My husband and I both work very hard. He is at work early early in the morning so he is in bed by the time I get home from work. We don't have a day off together because either I am working on his day off or visa versa. I am a manager at Sears so I have a crazy schedule and he works long long days as a computer and electronic engineer. It is a brand new job for him. We haven't gotten intimate in about 3 weeks and can't seem to find the time. I tried waking him up when I got home tonight but that didn't work. Any suggestions on what to do?
We have a normally hot and heavy sex life but this new job of his is looking to damper that. We have been only together for 5 yrs and married for 3 1/2. Is there an end in sight when he gets settled in his new job? How long do I have to wait? AND NO I DON'T CHEAT ON HIM AND HE IS FAITHFUL TO ME.
2007-09-10 16:03:49 · 12 answers · asked by April K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How about this. Since he works on the computer, set up whatever computer appointment book he uses, such as Outlook, Thunderbird, etc.. and set a time as sex time! Or if he always checks his email, send him an email, mentioning: sex time!
2007-09-10 16:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by R_Mev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way to change your work schedule at Sears? I mean, as a manager you should be able to work a set schedule, right? I may be wrong but this could be a solution to the problem. Even if you can't change the schedule every day of the week maybe you could look into at least 3 days a week. THat way you could be home with him before bed and you could find the time for the intimacy that every married couple needs.
2007-09-10 16:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to actually schedule a time to get together...I know doesn't that sound pathetic? My hubby and I had to do that for a year! He is nocturnal (employed and naturally) and of course I am daytime, so we find ANYTIME we can, especially with kids. Naptimes (afternoon) or at night when he is off. He sounds like a heavy sleeper, so I know how that goes.
Can you get together for lunch? If you guys have an hour to be together, find a place to meet! It may take a month or so for his body to adjust, and hopefully he'll get a better schedule (or vacation days.) In the meantime, lunch dates and hot phone calls may be the best for now!
2007-09-10 16:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will do it at any time and my wife says she will do it anytime also. But, really what SHE means is "Dont wake me up just because you want it." So, really she likes it in the morning, on her lunch break (we have lunch together daily) or at night.
I would suggest working on getting time off when he is off, and raiding him. Dont let him see it coming, just hop on and go to town. He wont decline, no matter how tired he is, or how early he has to get up. Especially, since its been 3 weeks.
Try it, you both will win.
2007-09-10 16:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by mac150 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't find the time, MAKE it. Get up earlier--- you can always go back to sleep. Ask your husband to help work out the schedule. Unfortunately, sex doesn't just happen when yor schedules are at odds. It's not spontaneous to "schedule" sex, but it definitely gives you something to look forward to!!!
2007-09-10 16:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by detailgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him about it and find a time that's right for both of you, a time when neither of you are too tired, it very important to keep sex alive in a marriage, so talk to him about it and find the right time. You dont want your marriage to start suffering the consequences of not having time for a sex life. Good luck!!
2007-09-10 16:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by Pat's Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me having sex is not at the right time or place its up too you too communicate don't hesitate to tell him if you want, do the first move. if your both tried try to do. early in the morning before go shower or even at the shower. it could be romantic don't let your work effect your relationship.. remember communication and sex is part of it....
2007-09-10 16:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by alea kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the partner who does not have day off can give up a little sleep on the other partners day off. Then only one of you needs to be sleep deprived and both can be happy!
2007-09-10 16:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is really important to you, one of you will have to change schedules. Decide what your priorities are. He needs to know how you feel about this.
2007-09-10 16:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by why? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anytime!
The one you don't have NOW is the one you'll never have!
2007-09-10 16:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋