is wrong. He use to talk about her she use to call him on his work cell and he was suppose to go on a business trip with her until I confronted him about her he stated nothing except they work together he didn't go but ever since then he hasn't mitioned her or work and he never has calls from her on his work cell but he checks his work cell as soon as he leaves for work to check his voice mail at the office I mean as he is plling out or as hes walking to his co. car. why? Am I nuts or what I feel in my gut I am right but, how can I be sure? Heonly told me 2 weeks before his trip it was her going and not his boss and he finally stated he knew for about a month and didn't tell me also we went to a co party everyone was over nice except her she never spoke to me but did to him more than once this girl has only been with co 2 years he's been there 14 years and is able to take co trips that he has just started taking sounds crazy or am I?
2007-10-17 09:07:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't like to be a pessimist, but you should trust your instinct on this one. this all seems way too suspicious to be normal. sorry, but if i were you, i think i would start digging and demanding answers. if you haven't talked to him about this in length, you really need to.
2007-10-17 09:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by hh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're making some assumptions that are unfair and may get you riled up over nothing. Checking his voice mail at work as he's leaving the house doesn't mean he's cheating.
Taking a business trip with a woman that's been with the company for two years doesn't mean he's cheating. I assume (unless you know differently) that her job requires her to travel.
Early in our marriage, my wife assumed that every woman at work was a threat, so I stopped telling her who I was traveling with because I didn't want to face twenty questions every time I was going somewhere.
I had a very good female work friend, who my wife saw as a threat, but she never was. I stopped mentioning her to my wife because it was just easier that way. Her insecurity and/or lack of trust in me was her issue to wrestle with and I avoided making it mine.
If you're convinced he's having an affair, or at least too attached to this woman at work, let him know that you're not really comfortable about it. See what he says. It doesn't sound like you have any proof that he's cheating, just suspicions and circumstantial evidence. I'd be careful about accusing him of something before you have more solid information.
2007-10-17 09:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by pecosee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say it does sound a bit dodgy. I would probably go and track her down and confront her but in a nice way, tell her you want to leave him but you are just looking for an excuse so please tell me the truth, you could even promise not to say she told you. If she is in love with him she will be dying to split you up. However, what I would do and what people should do are often two very different things! Is there anyone, maybe a wife of another employee who you trust that you could ask? If I was really sure deep down I would leave him and refuse to go back until he changed his job. My mother-in-law hired a private eye to catch my father-in-law at it with his secretary so that is another option. Another friend of mine bought phone call spying devices on-line and caught his wife at it with another guy. Good luck, hopefully you are wrong.
2007-10-17 09:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by kdee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would go with your gut. It sounds like he is cheating. Why is he hiding things from you? I would do what I could to find out the truth. If it were me I might just ask someone? Are you friendly with any of his coworkers? Would you want to ask her? I would have to know so I could get out. Can you look at his work phone or listen to the voice mail like when he is in the shower or something? Good luck.
2007-10-17 09:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gut feelings are usually right. But don't accuse with no proof. Hiring a P.I.(privet eye) might be the answer. Or getting someone you trust to keep an eye on him if money is an issue. hopefully someone he doesn't know. Don't feel bad about doing this. Think about what you could lose if it is true.
besides, she has one up on you if you are in the dark! If he is not messing around, you get peace of mind.
2007-10-17 09:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Wondering.... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is taking company trips and she is on those same company trips, then yes... something is very wrong. If he is a truthful and honest man, then the two of you need to talk and he needs to honestly answer your questions. If he is not truthful, and he doesn't appear to be since he waited until the very end to mention she was going on the trip rather than the boss... then you should not be with him anyway.
2007-10-17 09:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in case you have self assurance he's dishonest, possibility is physically powerful that he's. Theirs no might desire to initiate digging and being a private i, you be attentive to it, he's acquainted with it, so the genuine question is, what are you gonna do approximately it? Are you gonna take a seat around and anticipate it to end? And take him back? Or are you going to be assertive and take this intense? thinking each and every of the whys, and how comes are unlikely to get you everywhere, it would desire to be previous time so which you will %. it up and leave, in case you do no longer you would be sharing your dishonest husband with somebody else, to me that's no longer a healthful situation, so do whats appropriate for you, your destiny is on your own palms.
2016-10-12 23:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by hammet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy. My wife was participating in similar activity untill I caught her leaving in the middle of the night (she thoght I was sleeping) You have every right to stay up his butt about what he does. Can you check his cell phone records? Does he use the home computer to correspond with others? If he does use the computer @ home, go to a major electronics store and purchase a 'key logger'. This will track every stroke and will allow you access to his emails and passwords. If he loves you, he will listen to your concerns and his life should be an open book for you to read. If you encounter any resitance, something is going on. Good luck
2007-10-17 09:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Always trust your intuition; however, a relationship without trust is a failed one. If you knew for sure he was cheating what would your next step be after the confrontation? If you are not prepared to leave him, then you must accept it and deal with it.
2007-10-17 09:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARE FEELING A ROUGH TINGLE IN THE BOTTOM OF YOUR STOMACH EVERY TIME HE WALK INTO OR OUT OF THE ROOM. THEN TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. MOST CHOOSE NOT TO LESSON WITH THERE HEARTS AND STOMACH. BUT IF YOU LOOK INSIDE YOURSELF THEN YOU WILL REALLY KNOW THE TRUTH. IF WORST DOES HAPPEN . YOU CAN REALLY EMBARRASS THEM PUT THEM ON CHEATERS.COM ( THE T.V. SHOW) GOOD LUCK
2007-10-17 09:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by KESIANNA K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋