasn't married and wasn't forced! Gradually over time, it broke, but not before some rough stuff! Be gentle with her, use the direct stimulation thing to get her going, and then ease into the door that you want open. It may take a little time. The most important thing you need to do is reassure her that you will be there for her and be patient with her. She is your wife and I'm sure she doesn't plan on going anywhere anytime soon. Don't let her see your frustration.
2007-10-17 12:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually not an uncommon problem when the woman is still a virgin. You need to be considerate and understanding of her feelings, while at the same time reassure her that yes the first time may be uncomfortable for her but after that it will be good. Patience and understanding is the best route to take.
Have some good heavy foreplay during which you use your fingers in her vaginal area, letting her know it does feel good. Get her well lubricated, if necessary purchase some good lubrication so the first time is a little easier on both of you.
If she is really adamant about it, go with her to the doctor, let him explain, examine and if necessary break the hymen for her.
But whatever you do, do not rush or force her as this will only scare her and make it much worse for later when there is no pain.
2007-10-17 18:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can go to her family doctor and explain her fears. They can actually break her maidenhead in his office making her first sexual encounter not quite as uncomfortable. A lot of women have to have that done because their membranes are so tough.
Good Luck
2007-10-17 15:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you asked for sex before marrying her, you wouldn't have this problem right now. I'm sure being a married virgin is a big trip for her. She will change her mind, when she's bored telling all of her friend about it. In the mean time, get her to have anal sex. Same for you, only harder for her, but it's her choice.
2007-10-17 19:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry Taster 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Maidenhead"? Yoiks and Gadzooks. Thou art truly a rakish jape to make use of this tounge which hasn't been spoken in yea these many centuries.
2007-10-17 15:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let me see if I understand your broken English here.
She is afraid of something, we are not sure what, and hates sex because of it.
First off the problem is you not her.
Put some baby oil on her and learn to use you fingers on her clit. This will in the end give her the orgasm she needs to make her feel that sex is fun. Take the time to learn about a women please . She doesn't like what you do obviously. So learn what to do.
2007-10-17 15:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps she needs to talk to a counselor about her fear. Lack of sex is a legally valid reason to end a marraige.
2007-10-17 15:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex afew times until the comfort level increases. You can help by being loving, affectionate, and using something other than your penis to lead to her orgasm.
2007-10-17 15:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't have sex man simple as that ^^.
2007-10-17 15:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by AFRO THUNDER 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ummm what?
2007-10-17 15:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by luckycobalt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋