should the woman do everything when the man just brings the money home?

Question

I end up taking out the trash, walking the dogs, washing laundry etc etc etc. i'm pissed.

now my house isn't nice and tidy, but i do everything else

Answer 1

When we are children, we are taught that the man makes the money and the wife takes care of the house and babies.How stupid! when my first husband punched the clock at work he was done. not me! The work got even harder after he got home. I had no life! I got a divorce went back to school then met my new and improved husband. We both work hard not only to make the money but to raise our kids and we all have to keep the house clean because we all live there. My 2 girls can cook well. But my son is the best cook!

Answer 2

I'm sorry you're mad, you should talk to your significant other about your situation and come to a compromise. Maybe you two could work something out that will work for the two of you.

I have a full time career, my husband is in the military and we have two children. When he is home, we split the responsibilities but that's because we both have earnings and we are both in/out of the home the same amount of time.

After I had our second child, I decided to take some extended time off meaning I had no income. I felt at that point that since it was me at home all the time with the kids that the responsibility of keeping the house nice and tidy was primarily my job. That doesn't mean that my husband could come home and plop his rump down wherever and not move for the rest of the night. He had other responsibilities from that point. Usually though, his laundry was kept up more by me, I took out the trash, I cleaned the house, dinner was ready when he got home, I learned time management. By the time he got home, all we had to do was eat dinner, usually we both did dinner dishes, cleaned up the kitchen, he would usually bath the kids and read stories and we'd have some family time and we'd put them to bed together. We would then be allowed our time and the housework was usually all done by that point and we could concentrate on each other.

If you don't have children though, it should be super easy!

I hope that helps!

Answer 3

Depends on the couple. I could never say that my husband "just" brings the money home because he busts his butt day and night working; I work too, but my job is easy in comparison. I am happy to take over the household chores so he can focus on doing what he does best - making money.

He still ends up doing stuff "around the house", but it's usually the kind of stuff that I can't do - like installing new lighting or fixing a toilet. For him to do mundane things like laundry or dishes would be a waste of his potential.

Answer 4

I am the SAHM that works... We were raised that if you work, you split the chores. If one works and the other doesn't, then their job becomes the home, errands and taking care of the kids, if there are any.

Why are you pissed? Home maker is your job, you just don't get a pay check from someone, BUT... you also don't have the extra bills either, like day care, the extra gas, a second car note, insurance for that car.... etc....

By the way, does your husband ask you to come in and answer his phones for him? Probably not. He does his job, takes care of you financially, the LEAST you can do is take care of the house, errands, kids and have dinner ready for him when he gets home. YOU ARE PRIVILEGED TO STAY HOME AND NOT HAVE TO WORK.

Answer 5

Now that wouldn't be fair. What happened to the part of for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer? If your spouse gets ill and can no longer work are you going to leave? Where is the love in that? However whom ever brings in the most money into the marriage shouldn't be a factor as long as each one is happy in the career they chose. Because if one is happy in their daily duties is reason for a happy spouse. You can contribute to a marriage by other means. It's not just a monetary commitment.

Answer 6

I think this is something couples should work out. For instance some woman are fine doing say 70% of the household chores if she stays home and the man works and pays all the bills. However, it both people are working then I think the chores should be split 50/50. The important thing is to talk to the other person and work out a plan that works for both of you.

Answer 7

Sharing is the basis of marital relation. The sharing does not end with sex, children and environment but it goes further to all segments of life. Sharing also increases the interest of spouse in each other. Sharing is must and wife should not be treated as maid servant but rather as better half.

Wife must not be burdened alone with everything even if the Husband brings money home.

Answer 8

Well your job is in the home, so what is it that you feel you shouldn't have to do? Most men would help with heavy jobs, but as long as you're not feeling like a servant, I would say it's just your job. You shouldn't have to do "everything" because his job lasts x amount of hours and your job could be 24 hrs a day. Devote a certain amount of hours to house work and leave it at that.

Answer 9

That's a throw back to the 1950s, it's BS - keeping a home is hard work and if you have kids forget it, tidiness goes right out the window.

It's a joint effort - real men vacuum, change dirty diapers AND brings home money.

This of course does not apply if the guy marries his mother...

Answer 10

I'd be pissed to. Forget that mess....you are a woman...you had to carry the children for 9 months. Just because you don't work does not mean you are not extremely busy at home or should be responsible for EVERYTHING! It is hard taking care of children let alone keeping up with house work. I still think your husband should help out. Money is not the only thing that makes a goodhousehold.