2007-10-17 09:28:14 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes we work late, it does not mean that we are cheating. If it's somewhat consistent and your relationship is not going so well then I would suspect something.
2007-10-17 09:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this question is significant only because it potentially opens up the door for a larger, more important question: Why would you think negatively when he says that?
Are you questioning whether or not he is cheating on you? If so, ask yourself why. Has he done something that would warrant your mistrust or is it your own internal fears being given life?
Trust is a huge...no THE HUGE thing with a couple. If you dont have it, everything goes to the birds.
One thing I will say if I was working late: I would call my wife from my work phone and tell her that I was working late. Then I would call her when I was getting ready to leave the office for home telling her that I would be home in 15 min from the drive.
Excessive? Yes. But worth every effort. A spouse should always go that extra mile to make his/her loved one feel better even if it seems outrageous. Its the little things that matter after all.
2007-10-17 16:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by catfish 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are suspicious take a look at his pay stub and see if he has the overtime on it. If he doesn't then ask him where he's been going during his supposed late times. Don't get too suspicious though he may actually be working late and trying to save some money or make more money. Look at the time of year it is, it's the holiday season coming up fast and hard, maybe he's trying to make extra money for the holiday shopping that is coming up. If he's anything like my spouse, he works a lot of overtime to make sure we have money for the bills and spending. My spouse equates overtime with money for holidays and things we want to do or places we want to go. He uses the hours worked for our own personal things and the regular pay for bills and such. I would suggest playing it by ear and sneak a peek at his pay stub if you're in doubt.
2007-10-17 16:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by Linda S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That they will be getting home late from work.
2007-10-17 18:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think of the overtime he will be getting. I don't even think of the other "working late" term. We live in a small town and I would know, plus I trust my husband and we love each other. No worries here. :)
2007-10-17 16:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question pretty much shows that the relationship is over. There's only 2 scenarios here:
1. Your partner is not doing anything dodgy, but you dont trust him, and with no trust the relationship is screwed. End it now before more pain is caused.
2. He is actually doing something dodgy, and your suspicions are correct, in which case you also should end it now.
Either way its a lose/lose situation. GG.
2007-10-17 17:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that they will be home from work late and I had better figure out dinner for myself.
2007-10-17 16:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by bootsontheroad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a reason for concern? Has he/she made you believe that someone at work is interested in them? Do you have trust issues? My husband comes home at all different times and I just don't question it because he has never gave me a reason to.
2007-10-17 16:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by joamccoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's working late.
2007-10-17 16:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by R.I.P Dad :( 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They either have to work late, got stuck in traffic, are having dinner with the boys or coworkers, or they are cheating.
2007-10-17 16:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by Babylesley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋