Marriage & Divorce - 12 September 2007

While I am of the opinion that a live-in is better my partner feel a marriage makes more sense. I am more for the solidity behind the relationship and she is more for solemnizing it.

Honest and sensible answers please. No kidding!!!

2007-09-12 23:53:52 · 23 answers · asked by BignTall 3

Or am I just one of the lucky ones?

2007-09-12 23:51:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is a great father and helps me a lot with our son (who is critically ill and on a transplant list) but he has a problem w/porn. He has been lying to me and looking at it (on the cell phone, on the computer, EVERYWHERE) the whole 2 years we have been married. And he gets angry when I accuse him b/c he's "not doing anything". I found out last night that he has a webcam viewing account on some nasty *** website and I finally got enraged enough to leave. The problem is I love my little boy and we are both military so I will eventually be stationed away from him. I guess my question is...would you leave?

2007-09-12 23:32:19 · 22 answers · asked by ashley b 2

Friend of mine, he has a beautiful wife, smart and lovely kids, good job position, but he love to cheated with others women.He told me that he never use his heart when he do that.He only loves his wife.He's 1 of managerial in a best night club in town.I just wondering, what does he still looking for?while everytime he tell to anybody about how wonderful his marriage life....

2007-09-12 22:54:55 · 21 answers · asked by Mell 1

he tried to kill him self he has mental issues he set my garbage can on fire what should i do ? if he set a can on fire almost killing my family and others .

2007-09-12 22:53:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

i love some one but his mother u must wait ur old sis first . that right or no we love each other so much we 24 years old

2007-09-12 22:34:20 · 4 answers · asked by ema_awaad2050 1

I know he has emotional problems, anxiety, obsessive/compulsive and bipolar but he constantly tells me how much he loves me and how cute he thinks I am. However I can't seem to do anything to get him excited enough to actually make love and it bothers me a great deal. He admits his father is Gay and says that is not for him, that lifestyle. Yet I see he likes to dress in feminie clothes. He takes hormone supplements (Andregel) that should help with his low testosterone levels, however he has made no moves on me in over 3 months! And when I try to give him a hand job, he won't get hard??? I'm so confused and frustrated. I've been told I'm a very sexy lady so it must be him. What do I do??? I notice from reading his IM's with other women he meets in chat rooms that he tries to have online sex. What's this all about? When I am right there and ready for him?

2007-09-12 21:49:32 · 18 answers · asked by beautyofthesea 5

My husband said and did something that hurt my feelings tremendously! I told him that I was very hurt by his response and what he did. He hasn't apologized and all he could do at the time was tell me that I am taking it all personally and to basically get over it. All that did was add more fuel to the fire so to speak. I am still hurting and he is acting as if nothing has happened. What have you done? Any suggestions?

2007-09-12 21:45:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son has slept with me and my wife, (his stepmom) in our bed regularly (most of the time) until recently. She did not complain initally and he slept with us from 2 yrs. old until 7 1/2. My wife could not take it anymore and I gradually discontinued to let him sleep with us. He has slept with us a few times recently. Once in a while ( every 7-10 days), I go to his room and cuddle up with him in his bed, on nights when me and my wife are not having sex , or sometimes when we have an arguement . I still enjoy holding him and we both enjoy the serenity of being together. She wants it to stop entirely (afternoon naps still o.k.with her) She says it is not good for for my son to be sleeping with us or me alone anymore. I think I should still be allowed to sleep with him sometimes in his room. Who is right?

Note: My wife has 2 kids from a prev. marriage (now 12 and 16 yrs. old) who live far away and she has seen only twice in the last 6 years, but calls them regularly.

2007-09-12 21:23:40 · 22 answers · asked by mounthukeeguy 1

2007-09-12 20:19:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby works away from home a few times / yr. The last absence, he had an emotional affair with a co-worker. He admitted he'd gotten too close with her, and promised me that he'd never talk to her again. Well, he's had contact with her 3 times within the past 2 weeks. He claims that it's work related, but, I don't know if I should believe him. (He's a nuclear worker , and I know friends call friends to let them know about available jobs, but, the emotional affair throws a curve into this "friendship').I've tried asking him to break all contact and keep his promise, but he says I'm over reacting. He knows his contact with her bothers me deeply, and it's the only thing I argue with him about. All of his friends think I'm over reacting, too. Am I????

2007-09-12 20:12:40 · 24 answers · asked by addell712 3

Spouses or spouse wannabes may also answer. Speculators are also welcome to answer.

2007-09-12 19:47:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

If I deposited money in my ex girlfriends account and she wrote a check payable to the seller of a car that I bought, can she say the car is hers just because she's the one that paid for it? I only deposited the money in her account because I didn't want to pay the seller with cash for the car. Can she say the car is hers? I have the title of the car in my name. She plans on taking me to court and saying I stole her car. She plans on suing me for the money even though I put the money in her account. Do you think the judge will rule in her favor?

2007-09-12 18:44:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and i seperated on bad terms i got a pfa against him protection from abuse and we are not aloud no contact i was really thinken about him a few weeks ago it was near our anniversary so i went and seen him at a local bar hes a dj on the side i hugged him talked to him and even kissed him and told him how sorry i was for the pain and grief i caused him there was no cheating involved he told me he would be my friend if i dropped the pfa but he does want a divorce it did bring closure for me i think but i still care about him i think about him everyday do u think if i did drop the pfa he would call me and maybe would could date ???? thanks guys for your input jewels

2007-09-12 18:40:53 · 16 answers · asked by jewels 2

ok, here's the situation: i have been married for just a little over a year and apparently my wife has absoloutly no desire or interest in sex at all. i'm only 31 and she's only 29, yet we have sex only once a month, twice a month if i'm lucky. i am always the person to initiate sex. when we do have sex, she has difficulty achieving lubrication, no matter how long forplay is involved, we have to use lubrication to have sex. neither one of us were virgins, yet she was very ademant about waiting until marriage until we had sex...so, we dated for about a year and a half before we got married and this is apparently what i get for the wait. this is my first marriage, but she has been married before. her first husband cheated on her. other than our lack of a sex life, we get along great. it's difficult for me as a man to live in this unfulfilling sexual relationship. is there something i'm doing wrong? is there something wrong with her? i have never been with a woman like this

2007-09-12 18:29:58 · 8 answers · asked by helpwanted 2

The question applies to a muslim government servant who has three wives. The question is who and how many will get the family pensiion after his demise? In the event of the death of the senior most wife, will the next seniormost will or will not get the family pension or will others too get the family pension.

2007-09-12 18:00:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-12 17:55:26 · 21 answers · asked by Diana R 1

There's a twist. Giving two separate ratings based on the following.
Rate yourself (1-10).
And give a rating (1-10) that you think others would give you.

1) As a husband or wife, girlfriend/boyfriend, significant other:
2) As a lover.
3) Rating your looks

Note: Add more if you think of one.

2007-09-12 17:53:27 · 14 answers · asked by byee77777 2

High school sweethearts, share 1yr old child.
He keeps saying he wants to change.
He is addicted to pot,binge drinking and gambling + recently started dabling in steroids.He lies to cover things up.
He's unstable-financialially and emotionally.
When is the right time to say thats enough?
It's been going on for years but i find it hard to turn away when he offers some kind of hope.

2007-09-12 17:49:11 · 10 answers · asked by Bobbi B 1

Before anyone calls me a dirty name, we are seperated and have been for the past couple of weeks but I met up with this guy at work who is also seperated from his wife and we started talking about how horrible it is to be apart from our spouses and one thing led to another. This is the second time I've done something like this in the past week, the othe r time I just did something to a guy I hardly knew at a club but this time was different because it was full of emotions. I know I kind of cheated but now I'm thinking rather or not I should tell my husband because I'm really attracted to the other guy.

2007-09-12 17:33:53 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

When he decides to move on? But you still miss him? So much? How to get thru the night? And hope eventually this too shall pass? And he is moving on with someone else? What to do to with my time? Besides drinking my time away?

2007-09-12 17:33:12 · 15 answers · asked by banana 3

2007-09-12 17:28:43 · 5 answers · asked by 073440 1

My husband and I have been married less than a yr and recently moved because of his job. I've given up everything to be with him and keep our family together (we have a 3yr old) As we'll be moving quite alot I gave up the option of having a secure job, friendships, seeing my family, settling down to buy the house I've dreamt about buying since I was 15. My husband has been acting incredibly selfish lately with no regard to my feeling at all. He seems to think our lives should be all about him all the time and our relationship has done a complete 180. I know he's keeping something from me as when I bring it up he just leaves the room or brushes me off. We used to be really close but he's in hospital at the moment where i visited once and then he told me not to bothor comming in the next day. His excuse was he didnt want to burden me. I find that incredibly insulting that he even thought that. His friends can visit all day long but his wife cant!

What can I do?

2007-09-12 17:27:08 · 14 answers · asked by rhaevyn 2

To be honest, I have been thinking about this very question on my own life. The disclaimer: this question was only meant to be thought provoking, don't answer if you feel your spouse or significant other would feel offended by your answer. Hey, I don't want to cause a conflict over a question on Yahoo Answers!

2007-09-12 17:16:23 · 14 answers · asked by byee77777 2

My husband says he doesn't love me anymore and wants a divorce. He wants to be free to see other women. We have a child together. I still love him even though he is a selfish jerk. Any advice out there? I am desperate at this point.

2007-09-12 16:55:46 · 20 answers · asked by wickedfreakinawesome 1

My husband and I got into a fight over me quitting my job simply because I didn't like it. He said I was being selfish and spoiled, and he didn't think he married a spoiled brat. He started yelling and cursing at me and I just yelled and cursed him back. It was really loud and we live in a boarding house so everyone heard us. Now, when I walk by in the hall they all look at me like I'm nuts. I'm so sad about it and he won't even talk to me about it. I just tried to call his job but he keeps telling his co workers to say I'm not there. I don't know what to do with myself. I can't sleep and I don't feel like doing anything. He's all I got right now since my family aren't speaking to me for marrying him and all of my friends are away at college. We've only been married a month but we've been together for two years of high school and it's killing me not to speak to him. What should I do? Please help!

2007-09-12 16:42:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-12 16:39:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Not a question. Just felt like telling someone. He did call from his business trip yesterday and tell the kids to make me a card. So it's not that the date slipped his mind.
He waited to call home tonight until he knew I would be out of the house at a meeting.
No I didn't want a gift. No, I didn't get him anything or say anything to him.
It is just such a farce of a marriage. ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
I think he is afraid of me. I wish he had the balls to say "What is wrong? Why don't we speak? Why don't we have sex?"
But I think he is too afraid that I will tell him the truth. That I don't love him.
So we just continue with this dysfunctional dance. Me waiting for him to say something, him hoping it will all be o.k. as long as it is never spoken about.
Twisted, huh?

2007-09-12 16:28:30 · 13 answers · asked by candy'sroom 3

I have a 15 month old girl, who is lovely. I have been crying alot for no particular reason, mainly in secret. I have a loving husband, but lately I just havent been into him. I dont feel like sex, and I have even started sleeping under a separate doona to him in the same bed. He knows somethings up. When he asks I say 'nothing, Im fine' bocs I cant pinpoint whats wrong. My husbands english, Im australian, we live in aust, but I hardly visit my family who live a few hours away. Next year we plan on going to england for a few years. It was mainly my decision to do it. My family think it was my husbands idea, and think 'he's trying to keep me away from them'. The situation sucks. I feel if I was 'myself', or how I used to be b4 the baby, I would have laughed it all off. But I cant seem to and everything keeps getting worse. Sometimes I just want things to be how they were a few years ago ... single, no child. I feel like I have nothing and I'm nobody. I dont know what to do.

2007-09-12 16:12:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend mentioned that he would like to live together before marriage. He definitely sees marriage in our future (a whole lot more than I do, actually)

I am not religious, nor was I brought up with any religion, but I feel that living together without making a legal commitment is not right for me.
I'm a bit disillusioned with marriage and I feel that in order to make it work, you don't need "trial runs" or any of that sort. Am I old fashioned or am I perfectly entitled to my own view?

2007-09-12 16:10:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous