Marriage & Divorce - 17 October 2007

I know the mother does drugs and has never had her own home. I have a house, a job, a drivers lisense, a vehicle, a college degree and go to church....She lives 8 hour up north and we all live in California

2007-10-17 10:44:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was so happy to marry my husband he is everything I want in a man but lately everything he does gets on my nerves i will look at him and just want to hit him i try not to let things get to me but he is really annoying me I feel bad because i love him how can i get over this. Here is an example he comes in and leaves a trail of clothes i spoke to him about it he tried to fix it but now leaves the clothes in the bathroom one room to another instead of a trail it 's the bathroom . I no i could just pick it up , it 's not that big of deal but it really annoyes me he will use the bathroom {a number 2 } and leave the door open. I no i should just go close the door their are more important battles to pick and in a marrigae you do things for each other but small things are really getting on my nerves and i don't want to be a nag and complain every 5 min. how can i pass these feelings i am having about him

2007-10-17 10:37:41 · 13 answers · asked by juv 1

1. I'm an Indian Hindu girl married for one & a half years now.One year after marriage,due to certain reasons,I developed diabetes.

2. Also because of certain health reasons,I'm unable to conceive.But this problem was not detected even 1 month before marriage as all my test reports were normal at that time & I had full potential to bear kids.

My husband,his parents & relatives are extremely frustrated as I have developed diabetes & infertility immediately after marriage & also unable to conceive,& think my parents cheated them,although all my medical test reports just 1 month before marriage were totally normal.Still they accuse us of cheating them.Therefore they also keep forcing my family to treat me & pay for my expenses,without realizing my father is nearing retirement, while my husband doesn't want to contribute at all.

So can my husband ask for a divorce on grounds of "cheating" which never happened.?Please reply.

2007-10-17 10:34:51 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married to my husband for 18 years. He has let me stay home with the kids for most of this time. He is loyal and honest and has a decent job. The one fault he has is he is jealous of other men. He has visited me at the few jobs I have worked at and, unfortunately, he walked in during the times when other men have been close to me. One of those times my coworker was really close. I also made the mistake of telling him about the three other men at another job inviting me to bed with them. I am a very friendly person and, I’ll admit, I like the attention. He does have bad timing when it comes to going to the gym with me too. One of those times he watched a man follow me into the darkened room to talk to me. He also caught me trying to get a hold of my old boyfriend (he caught us having sex two weeks before we got married). I still attract the men and he seems to get more and more jealous. Is he normal????? Or just insecure????

2007-10-17 10:32:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for over 4 years (my 3rd marriage) and my husband has only worked maybe a total of 9 months. For 2 years I totally supported him financially. He has got his settlement and has spent it all on him and what he wants. He is at the bars every night until 8 or 9 and sleeps until noon. I resent getting up every morning and going to work while he lays up in bed, hung over from the night before. I know he has a drinking problem but doesn`t want to stop. He is trying to get on disability because he doesn`t want to work and he is able to work in my opinion.He cusses me and calls me bad names so I leave the house (his house) and just ride around. I have moved in with my parents so many times it`s crazy. My sonss hate him and won`t be around him because of his drinking. I can`t afford a place of my own so I stay. I still love him and keep hoping he will change back to the man I married. He also accuses me of being unfaithful, which I have not but I am very lonely.

2007-10-17 10:18:24 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2

Before I married my husband I knew that he was an buddhist, but that never concerned since I,m a christian, so now we have been in an apartment for almost 3 years and it has the living room and dining room together, and now he wants to put an altar that has to do with his religion, and I told him no, so now hes like his religion is more important and if I ever move it then we are having an divorce, Im not asking him to choose all I was telling him that we will have 2 get a bigger place for him to have a separate room for that..and now I may be pregnant with our third child and a divorce is looming over us...please can someone give me some advice

2007-10-17 10:17:47 · 12 answers · asked by genesis r 2

ok so ive been living at my in laws for 2 years! I know thats a long time well me and my husband finally got our house! so what i want to know if were going to get more along now that we have our own privacy or are we going to argue all the time? how was it with you when you had your own home alone? also: we get along just fine right now and were making pretty good money for our age i just want to know what to expect when we are living alone for the 1st time ever? thanks:)

2007-10-17 10:16:44 · 15 answers · asked by ♥ OLi♣ 2

My ex girlfriend and I broke up recently. We were living together and when she left my place, she took all the appliances we bought. The fridge, washer and dryer, plasma tv, you name it, all was gone. So I took my car back from her. I took out a restraining order on her and she retaliated by doing the same. However, in her order, she put down that I stole her car and wants it back. I bought the car back in april with a money order that she provided me. She has the receipt of that money order. However, I registered the car and it's on my name. The reason she gave me the MO is because I put the money in her account. She also retained an attorney. Can the judge make me give her the car back even though it's my car in my name? She plans on saying that I stole her title, keys, and car. Meanwhile, I always had the title and the keys. I didn't steal it. Should I get an attorney? Can she sue me for a car as part of a restraining order or does it have to be a separate civil matter?

2007-10-17 10:09:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is 30 and I am 19 I have been able to have four kids graduarte for high school go to work for 8 hiurs come home cook clean and do everythign I do nto let my husbadn do anything he comes sits on his butt I pay rent, bill and car insurance for all three of our vechicle and I am always ready to have sex with him. He still treats me like dirt I do everythinfg that will make him happy and he still calls me a whore an sank and that I am not good enough for him he says I am lazy. when I do everything buy grociers make his lunch in the morning iron his cloths and he still takes to his ex girlfreinds what should I do I need him I love him with all my heart but I am tired.

2007-10-17 10:06:53 · 7 answers · asked by Lost 4

what last name do you take?

2007-10-17 10:00:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are you guys doing for your sweetie on sweeties day,I need suggestions something different not the usual.

2007-10-17 09:55:34 · 9 answers · asked by Mercedes...F, 2

I have to have this procedure done tomorrow. Earlier this week I got an email from my spouse of 20 years (we've had are problems in the last few years, but he's been very supportive while I have been sick the last 3 months). The email was a forward from one of his co-workers saying there was a practice session for a speech he has to give scheduled for Thursday (the day I am having the already scheduled cardiac cath). He wanted to know if I could get a ride there and he would try to get back to pick me up.

I am sooooo freaking mad. I made other arrangements for a ride. When I told him I had a ride both ways, he protested that he would be there. I said, "Why waste the day? I have it handled." He then let it go.

Am I nuts or does this stick??

2007-10-17 09:50:55 · 12 answers · asked by xxxxxxxxx 4

My husband moved out of our apartment and wants a divorce. Here's the thing...he always paid the rent and I always paid everything else. But now I can't afford all the bills and the rent. Will the court hold him responsible for paying it since it is a debt we both have? Also, when he moved out, he took a trucking job and I just found out that he had planned this all year long...can I get him for Abandonment...this was just sprung on me after I found out he had been calling an old girlfriend. He refuses to answer my calls now too..so I see it as abandonment. You can read a prior question of mine for that info.

2007-10-17 09:48:58 · 11 answers · asked by ஐ♥ Jaden's Mom ♥ஐ 2

So, I'm going through a divorce right now. Me and my husband were best friends for 5 years before we ever dated and we ended up getting married about 8 months after our relationship started. We fought quite a bit but I thought that was normal, and to me the good times were better than the bad ones. Anyway, we were struggling with finances so I moved away for what I thought was going to be a year (with visiting every few months of course) to work for my grandpa and save money for us. Well, the night before I left I got pregnant. I moved here and he was so sad and missed me so much and told me how much he loved me. Then I found out about my pregnancy and he was genuinely happy about it and couldn't wait for me to move back. Then his best friend moves in with him and I start hearing from him a lot less...and he starts hanging around another girl all the time...and then he asks me to have an abortion...then he wants a divorce. He became the meanest guy I have ever met basically over night.

2007-10-17 09:47:37 · 8 answers · asked by Mommy2Alexei 1

what is white petrolatum used for?Would u think he was cheating if u found 4 small tubes in his luggage?

2007-10-17 09:34:09 · 16 answers · asked by jessy 3

I end up taking out the trash, walking the dogs, washing laundry etc etc etc. i'm pissed.

2007-10-17 09:31:56 · 21 answers · asked by lookingforanswersandquestions 4

2007-10-17 09:28:14 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi.I'm a Indian Hindu girl married last year in Delhi & then went to UAE after marriage.My husband who is the only child of his parents sends adequate monthly expenses to his over possessive parents who control his money like hell & are hypersensitive that I may stop him from sending money in future,although I never did it.I came to India in between and did further studies.My husband paid almost 50,000/- Rs. for my studies.Now I have found a job in the UAE.But now my husband & my in-laws are forcing me to also send them monthly income while I wish to financially support my own parents who are facing financial difficulties.This is causing so many tensions & my in-laws say that since my husband spent on my education,so only he & my in-laws have the right over my earnings & not my parents..My husband says that if I support my parents,he will never spend on me in future.What does the law say?Please advise seriously.........

2007-10-17 09:26:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-17 09:17:48 · 59 answers · asked by Chris C 3

or do you just really care about them?

2007-10-17 09:17:14 · 11 answers · asked by Hello 3

my husband doesnt want me to work , and he really hurts my feeling everytime he said that. and lately he just bought a $900 rifile I said yes cause he wants an HDTV even thou we have a 2months old 32 inch tv and I cant even spend a $100 that he promise

2007-10-17 09:11:12 · 29 answers · asked by franzee19 1

I've been married almost 15 years. I thought everything was fine until 6 months ago. It wasn't. Now we are trying to work through issues I didn't even know were issues. Has anybody out there been through serious problems and come out on the other side o.k.?

2007-10-17 09:10:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my wife for 9 years,married for 5. We have a 2 year old daughter. Things have been rough for 4 years now. I love her but have fallen out of love with her. We fight all the time, mostly about stuff that I dont think that I can change.
I started working with this girl, Lucy, about a year ago. Shes 18, I'm 30. We were friends. Then we started having strong feelings. We decided to kiss one day to see if there were sparks. It was like the fourth of july. We fell in love and were together about 4 months before she decided she didnt want to live a lie to her parents. She said to look her up when i get separated. In the meantime she started dating a guy that pretty much stands for everything she is against (ie. smoking pot and drinking) She tells me she wants to be with me when all is done with my wife. Now she cheats on him with me. I know I can fix things with my wife...but it wont ever be as good as it was with Lucy. Any advice? Stick it out or divorce?

2007-10-17 09:09:37 · 26 answers · asked by Caius 1

is wrong. He use to talk about her she use to call him on his work cell and he was suppose to go on a business trip with her until I confronted him about her he stated nothing except they work together he didn't go but ever since then he hasn't mitioned her or work and he never has calls from her on his work cell but he checks his work cell as soon as he leaves for work to check his voice mail at the office I mean as he is plling out or as hes walking to his co. car. why? Am I nuts or what I feel in my gut I am right but, how can I be sure? Heonly told me 2 weeks before his trip it was her going and not his boss and he finally stated he knew for about a month and didn't tell me also we went to a co party everyone was over nice except her she never spoke to me but did to him more than once this girl has only been with co 2 years he's been there 14 years and is able to take co trips that he has just started taking sounds crazy or am I?

2007-10-17 09:07:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I helped some people pass some classes, spent a lot of time on the phone and texting before I found out how expensive it was. When I found out I hid the phone bill from my wife because she really is "into" money. Nothing ever happened sexually, there was no "intimate" talk or anything. My wife has spent the last year before this making sure I was "in my place" to the point that our daughter understood how I hated coming home, even though she won't tell her mother that. Now my wife is even more depressed and angry because I have had what she calls an emotional affair. She checks my email, checks the PC, etc.... and keeps demanding that I tell her the truth. I feel like going out and having an affair since I am getting blamed for it anyway. It seems like this is a car wreak just getting ready to happen. The problems in the marriage were both our faults, lying about the phone bill and not telling her about the classes was definately my fault. What can I do?

2007-10-17 08:48:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my hubby and I go out he gets vry jealous & if another guy talks 2 me wether its his friend or a stranger he claims they wanna have sex w/ me? He has told me that 2 of his friends wanna "bang" me, I personally don't think so but he is insistent on it he ends up getting a lil pissy w/ me & makes me not leave his side. Now when we go out I do dress nice a lil revealing but not slutty, I do show clevage & guys do stare but thats a natural thing I believe. I don't "hang" all over people & I don't flirt around, ok well maybe a lil but its harmless & I don't mean to its just my personality. B4 we leave the house he tries to make me change my clothes into something he thinks is more appropriate(anything that covers me completely)... I have never cheated on him, but he acts like I'm going to or that I have. What is ur opinion on his behavior?
I might add that he did cheat on me 7yrs ago, do u think that has anything to do w/ it? Plz don't be mean I was a lil hesitant on asking this!

2007-10-17 08:48:39 · 45 answers · asked by NONAME 4

When you're in great shape, smart, beautiful, a great mom, adventurous in bed, & your husband still moves around like you're part of the furniture, doesn't want sex except when he's in perfect health and not stressed (never), doesn't seem to want to spend time with you, is more your roommate than partner, is it fair to ask for more out of life? If he can't love me now, then when? Is it too much to ask for affection, or friendship?

For more than 10 years I've kept putting one foot in front of the other, without meaningful communication or connection. I've got lots of good years left, I have so much to give, but its hard to keep giving to someone who doesn't really care. Is it fair to kids to have them live in a house without love? Is it fair to me, to be asked to live without it? To be rebuffed when I want to talk about what's going on with us? Other than a complete and total lack of intimacy & communication, everything else is fine. But isn't it an essential component of marriage?

2007-10-17 08:44:45 · 23 answers · asked by mom23 2

He had an affair 2 months ago, but yet he has said for a few years now he doesn"t like having sex. I am trying so many things to make this sex life spiced up but I can't get a romantic night out of him. We have been together for 6 years now and have 3 kids. I love sex but have to say he in not good at it at all. Shall we say 2 min man and never longer nor any forplay. What should I do? I'm trying really hard to make this marriage work after the affair but with this sex issue I'm finally facing it, I don't know if I want him any more. We have been trying a drug to make it last longer but come on it helps maybe for 1 min more.
Oh he is trying to make this work some what too, but I know there is better out there for me but I don't really know if I want to go find it.

2007-10-17 08:40:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

So I'm at the age where my peers left and right are getting engaged. One of my friends was completely single a month ago and going through hard times and suddenly she's in a new relationship and about to be engaged. A friend before that went away for the summer and came back to school engaged. What's going on people? Can it last? I'm just curious because you never know when you find that person. Can a speedy engagement work out?

2007-10-17 08:39:23 · 30 answers · asked by Story Unknown 5

ask him this guy that I think likes me he said ya in an angry way and I told him, I like him too but we kind of have this communication problem..it was so awkward, I was the direct one..he seem piss at me and i ask him if can study together seem like he doesn't want to..then he ask for my # and I said..im changing my phone and he gave me his...but whats his problem , he sooo angry at me..should I call him?
i want to call him and ask him why..seem like he wants to avoid me..what should i do???? were just classmates should I call or not?..even though i said i did..but im so piss at him now..

2007-10-17 08:38:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous