Our relationship has suffered. He hasn't work in 6 years as he is trying to get disability. I have become the main breadwinner. I also go to school full time. Because of all the meds he is on he has no sex drive or basically no feelings about anything. I have to intiate any affection if I want a hug or kiss. I love my husband and have suggested we need therapy because of how our relationship has changed but no response from him. I need suggestions I'm so lonely.
2007-10-17 03:55:33 · 4 answers · asked by Sassyred 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u r not giving him attention or enough care
give him all sex he want , it doesnt have to be all ur way or when u want it only , do it even if u dont want to for his sake
talk to him , ask him if u upset him or made bad to him , check out how is he , try to find job for him ( cos a man when he sit without work and his wife do all the money stiff it really kill his manhood )
good luck
2007-10-17 04:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by michael 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to look inside of yourself and and see just how strong you are...you've been married to this man for 15 years and you said he just 2 years ago was finally diagnosed with bi-polar...he has been suffering in silence...not knowing why he does what he does, thinks how he thinks or feels how he feels...he has had no control over his mood swings...And sweetie YOU have also been suffering for the past 15 years...now he's on meds that have changed his disposition... his sex drive...relax once he's stable they can alter the meds and that will change. YOU must really love him to have stuck with him this long sweetie...I suggest you find time to take matters into your own hands! Leave him alone to get straightened out just make sure he continues on his meds even when he says he doesn't need them because he's now feeling fine...which will happen....Remain Strong!
2007-10-17 04:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband was diagnosed with bipolar disorder as recently as 2 years ago, he should have been in therapy all this time as a part of his medical treatment. I am bipolar, so i know...
Medications alone do not work to help us learn good coping skills, how to deal with our moods and other issues we may have. Therapy is a part of a GOOD doctor's regimen of treatment.
Your husband may not be able to hold down a job, but working part time or temp jobs is a possibility. Just because he's bipolar doesn't mean he has to give up on himself or his life. or YOU either.
He's expecting too much from you and working part time, temp jobs isn't going to affect social security.
Many bipolars are very intelligent and have great ingenuity. Your husband seems to have given up.
Maybe it's time to consider taking care of YOU.
hugs
2007-10-17 04:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's on the wrong meds. Find a new doctor if this one can't help. The right meds work wonders.
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2007-10-17 04:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by girlwhowasadoptedin49or50ithink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋