I have to have this procedure done tomorrow. Earlier this week I got an email from my spouse of 20 years (we've had are problems in the last few years, but he's been very supportive while I have been sick the last 3 months). The email was a forward from one of his co-workers saying there was a practice session for a speech he has to give scheduled for Thursday (the day I am having the already scheduled cardiac cath). He wanted to know if I could get a ride there and he would try to get back to pick me up.
I am sooooo freaking mad. I made other arrangements for a ride. When I told him I had a ride both ways, he protested that he would be there. I said, "Why waste the day? I have it handled." He then let it go.
Am I nuts or does this stick??
2007-10-17 09:50:55 · 12 answers · asked by xxxxxxxxx 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I meant "does this stink?" haha. Thanks.
2007-10-17 09:52:56 · update #1
To clarify, he is saying he will show up after he is finished his practice - which is an hour away. And by the way, there will have to be decisions made during the procedure about what repairs will be done and I will have to make those myself.
2007-10-17 10:03:26 · update #2
And to further clarify - we are NOT separated. We never separated though it was discussed seriously last year.
2007-10-17 10:04:34 · update #3
It stinks. It's not about the ride it's about supporting you in this time of need. A cardiac cath is serious!! If you can't lean on your spouse, who can you lean on. I would be terribly upset if my spouse did this.
2007-10-17 09:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by porkchop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you got an email from him - does that mean you are not together anymore? And you are angry that he had something job related that interferred with his taking you but he offered to be there to bring you home?
You are being childish. If you are separated then he had no obligation to take you or be with you at all. As for driving you that is the simple part. He is offering to be there with you when you get the results and to drive you home and take care of you then - that is the important time for him to be there.
Be thankful that he is willing to be there for you at all if you are not together anymore. Count your blessings, you can't have it both ways.
Good Luck
2007-10-17 10:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd be pissed. My first husband wasn't even that bad and I still let his @ss a few months later.
My surgery wasn't as severe, and he didn't say no, but he balked at me when I asked him. I realized then that I could never count on him any more if something were to happen.
Unfortunately, my second husband was even worse and thank goodness I never needed him.
I think it shows the person's true character.
2007-10-17 10:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, not good. Find a ride to the cath lab and then find someone else to "ride" also.
2007-10-17 09:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was horribly insensitive of him.
You should have said, "No, I need you to take me there and take me home. It is your duty as a responsible and loving husband."
2007-10-17 09:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is saying he will be there, he is just traveling by a different vehcile...what's the problem? If he fails to show up to comfort you as you do the prep, then kick him in the b - - - s
2007-10-17 10:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you are taking this way to personal and are over reacting...yes it was insensitive of him to bail on you but he still offered to still pick you up, which I think you should have either let him or just have said thank you but I am having someone else pick me up ....just my thought though.
Take care I hope your health issues improve
2007-10-17 10:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
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2016-10-04 01:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by ridder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby sounds like a real peach of a guy...NOT!
2007-10-17 14:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're over-reacting. If you simply replied and told him you would rather have him take you, I'm sure he would not have objected. He was just asking you, for crying out loud. I think you took it WAAAAAY too personally.
2007-10-17 09:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋