We lived together the past five years and dated for four previous to that. His son has lived with us for the whole time and is now 20. There have been lots of problems between us because his son constantly wanted me out. Ironically, the son (Dave) and I have become close the last year or so. My boyfriend (Sam) seemed to have lost feelings for me the last year. When I asked him a month ago if he wanted to break up, he said yes. He didn't want to go for counselling and refused to talk. I moved out two weeks ago and was feeling o.k. but now I seemed to have hit a wall. I spoke to him yesterday and he told me he has no feelings for me. I asked him if was seeing someone else and he said yes and that he has feelings for her. She is someone he dated nine yrs. ago before me, but would not commit to. He committed to me and we were so totally in love for years. I cannot believe he called her and they are involved again. It hurts to know he is so happy and I feel like never going out.
2007-10-17 08:10:14 · 8 answers · asked by bingoland 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to hear, but it will get better. Find something new to focus on, take a class, try a new hobby, anything to keep you busy. I have a feeling he was involved with this woman longer than the two weeks you have been broken up. Move on.
2007-10-17 08:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by Angela C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can suggest is counceling for you to deal with all the emotions you are dealing with at this time.It is easy for us to tell you to go out and meet people and start a new life.You have suffered a loss akin to a death and you will experience many of the same emotions.It was especially cruel of your ex to say he had no feelings for you( although it probably was the truth).Since your relationship had deteriorated over the last year you must know that staying in a loveless relationship is its own form of torture.You must find the courage to take the first steps to rebuild your life and your self esteem.You must learn to love yourself again an to know that you are important and deserve to be loved not tolerated. Take each day , one day at a time.Each day will hopefully bring you hope.Take care.
2007-10-17 15:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will unlike this even though it appears that evidently like he became into attempting to end it gently without hurting your thoughts,esp as he hasn't reconsidered and has this touch with yet another woman. 4 years is an prolonged time and a breakup after this time hits difficult, i comprehend as i've got had this too. it relatively is being with a companion who's additionally a maximum suitable pal and it relatively is hard to break and something you donn't ant to because of the fact which you have a particular bond. Ufortunately there is not any determination;purely which you settle for and are available to words with it over timeand it gets much less confusing.
2016-12-18 10:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will. You may not feel like it today, but as time passes so will the pain. Its so hard to let go of someone when you're not quite ready yet. But don't subject yourself to more pain by trying to convince him to be with you or understand what changed. Just know that it has and you have to move on.
You will survive.
2007-10-17 08:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by trysh_mc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people fall in and out of love everyday...sorry for what your going through, just try to be grateful for the small things right now. time will heal your heart and you'll move on when the timing is right
blessings and luck to you
2007-10-17 08:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by starting over 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what was your question.... are u looking for advice?
Don't dwell... you can't force someone to love u and trying to do so will make him hate u. Good luck
2007-10-17 08:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by daniegirl917 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't let hiom win and get to you go out have a good time and meet someone who is better than him
2007-10-17 08:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's your answer go out meet new people what are you waiting for.
2007-10-17 08:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋