what should I do with my husband keep slapping with " this is my money"?

Question

my husband doesnt want me to work , and he really hurts my feeling everytime he said that. and lately he just bought a $900 rifile I said yes cause he wants an HDTV even thou we have a 2months old 32 inch tv and I cant even spend a $100 that he promise

Answer 1

Your husband is a total control freak. Get out while you still can.

Answer 2

He is controlling you. Once you take a step outside and look IN, you will see it too.

He is cutting you off from a job, where you make friends, where you are more independent, and obviously this is threatening him.

He is also neglecting your wants since he brings home the money and feels that he earns it therefor he gets to buy himself big expensive manly toys.

His priorities are mixed up and I would take this as a warning signal that you are even asking about this.

What you should be doing is setting down rules for you to continue in the relationship, tell him your needs, desires, what needs to happen for it to continue, counseling, and if he doesn't meet your requirements then it's time for you to hit the road, stay by a friend, get a temp job, and find a new life. :)

Best Wishes.

Answer 3

Your husband needs to figure out what's really important in his life. I hope he is not abusive. Financial and marriage counseling might help.

My wife is a stay at home mom by choice. We both feel that our kids are better off being taken care of by us, having our values taught to them, not those of a day care provider (not to say day care providers are bad people).

As for spending money, my wife and I are a team. Neither one of us buys what I would call luxury items without approval first. It's a little off the subject but we don't feel the need to buy expensive home entertainment stuff or other stuff that gets used a couple of times and then gets placed on a shelf. We (me, my wife and kids) are happy playing outside and doing things together. You can't put a price on that.

Answer 4

I know that wives are supposed to be in submission to their husbands but this is ridiculous. A $900 rifle and an HD TV and you can't even spend $100. Kick him to the curb, honey.

Answer 5

Tell him you are getting a job so that you can spend "your money"

Marriage is a partnership. If he keeps throwing money in your face all the time it isn't much of a partnership. Tell him that it is hurting your feelings and if he doesn't cut it out you are going to have some serious built up resentment towards him and it is going to cause marital problems.

Answer 6

He sounds very controlling and selfish. When you are married it is your money too even if you don't work. I would reconsider not working. You can get a job with some flexibility so that you can work when he is at work. Right now you are at his mercy. You need to be able to take care of yourself if you ever have to. You also need some independence.

Answer 7

You are an adult and in a marriage. That means whatever is his is yours and whatever is yours is his. If he refuses to share then talk to an attorney. In divorce court you will get 1/2 of everything. In the meantime, get your own job. Just because your husband doesn't want you to work doesn't mean you can't.

Answer 8

Your husband is a moron. Divorce him and then he will find out who the money belongs to.

I'm a stay at home mom, my husband has never made me feel inferior to him or ever said it is his money only. I may not contribute a paycheck, but I contribute blood, sweat, and tears. Any man worth being called a man would never try to belittle his wife for any reason.

Answer 9

Job is must for you to retain your identity and honour. Begging for money just because you are not allowed to work is not only against equality but is also crushing your talents.
Convince him and join some job before you get frustrated and lose your self-confidence.

Best of Luck.

Answer 10

Start giving him a bill for cooking and doing the laundry and housekeeping. Don't you think those jobs are worth $10 an hour?