How young is to young?

Question

Just wondering what peoples opinion is on this.. How young is too young to be married? And Why is that too young? How young is too young to have children and why?

Answer 1

SSSSSSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many people ask this question and I don't get it. Marriage is right at any age if you feel love. However, marriage is a job and a hard job, its blissful at first but as it goes on you must work at it or it will fail. I don't believe anyone marries truly understanding what love is. When you marry your in a lustful stage and if it works you will find the deepest love you can ever imagine, but it takes time, years of good times and bad. Ups and downs every day. No hurry for marriage unless its for seriously mature people only. Children need to come after marriage and security in that marriage to save from alot of hardships. Divorce is ugly no winners, and its the worst on the children. You should only have children once your marriage is stable and when you can financially give them a wonderful life. Don't be a child having one cuz its the biggest responsibility of your life and your life is going to change. Enjoy your youth, being a grown up with all the responsiblities it withholds will come sooner than you think.

Answer 2

You Can Get Married At 15 In Scotland [With Parents Permission] And It's HORRIBLE
They Will Most Likley Have Kids Which Means No Education So I Think 24 -25 Is the Best Time To Get Married.
And The Parents Who Say Yes To Their 15 Year Old Childrens Question To Get Married Is SICK. They Just Want Their Children To Give Them Grandkids.

Answer 3

27 to get married, 30 for kids.
From 18 to 22 there's college, then you have to find a job that you like and that pays well. Here come the student loans, and you really need to be financially stable before gettig married.
Plus, in your mid 20's you'll change. The things you want out of life will suddenly become different, and sometimes that doesn't mean good things for the relationship.
SO - waiting until you're 27 ensures you're financially and emotionally stable.
You could also wait a few years after marriage to have kids. Even if you were shacking up with your bf before, married life is different - and you need time to adjust before throwing kids into the mix. They can be a strain on a relationship, especially one that's not strong.

Answer 4

Personally I don't think people should even THINK about marriage until they're at least 25. By then you won't need a fake ID anymore, you will have graduated college, you will have landed a decent job earning a decent living, and you'll have a MUCH clearer understanding of where your life is heading and what you want out of it. Granted there are exceptions to every rule, but think about how many changes you go through as a person between the ages of 18-25. Think about how your views on politics change. Your views on sex might change. Your views on what the ideal spouse should be. We all do some pretty stupid things between the ages of 18-25. Being divorced and with a kid before you turn 25 shouldn't be one of them,

Answer 5

I'm 23 and just got married. People say thats too young, but I have a BA and a full time job. I think if you lack either one you're too young to be married. Finish school and be able to support yourself and your future husband. Putting an age on it, I'd say anything under 21.

Answer 6

it really just depends on the maturity level of the person. i would say that under 20 is too young. people who are under 20 have not yet experienced all the things that they might one day want to. i have heard countless storied of people saying that they got married too young and never got to "live". i would also say that the same thing goes for having a child. do everything you want to do in life before having children.

Answer 7

it is always better to wait until one is established with education and career goals, lifestyle and such. People aren't usually there until their mid 20s, if not early 30s.

Before then it's more or less a roller-coaster, and neither knows where they're going to end up. Honorable intentions and goals may be there but they may be too tough to accomplish. A lot of times, the only way to achieve the basics is when one drops the other and moves on with their lives.

Answer 8

Too young is before completing a course of study leading to marketable job skills and a meaningful career with advancement potential.

This is advice for women. Men, add two years to the ages I've given.

This means going to college/trade school for two years after high school and then establishing yourself in that chosen field for two or three years after. If you are academically inclined then go for a four year degree leading to a marketable job skill set and a career with advancement opportunities.

That means the minimum age for marriage should be about 22-23.

And then WAIT to have kids until you're secure in your jobs and marriage. That would be about age 25.

For guys the ages should be about two years older than for women because women mature emotionally and physically sooner than guys.

Even women who think all they want to do with their lives in be a wife and mommy need to have marketable job skills and experience in the working world should they find themselves widowed or divorced.

Like it or not, females of the species do have a biological alarm clock that starts going off at about age 35.

Answer 9

I am the mother of grown sons and I believe that your personality does not stop developing until sometime after 25 and that you need life experience before you commit to just one person , if you are going to be a childless couple then I would suggest the late twenties to the early thirties...if you wish to have children and are committed to family then the answer may be to have children at a younger age but still in the mid twenties...

Answer 10

Never, ever get married or have kids under the age of 25.