Engaged after one month of a relationship. Can it last?

Question

So I'm at the age where my peers left and right are getting engaged. One of my friends was completely single a month ago and going through hard times and suddenly she's in a new relationship and about to be engaged. A friend before that went away for the summer and came back to school engaged. What's going on people? Can it last? I'm just curious because you never know when you find that person. Can a speedy engagement work out?

Answer 1

well engagement is not marriage it can always be broken off and sometimes ppl just act in the spur of the moment. me and my boyfriend moved in together after 1 month and we have been together for 2 years now.

Answer 2

We must know the same people. I have a friend who was single, then last month she's engaged to this guy she says she's known for 12 years, but I've never met him. The wedding's in a couple of months, by the way. So we'll just have to see, because every couple is different. I met a couple that got married after a week of knowing each other and they're still together, going on 25 years.

Answer 3

Of course it can. They have in the past. The real factor in whether or not it lasts is up to the individuals, not how long the engagement is.

I've been married 5 years and love it. My wife and I were engaged for about 5 months. Marriage takes a little work so find a man who's willing to work. Having a happy marriage and home is well worth the effort.

That happiness is not so much a function of time but of effort.

Answer 4

A marriage should be much more than a "I'm getting old, I have to do this" or... even worse "Everybody does it, so it's in style"...

unfortunately when you do it for one of those reasons... it doesn't last long.
Infact, two things may happen:
1) the wife, after a while is complaining on how the husband really doens't partecipate on the married life; or... while she's pregnant, he's going out like a single guy... or.. she feels alone...
2) that actually one of the two start cheating as soon as he or she, finds another "passion".

It's very important to ENJOY a "relationship" time, meaning a period of dating... without engagement...
Just to really give some time to see how long does the passion last.

I hope you won't make the same choice of your girlfriends.

good luck

Answer 5

Never envy others, you never know what they did to get where they are or what they possess.
Besides, each individual is unique, so what may work for them won't necessarily work for you.
Just do your own thing, do what seems right to YOU and live your life the way it makes YOU happy.
The race to marriage was true a decade ago, come on, in todays society! No!
People are starting to understand that getting married for the sake of the party, the white dress and to impress the neighbourgs are long over.
You do it because both of you are happy, want it, and you are on the same page and mean for it to last.
Otherwise, you do the wise thing , and date.
Good luck and be wise!

Answer 6

I don't think it's possible to truely know a person after just one month. Think about it. You meet someone special and you're on that romantic high. Everything he/she says and does is wonderful, their flaws are adorable, and both people are on their best behavior. Fast forward a year from then. Those once adorable flaws now grate on your nerves, you discover he was actually raised in a barn and only had manners for the first few months, and the way she talks makes you want to smack her. Get my point? It takes time to really know someone on an intimate level and I have a hard time believing you can get to that point in just a month. My husband and I got engaged after being together for a year and I waited another year to for the wedding just to be sure.

Answer 7

I got engaged 18 days after our first date. Yes, we are moving fast but we are very comfortable with the speed. Will our relationship last? Although I cannot predict the future, I would be willing to put money down on it. We both realize and expect that we will have to work at our marriage and we both are willing to do this. Some couples date for a number of years before getting married and at the first sign of trouble they throw in the towel. I don't believe the length of time is the issue, it is the level at which you are willing to work at it.

Answer 8

I just went to a wedding of a friend (in his 40's) who got married after only knowing the woman about 6 weeks. I know him well enough to suspect it won't last. I hope your friends who are getting engaged so quickly at least have a long engagement so they can get to know each other. Marriage has enough challenges without being wedded to a total stranger.

Answer 9

I wouldn't lay any bets on the longevity of those particular relationships, but ya never know. Chances are though the engagements came about during periods of high emotion...hopefully they'll be long ones and the parties will have a better chance to think about whether or not they are really a good match.

Answer 10

SURE! There is a very real possibility that yes, they can last. The chances are slim, but my brother met a woman around christmas time a few years ago, and by February they were in a long term committed relationship. Almost 9 years later, they are still together. Myself, I met a guy and fell madly in love with him almost 6 years ago, and we are still together also after a short period of time. We are even more in love with each other than we were the day we met!

Answer 11

I dated some guy for a month, was engaged for a month then got married in Las Vegas. We lasted 9 years...before we got divorced. We were VERY happy for the first three years though.