Marriage & Divorce - 14 September 2007

I am hurting quite a lot. My boyfriend ended our relationship 6 months ago, the break up was really painful for me and while I was trying to move on, he always stopped me by telling me that it's too harsh to cut all contact and that we could loose each other for good. In this case I didn't cut any contact with him and was communicating with him and I even met him a month ago. He told me that he is too scared of loosing me if we stop all contact and that all chances for us to get back together in the future could be spoiled. About 3 weeks ago I sat down and sent him an email saying good bye and he wrote back. The emails were very loving and very kind but a few days later he called me telling me it was too hard. But now he is not communicating with me, I tried to call him so many times and sent so many messages but he said we need to move on for now and stick to our decisions. I am so hurt over this because I feel like he is the one now who cut it all with me. I am so hurt, what can I do

2007-09-14 23:48:53 · 21 answers · asked by Elisa N 1

I have been with my partner for going on 5 years and we also have a two yr old daughter together we were getting married in december of this year, i went to the local pub 6 weeks ago and met someone and kissed him. 6 weeks later and more has happened i have slept with mr x 4 times while partner has been home looking after our daughter. My partner is mr perffect but why am i constantly calling, visiting mr x i think im in love with him and out of love with my partner im so confused any advicce would be so helpful. Please dont judge me i already feel like ****.

2007-09-14 23:38:17 · 35 answers · asked by tilly 1

Okay, what I want to say is that there are a large number of women who are pretty, well eduacted, financially independant etc.

I want to tell you all that there are a large number of hopeless guys who are absolute losers and good for nothing. They might try to get close to you or be very nice to you and get involved with you only to dump you in the end. Such men should be kept at their rightful place, on the streets!!

Do not date such losers. Do not go by their looks alone. I am a good guy. You can date guys like me who are smart, honest, intelligent, educated etc..

No I am not looking for a date here. The reason I gave my example was bcoz I was driving across the point that this is the right kind of guy for you (by giving my example). I know you girls are smart and can make correct decisions but just thought I should still alert you

Some losers (bad guys) might play a dirty trick by reporting this question so that you don't read it. But I recommend pass this message across

2007-09-14 23:24:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm just curious to see if anyone else feels like their life is separate from their spouse. Do you two have different hobbies that keep you apart on your days off? Do you work opposite shifts so you rarely see each other? Is one person gone more than the other for work related trips?

If so, how do you connect? How do you tell the other person you want to see them more without appearing to be needy?

2007-09-14 23:19:42 · 7 answers · asked by torn 3

Once they serve the order of support on my employer, the employer has to start garnishing my wages because if they don't my employer can

A) Be fined and possibly be forced to pay the amount of the order as deemed by the courts

B) Have their business license suspended

This is if you look under the word "BLACKMAIL" or EXTORTION" in a dictionary these are both one and the same, but yet they can easily get away with it, but let me try and extort or blackmail someone and I will get a free stay at the Crossbar Hotel.

Maybe this is wrong but them using someone's social security number without their consent is a crime too? I mean if they can obtain your social security number and freely use it shows your social security number is really a way for the government to track you for their advantage and makes it really worthless!

As defined by Merriam Webster-Blackmail=extortion or

2007-09-14 23:06:59 · 6 answers · asked by Loves Los Angeles 1

Because I've never cheated, I just cannot see the point of doing it. I find it to be a very nasty, senseless and a sadistic act to do to someone who loves you. My ex husband cheated on me and the emotional damage it caused me was senseless. Do you wonder why people have to do it just because it has become a trend? Why is this temptation so strong? Some of you might tell me to get a life but, cheating does not appeal to me and for that, I will always have that peace of honesty in my heart and I'm proud of it.

2007-09-14 23:01:11 · 17 answers · asked by Peace 3

My wife had an affair 3 years ago ,it lasted 2 or so years .
she told me hat she would never do anything like that again but I would realy like to know if the opertunity presented itself with a nother guy what would happen? I'm open to any suggestions or ideas to creat such an oppertunaty?

2007-09-14 22:57:26 · 29 answers · asked by wesley d 1

How do you as a married couple ensure that you and your partner are on the same page?
What steps do you take in order to keep an open and respectful dialogue with your spouse?

2007-09-14 22:49:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been separated about 2 years now.make it short, he cheated and I'm pretty sure he's still using ton of drugs. I can't find him because I left him when I found out he cheated and he eventually moved out the apt. we were living in with his "friend".

How do I get a divorce if I can't find him? I went ot his only family which is his uncle and they don't know either because they also neglected him due to drugs. I live in CA. How long does it take to divorce to be finalize? Is it simple to get a divorce without a lawyer? I have no kids and we have nothing together really. Do you know if CA have a site to file for divorce online?

I also plan on going out of state soon for school and move on with my life. I been doing nothing stressing and in depression state for quite sometime. After all the paperwork is done, how long until I will receive my court date?? Anybody know? What will the judge ask and how long does the whole court date with judge take? any info would help

2007-09-14 22:48:05 · 18 answers · asked by stacey t 1

Stop and think for a minute, why do you think this is happening, is there a win win answer to this?

2007-09-14 21:54:45 · 12 answers · asked by BFCP 3

I fathered a child with this woman years ago and every month she wants more and more money. I mean the shag wasn't even that good love. When is it ok to stop given her my money?

2007-09-14 21:42:49 · 8 answers · asked by LUDWIG WITTGENSTEIN 2

My wife had an emotional affair (no sex)with her happily married classmate but he checked her advances by cutting off the relation.I found her unsent love letter and confronted her.She said it was only a crush and that she never really wanted to divorce me and all that crap.We have two wonderful kids who we love very much.We are living seperately for the last 2 years and my kids are with her now though I can visit them anytime. She refuses to come and live with me ,her parents also want to end this relation.She is sometimes sorry for her affair,but is nagging me a lot.I simply don't know whether she loves me or hates me as she is so passionate either way.But she says she will not live with me or give me divorce unless I deposit some money for the kids.Surprisingly,she has more money than I do.She comes up with a new condition,like I should cut off seeing my mother and brother who gave me a second life by doling out some of their money.How to deal with this deceiving domineering wife?

2007-09-14 21:33:04 · 14 answers · asked by havah 2

My husband is not talking to me,doesnt wana hang around with me....he's more interested in his friends than his wife.he wasn't like this before marriage thou!!!do people really change after marriage or he the only one changed?????i really dont know wot to do!!!!

2007-09-14 21:23:33 · 8 answers · asked by isha o 1

for example if you just get married, but you have never been in a relationship or with anyone, and don't have any experience, will that marriage last?

2007-09-14 21:15:00 · 9 answers · asked by Cupcake.....:) 4

i have been married 4 five yrs, recently i found out that my hubby has been cheating on me for almost 1yrs. i used to scroll his phone and find this particular number. so one day it rung and he refused to answer it, i decided to answer. it was a female voice when i sai hullo she switched off the phone i asked my hubby who was the owner of this phone no_he told me it was for one of his male friends i insisted then he told me it was for the friends wife i went met his friend and asked him what business was his wife having with my hubby but instend the friend did not know about his wife calling my hubby late in the night so we organise to meet his wife she came but denied the affair and said that my hubby was just her friend. i tried to ask my hubby again but this time he was very tuff and he told me not to ask him nosense. i have even gone to his sisters to ask them for advise but all in vain the only advise me to ignore him.please advise me thax in advance.

2007-09-14 21:05:26 · 7 answers · asked by halicate 1

When it comes to using men, they operate like a double agent. It's just reprehensible, yet they simply don't care. What gives?

2007-09-14 20:45:38 · 10 answers · asked by What? 1

The reason for this is because there was some hearsay about him still being married to this woman...even though we have been living together for the pass 3 years and was dating 3 years. He did tell me when i met him that they were divorce. however some suspicious **** has been going on with his baby momma and his 14 year old daughter. rather not go into detail but.. is there a way i can obtain marriage records to protect.. actually we talked about marriage in the pass, but having so many financial problems couldnt quite get around to it.

2007-09-14 20:03:44 · 4 answers · asked by tekellamorrow 1

My step father was already caught cheating on my mom three times and my mom got pissed off . I lost my respect for him actually I didn't respect him at all . She found out that he did this and avoided talking to him for weeks . But then he gives this f u c k i ng dumba s s another chance . What the hell is wrong with her? This guy keeps on telling me to save water when washing the dishes and I do to the point where a lot of water doesn't even come out and I ask myself " He's probably saving up money for his other wife " . I'm having trouble , I just don't want this guy in my life anymore . He is so proud of himself , his pride is always something he has to protect . His version of fatherhood is tyranny , I miss my real dad he treats me with a respect that a son deserves . What do I do?? My mom is just falling for the same damn trick!??!?!?!?!?

2007-09-14 19:57:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband had ocd ,he got rehab,dicharged and now shows signs of bipolar.i have suffered for 15 yers and have 2 children. he does not work sleeps the whole day and talks of doing big one day,but does not lift a finger .i am unemployed too and from a poor family.my parents have passed away and my brothers dont want my burden.can i leave my childre with my in laws who are rich and go back to my country.I will request my in laws to raise my kids who have 3 more yrs of schooling ,am i doing right.if i stay with hubby whom i love but he does not reciprocate i will go mad and we all go hungry.i dont have very cordial relatons with in laws due to my husbands bad habits. i am thinking of suicide i am so stressed.i have no relatives no friends please can someone help me .

2007-09-14 19:35:30 · 9 answers · asked by niki s 1

"All wives leave their husbands - they just don't take their bodies with them".

2007-09-14 19:32:15 · 10 answers · asked by SafetyDancer 5

this month will be 3 years since we have met and been together and 6 months since we have got marrried i dont know what to do i mean i love him with all my heart but i am not the best at experiencing my emotions and he is i want to do something just as special for him this time as he does for me. What could i do for him.

2007-09-14 19:25:38 · 9 answers · asked by BWife 2

2007-09-14 19:21:44 · 12 answers · asked by lebeza 1

I have been married to my wife for over 3 years and the first one was great. Now it seems that I am seeing her true colors and I’m in the middle of a bad situation. She is a great housewife cause she was brought up to be very clean and organized.. She is very hyper and has a good intention to help out. However whenever she gets angry or want something she acts crazy, looses control and start to say things and destroying everything I have like: GPS of my car, my cell phone, my laptop and many times she punches me and gets crazy … she makes a scene in front of my friends or even public places hitting me in the face or even spitting me when I tried to control her. I am starting to hate her and as many times I tried to resolve this she just don’t make changes or seek help for us. Now I asked her to leave for a while but is getting impossible at this stage since she doesn’t want to work or be outside the house … I’m a man so its difficult to have people to understand ...

2007-09-14 19:18:42 · 21 answers · asked by Bono 2

Hello everyone, i'm going threw a real tuff time, iwas married for seven years to my first husband which he still is. But we have been seperated almost 4 years. I moved on after our seperation and had another relationship that did not work out. I had twins out of this recent relationship. Now we both are alone but he is scared. I do still love him and i know he does too. but he confuses me one day he wants to be with me and another he doesnt... I dont know if i should just let him go and move on..Please help.

2007-09-14 19:18:08 · 6 answers · asked by bunnygirls3 1

2007-09-14 19:15:00 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-14 19:08:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can someone please tell me ...Who is entitled to a deceased person's ss benefits??? Specifically...WHICH WIFE????? I say the first if she hasn't remarried. He says there is no way a first wife is getting S**T!!! Even if I'm kinda right...that'll work for me.(as you should be able to tell...I'm super pissed, with his attitude about this)

2007-09-14 19:05:21 · 6 answers · asked by louloutee 3

We're having some issues with communication to say the least. He's a great man, and amazing father for our 1yr old daughter... but we dont have anything going on in the intimate communication dept. Things just seem like I get what's left after he works, does stuff outside in the yard & garage and if the pager doesnt go off (he's a firefighter/paramedic) ...I really feel alone alot. He's told me that he know's I wouldnt do anything outside our marriage on purpose, but he also knows he leaves me alone alot...I have been getting messages from an "old friend" and the feeling of being wanted is something that I miss, I told my husband about this, and he says "I do want you, I'm just tired all the time." I even told him of me running into the old friend and him hugging me (notta biggie) but kissing on me too, hubby didnt seem to mind. I'm hurt, and I feel like crap! My husband is the one I want, the ONLY one I want! I just dont feel he wants me-unless it's convienant for him...any advice?

2007-09-14 18:57:29 · 17 answers · asked by marcie1997 3

funeral. As far as me "letting go" I was doing a pretty good job of it until I ran into him face to face at the funeral. You must understand, I was reeling from the shock of my sister's senseless murder, then I see this man that had molested me for 4 years as a child! I was suddenly reduced that 4 year old child hiding under the bed! I could not confront him. At that time Family and children services did not go after things like that the way they do now and I had never heard of them anyway,and my mother did not believe me. Thid msn now has served a a county commissioner in his county, I was sickened when I heard that.Again, thank you very much for your kind suggestions and obvious concern and love. I will get counseling and consider writing him a letter.

2007-09-14 18:56:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been through some extremely tough things the past month ( some of you may have read what I wrote earlier ) and here I am talking with a fellow ( I thought was my friend ) and he is whinning to me about the fact that his woman caught him cheating with her step sister. When she confronted him right then & there he said it was all her fault because the " other " woman was staying with them. ( One sis helping out the other one ) which made it impossible for him NOT to climb into her bed on a daily basis ( she willing complied ) and he became so angry at being caught by his lady that he started beating her then & there. I was outraged when he told me of this, I spit in his face, turned and walked away.
He is now serving time in jail and rightfully so.
What else really made me sick, was the fact that the step-sister watched the entire thing and did nothing to stop it. Claiming that from that day forward he was her man.

Should they both rot in hell?

2007-09-14 18:43:21 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous