I don't do this to my ex husband...for many reasons, mostly respect for our daughter and for him as her father. However I am certain if I did cause problems with his girlfriends or wife if he had one that I would be in huge trouble somehow and he wouldn't stand for it. What is it that my husband could do to back her off....she is always calling, controling, bashing and manipulating. She even picked fights with the three girlfriends he had before me...arguments in his house. I really need for this to stop before my head twists off....it is making me nuts.
2007-10-17 03:51:32 · 16 answers · asked by Rein 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have even considered call my ex to find out what he would do.
2007-10-17 03:55:36 · update #1
kids are involved
2007-10-17 03:58:42 · update #2
as you well know (you just answered one of my questions) i am in the same position apart from being married.
she wont give up as she is still in love with your husband and doesnt like the fact that you have taken him not only away from her ...but from her kids too and probably doesnt like the fact that you are their step mom (as she thinks they would look upto you)!
its all pathetic ex's especially the ones you and i are dealing with. with kids involved. i feel sorry for the kids. x x chin up
2007-10-17 04:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by lil emm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon....
It's not healthy for you to allow this woman to control your emotions. She wants a reaction from you, and is getting one!
I'd like to know, why people answer the telephone when she calls? What for?
She is bitter and there is nothing you can do about it. She wont' change until she realizes she's acting like an idiot.
You and your husband need to stop answering the telephone when she calls, don't let her into your home but leave her outside to wait for the kids (or whatever reason she's coming there).
If she continues, get a restraining order.
Stop going nuts on account of her behavior. No one, not even an ex can break up a "good marriage". If you have a good marriage there is no reason to be alarmed, and no reason to let her get to you.
Bitter people behave as this ex does... let her be miserable. Meanwhile, gather your dignity and act like a lady -- and move forward with your own life.
take care.
2007-10-17 04:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to speak with her and tell her the two of you will discuss nothing with her except the children. Stick with it. If she starts with personal talk tell her you refuse to discuss your private lives and hang up the phone. The woman has no reason to enter your home. If necessary a third person could pick up and return the children. I know that is a lot of trouble, but if its necessary to preserve your marriage it might be worth it. Good luck! And remember you won't have to deal with her forever!
2007-10-17 04:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Rosemary's Baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband. Ask him to explain why his ex-wife has so much control over him. Ask him why if she is his ex, her opinion is so important to him.
Make sure that you are allowing him to be as involved with his children from his previous marriage as possible. If he feels that you and his ex are competing for his attention or making him feel like he is not caring for his children, he will be upset with both women.
Take care,
Troy
2007-10-17 04:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you engaging with her? Hang up, don't return calls, and she will tire of being ignored. If not, a restraining order will make her sit up and take notice. I am assuming there are no kids between your hubby and his ex, so why would they have to communicate at all??
2007-10-17 03:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and make him understand how you feel about this. You are his wife now and you come first. He needs to realize this. I know! get a mini tape recorder or even something that can tape phone calls. Tape everything she says to you when your husband is not present and let him listen to it.
2007-10-17 04:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's bothering you because you let it..
You're the wife of the moment..
She does this, out of jealousy because she couldn't make it work , so she won't let anyone else...
When she starts a fight, ask her to leave, come back when you can be civil...
Tell your husband to get a backbone and throw her out...
2007-10-17 04:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing that YOU can do about it. this is his problem to handle. it is his ex wife, let him handle her. you doing or saying anything is going to make her stop. if he really wants her to go away and leave you two alone, he is the only one who can change it. talk to him about it.
2007-10-17 03:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She`s unhappy and wants to make sure that he is unhappy no matter what the cost. You have got your hands full.
It won`t stop anytime soon.
2007-10-17 03:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just move to another states..start new life with ur hubby and get a peace from her..
good luck!!!
2007-10-17 03:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by back2future 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋