Hi.I'm a Indian Hindu girl married last year in Delhi & then went to UAE after marriage.My husband who is the only child of his parents sends adequate monthly expenses to his over possessive parents who control his money like hell & are hypersensitive that I may stop him from sending money in future,although I never did it.I came to India in between and did further studies.My husband paid almost 50,000/- Rs. for my studies.Now I have found a job in the UAE.But now my husband & my in-laws are forcing me to also send them monthly income while I wish to financially support my own parents who are facing financial difficulties.This is causing so many tensions & my in-laws say that since my husband spent on my education,so only he & my in-laws have the right over my earnings & not my parents..My husband says that if I support my parents,he will never spend on me in future.What does the law say?Please advise seriously.........
2007-10-17 09:26:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi, why are you bringing law into picture,,,
Try settling the matter amicably. Just run thru your life before and after marriage, if you think what your husband says makes sense, there is nothing wrong in sending some cash if you are willing..." Helping Elders is never bad , whether it be your parents or your-in-laws". I think you should give to your parents as well as your in-laws... if you have enough to share..
" If you give more, you get more " may be in cash or kind..
Well.. I dont want to look philosophical...However , I can assure you that ' Law doesn't ask you to pay your in-laws".
I just think your husband wants you to see things in his perspective.. too....anyways.. he is not right .. to say that he won't spend on you..if you don't.... blah..blah...
If you love your husband... and you wish to continue relationship in future... dont get into legal hazzles... neither.. be like someone.. who keeps quiet till the end....and wait for a revenge thru divorce.... something like that...(we dont know what can turn things around..with emotional-beings).
Think... feel... relax.... from your question i can see..that you can definitely take a matured/smart decision.....
let me know...
Cheers
2007-10-17 09:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by YJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you should pay off the amount they (your in-laws and husband) spend on your education. There is nothing in the law that states you have to pay them. Did you sign a contract with your husband that you would do this? Is that part of your marital agreement.?. I cant say what I wanted to say, but if you e-mail me this question, I could answer you much better in a very practical manner. I would say that you have the right to help your own parents if they are in such a dire situation. You are obligated to do so. You husband seems like a blind man, sorry to say. Good luck to you
2007-10-17 12:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by tim j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not familiar with any law that says you have to support anyone other than minor children. They cannot force you to do anything. Stand up for yourself. It does not matter if your husband paid for your schooling. That does not mean that you do not get your earnings. If you need to help out your parents then do it. Who is he to complain? He is helping out his. Do not give in to him because he threatened you. If he does what he says then you need to reconsider your marriage. Your husband and his parents will control you and tell you what you can and cannot do for the rest of your life. They will also keep things from you if you disobey. Sounds like a prison to me. You deserve better than that. You can support yourself so I would not give in now. If you do your whole life will be like that. Actually it will probably get worse as time goes on.They are ganging up on you. I hope you find happiness.
2007-10-17 09:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-12 23:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by hammet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the law states that you are an adult and can spend money you make any way you see fit...however,this may also result in your husband obtaining a divorce...the choice is yours
2007-10-17 09:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you ever decide to go to court the law will kick your husband in his behind so hard that he will land in jail.
its your earnings and you decide what you want to do with it. if your husband tries to get his hands on your money you can go to court to protect your rights.
2007-10-17 13:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The law requires us to pay our monetary debts.Legally your earnings are just that. YOURS . Sounds like they are manipulating you.
2007-10-17 09:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Molly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-17 18:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Varun N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋