Marriage & Divorce - 10 September 2007

How did it affect you? Did you get help?Did your parents perpetuate it or help you out? how are you today?

2007-09-10 22:40:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Everytime i ask him he would say i was just vissitting my daughter(13yrs) and he would blame it up on alcohol. We have been together for 9 yrs and married for 4yrs during the week he is a loving husband come weekend then he is a changed person. I've even tried to commit suicide over this. He rather spend his money with his daughter than spend it with our son he would say that i am workinf then i must provide for our son(4yrs) when our comes back from the daycare he doesnt treat him nicely he will always say he i s spoilt and needs to be punished. And the worst part is that he doesnt live with us he lives at work SANDF in N.W he only comes home on month end but time with us is nit an option for him he rather spend his time in tarven drrinkin coming home on 2am in the morning & i am ver tired of this everytime he is sober he would apologies and i would take him back but this time i am at my mothers house i am very stressed & its affecting our son because we r always arguing all the tim

2007-09-10 22:39:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Recently my 4 year old has asked many times if he can do an activity (something that requires money, like chuckie cheese etc) sometimes we do and others we don’t because I explain that mommy doesn’t have extra money for fun things. THAT IS NOT MY PROBLEM……………HERE is my problem…….READ ON!

My son has followed up his request with a “daddy will take me but you need to give him back his money”…what?!

He has said this to me several times recently, saying, “Daddy will take me but YOU have his money! GIVE daddy back his money!”

The only conclusion I can come to is that my evil, twisted ex is manipulating our child by using his state required and garnished (for refusal to pay) child support as leverage! I realize he is unhappy about paying it, but our son is too young to understand what child support is about (an trust me as any single parent can tell you every dime goes into my sons expenses!).

MY EX NEEDS to stop!! But how do I approach him?………He is stubborn, argumentative, bitter (for god sake I left him in 2003) and will retaliate if I confront him. I don’t want to make the situation worse.

I can try to explain to him how damaging and confusing this is for our son but he wont care…just short of calling him choice words and telling him where to go…I don’t know how to approach him or how to confront him about what he has been saying recently…………as well as the “daddy says mommy can piss off”

As a child psych major I realize the damage and inner conflicts this is causing my son and I want to avoid as much “drama” as possible………..

What would you say how would you approach this?

2007-09-10 22:23:46 · 13 answers · asked by ashlynn n 2

I am upset but perhaps I am being unreasonable. He says it is compelling and a form of entertainment but I feel hurt and afraid. He has been to treatment for coke a few times. He hasn't had a slip in over five months. I am afraid it will lead to something else and am strangely jealous as well. Any ideas>

He has agreed not to communicate with the strangers since in April that is how he found the supplier of the cocaine (through craigslist personals).

He is a very charming wonderful man. This is just eating me alive, or rather I am letting it.

2007-09-10 18:05:16 · 15 answers · asked by sad in Seattle 1

Before my husband and I met, the most important people in his life were his niece and nephews. Especially his niece. He thinks she's perfect, wonderful, beautiful, etc. I think she's just the typical spoiled blond girl. I think they are okay children, but I don't want to make them my top priority the way he has.
He tells me that he loves them the same as me, but they get unconditional love while I only get conditional love. As his wife, I'm not "family," so he can't be sure he'll always love me.
Personally, I'm offended that my husband loves me the same as he does a spoiled six year old. Actually, due to his constant criticism of me, I'm pretty sure he loves this kid a whole lot more than he does me, and that seems dysfunctional. Am I out of line for thinking my husband should love me unconditionally and more than he loves his sister's kid? I'm sick of being second priority after a little kid!

2007-09-10 17:28:20 · 12 answers · asked by Trying to do the right thing 4

One day my husband forgot to log out of the chat room and I got on the computer and it popped up. The entire converstation that he had the night before with a female. I confronted him about it and he was pissed off. He said I had not right in his e-mail and I deserve it. The conversation between the 2 of them was straight sex. then he had the nerves to end the converstion calling her his princess and he loved her. He uses the domino room to coverup his chating. Last night I caught him again chating, but he will not admit it. He has several girls on his ms messanger. I asked him for his pass code for e-mail and messanger and he would not give it to me so I called and changed it and got in with out him knowing it. He is visiting Adultfinder.com and some other web sites. He put that he was looking for a female between 18 and 27 years old. He is 37 years old. I need to hear from some men. Women please commint too. I am a very good women and I don't deserve that.

2007-09-10 17:10:08 · 51 answers · asked by brownsugar 1

I am a 32 yr old woman and my husband is 41.. We have 3 children.
I love to get on the net and do stuff like this or maybe just play games. Well , my husband HATES IT!!! He is so jealous of me on the computer it causes fights.
Please, dont tell me to teach him the computer. I have tried. He has no interest in it. In his mind being on the computer is nothing but a BIG PORN PARTY....
He is a redneck dummy.
I am so fed up with his bitching.
Anyone else have this problem or have a solution for it?

2007-09-10 16:40:43 · 14 answers · asked by stacie m 4

2007-09-10 16:38:19 · 15 answers · asked by boyet 2

A couple has been dating for almost 2yrs, One discovers a trail of evidence that the other has been unfaithful,She even spoke with the other female, and both her BF & the other female deny any wrong doing, Yet that other female gets so defensive, its almost hysterical to hear how she tries to present herself as being Mary Poppins?Especially when she has a past with this guy as giving him a STD more then once!Without going into Gory detail about the evidence and how she knows they are lying, should she go with what she has in evidence or should she just leave it alone?

2007-09-10 16:38:02 · 9 answers · asked by Skinz 3

he runs the roads wi9th a 46 year woman who has a 15 year old daughter. his grandmother pays everything but child support. the grandson has a 5 year old daughter...any clues..anyone???? the grandmother takes up for him NO MATTER WHAT HE DOES...DRUGS..DRINKING ..WHATEVER...ANYONE

2007-09-10 16:36:07 · 10 answers · asked by princesswhitepaw 3

He has like 9 saved searches. I don't know how this personals thing works. I should be worried huh? How do I approach him with this because he will accuse me of looking in his private email. What should I do?

2007-09-10 16:22:12 · 15 answers · asked by loom28 1

husbands. Every time I think of her I can't help but think of depressing thoughts. I think she brings my husband in a bad mood too. She is like a dark cloud on a rainy day. She want's all attention on her and want's to treat us as though we are puppets.

2007-09-10 16:15:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for 4 years, dated for 2 before, he had a really bad temper. I always thought if I loved him more and was there for him more then I could help him get better. Well he has gotten worse over the years. (I'll spare you the boring details, let me know if I should add them). I do love him and we share two wonderful boys together. So I just don't want to give up. But i want to decide things together, and not be afraid to talk to him about things. Do you have any suggestions on what I might be able to do, so things are better between us? BTW he won't agree to go to counseling.

2007-09-10 16:13:20 · 16 answers · asked by justall4ofus 2

Sometimes I feel jealous because they did everything right. They didn't have kids out of wed lock. They stayed married till death. I wish we could see more of that again but at the same time I'm jealous because I've made so many mistakes that they haven't. Puts me almost to shame.

2007-09-10 16:12:54 · 14 answers · asked by sweet 5

My husband and I both work very hard. He is at work early early in the morning so he is in bed by the time I get home from work. We don't have a day off together because either I am working on his day off or visa versa. I am a manager at Sears so I have a crazy schedule and he works long long days as a computer and electronic engineer. It is a brand new job for him. We haven't gotten intimate in about 3 weeks and can't seem to find the time. I tried waking him up when I got home tonight but that didn't work. Any suggestions on what to do?

We have a normally hot and heavy sex life but this new job of his is looking to damper that. We have been only together for 5 yrs and married for 3 1/2. Is there an end in sight when he gets settled in his new job? How long do I have to wait? AND NO I DON'T CHEAT ON HIM AND HE IS FAITHFUL TO ME.

2007-09-10 16:03:49 · 12 answers · asked by April K 2

I am shocked that I found my husband have a profile on richromances.com by chance. I am very disappointed. Please help! what should I do to deal with this. I love my husband....help

2007-09-10 15:51:44 · 15 answers · asked by susanloveal 1

My fiance is a huge football fan. We dont have cable where we live wayyyy out in the country. So we came to stay at my mom's...ya know for the whole Monday night football thing. Well, her ESPN is out so he asked if he could go to the Sports Bar to watch it. I told him that we had both promised that we wouldn't go to bars without each other due to some things in the past. This certain bar is one where he was known to pick up women before we were together.
I really don't want to be a b***h about it so I told him to go and have fun. We've been having difficulties involving finances, children behavior in school, and a miscarriage leaving me feeling rather bad about myself.
Now that he went I'm feeling sooo bad about it. I know I told him to go...but I really didn't want him to, and he knew it. I'm gonna try really hard not to pout about it tomorrow but I know it'll be hard.
How do I keep from being a b***h about it when I agreed, even though we had agreed not to do that??

2007-09-10 15:45:05 · 15 answers · asked by Tina 4

2007-09-10 15:42:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. We have both been thru a bad marriage in the past. He says that he wants to marry me but hasn't yet really made a step towards going thru with it. I know that he is the one for me. He is the love of my life, my soul mate and I will love him no matter if we get married or not but I would feel much more secure about his feelings towards me.

2007-09-10 15:38:42 · 18 answers · asked by scott p 1

They dated for several years when they were young (highschool- early college). She has contacted him occasionally through email during the past 5 years that he and I have been married. Every time she emails him I have written or called her asking her to stay out of our lives. The last time she wrote I called her and asked her why she insisted on contacting him in spite of me asking her not to... she was nasty to me and hung up the phone on me. I want to set this jerk straight. We have 2 young children and we are happy, I just wish I could live life without having to hear from her. HELP!

2007-09-10 15:34:48 · 23 answers · asked by Jade K 1

we have 5 kids 3 under 2 and i stopped my career to stay home and raise them. but i keep hearing him complain that he's the only one making money and all i do is stay home and hang out with kids all day while he works and pays the bills. and trust me we are busy all day with parks, shopping,etc... so now i got a job and now his comments are now i have to cook and clean and take care of everything cuz your working. i make meals for the whole week so they can be heated up for dinner and they eat lunch at daycare, and i still come home and do cleaning, baths, etc... i want to work cuz i need to get out for my own sanity even part time. so how do i make this family work together, also the babies love daycare cuz the kids and activitys they do, so i don't feel thier getting ignored, and i'm able to talk to adults for a couple hours. is that being selfish?? i don't even drink or anything so i have no outlets help

2007-09-10 15:09:55 · 11 answers · asked by amber l+5KIDS 2

I am just completely falling for this man, and I know it is wrong, but I am looking for every way possible to justify this situation.

Is there anything positive about being with a married man? I don't know what is wrong with me, but I just really feel a connection with him.

2007-09-10 15:08:28 · 49 answers · asked by lala2007 2

If so...then what other reasons...and does your partner know and is accepting of it.....do you regret it??

2007-09-10 15:02:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-10 14:57:11 · 32 answers · asked by MBA-MsBadAss 3

What caused your divorce? Why do you think your marriage ended? or was it one solid reason?

2007-09-10 14:53:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

im just curious to see how many people actually have total faith in their spouse. thx :)

2007-09-10 14:46:44 · 24 answers · asked by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5

Okay... if you have read my past posts then you know that I have had HUGE issues with my ex husband (and we share a child so I can't just walk away) and his wife. I have had a long heart to heart with my ex and he has agreed that we will try to be friends for as long as it takes to raise our child and after that we will try to at least be nice to each other when it comes time to....lets say....go to our childs wedding, or other big life events. We are trying to act like adults. I have not hidden this from my husband. I have included him in any conversations that have gone on. NOW for some reason my husband thinks that we are trying to get back together!! (I left my ex because he abused me and started to show signs of abuseing my child. and he cheated) We have been divorced 8 years and I have been remarried for 6. Oh, by the way my ex lives 4 states away. We email and he calls once a week to talk to our child (I try not to answer the phone unless I honestly have something to say

2007-09-10 14:36:59 · 18 answers · asked by Brandi 5

I have a friend who has been married for 8 years, during her fisrt year of marriage {7 years ago} she and her hubby separated and were going to get a divorce, she moved out and they were separted for 6 or 7 months. While they were separted she slept with someone else. {more then once} She never told her hubby and they got back together. Her hubby never asked her if she dated, slept with anyone during that time and she never asked him., or told him She feels that since they were going to get a divorce that is was not a affair or cheating. She is now feeling gulity and is comtipating telling her hubby, they have one child and just bought a house 2 years ago. She is scared to tell him, but feels she needs to let me know. Also the man she slept with is kinda back in her life...it has been almsot 7 years since they saw each other they have talked online and by text msgs,for the past he wants to get together with her for a drink and chat. { he is single} and she says shes not sure what...

2007-09-10 14:29:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I moved 3 hours away with my kids. Just recently divorced their dad was married before our divorce was finalized. He refuses to pay child support. He refused to meet me where he was supposed to meet me. I was living with my parents and it was stressful. I moved 3 hours away to live with my sister until I can get back on my feet. He is upset because of this. He still will be able to see the kids every other weekend on his visitations. He never came to school events. He never came to visit on days that were not his scheduled visitations. I had a hard time getting him to meet on the weekends he was supposed to meet me. Is it so wrong that I moved 3 hours away? the only reason I was living where he was is because I moved there when I married him. I am moving back to live with family now. Is this wrong???

2007-09-10 14:01:32 · 8 answers · asked by stop_staring_please 4

Any thing would help please send back

2007-09-10 13:57:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous