husbands. Every time I think of her I can't help but think of depressing thoughts. I think she brings my husband in a bad mood too. She is like a dark cloud on a rainy day. She want's all attention on her and want's to treat us as though we are puppets.
2007-09-10 16:15:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her and her husband don't talk and don't have much in common.
2007-09-10 16:28:41 · update #1
Give me her email address and I will send her this page ---- !!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-10 16:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't get her out of your husband's life--she earned the right to be there on the day she gave birth to him (or adopted him if that's the case). What you should do is ease her lonliness! a designated "date night" with her would give her the time with you and attention that she craves, as well as giving you and your husband a predicatable and managable routine for her visits. Another idea might be to introduce her to others her own age--possibly your own mother or the mother of one of your friends. If she has her own friends to spend time with, her "dark cloud" might brighten a bit and yours will too! Best of luck :)
2007-09-18 13:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by tangocharlie3663 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a mother in law, it is always good to be honest with her. Simply tell her, you and your husband love her, but she is much to negative and it brings a black cloud over your day when she acts this way. Tell her it isn't good for you and your husband, but it isn't good for her either. Suggest going to a therapist to learn positive thinking. Also be frank with her and let her know you know she is lonely, wants, needs, a lot of attention, and the best way to get attention is to be fun to be around, not negative. It is important to be open and honest with her. If she continues to act this way, doesn't get counselling, then you might have to limit her visits, and if you do, tell her why. I know it isn't easy to do this, but when a family member acts this way, we need to be honest with them. They may be upset, but in the long run, you are helping them see themselves and how they appear to others. If it is impossible to say it in person, which is always best, it can be written in a letter, but it needs to be said.
2007-09-10 16:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by pattimaris1675@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm that's horrible, she wont be around forever. She is the mother of your husband. Can't you try to do something fun with her so she isnt as lonely? go for coffee, take her shopping. she pry just wants some communication with someone if you act like you want her around maybe she wont seem like such a "dark cloud" respect your elders, girly!
2007-09-18 08:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Charisma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my mother-in-law! I love her but there are just times when I can't deal with all the negativity and insults towards me and my family. We all love her but even my husband sees that she affects our lives in a negative way.
The way we deal with it is that we just do our family thing and if we want to see her we do, and if we don't want to, we don't. If she is that lonely then she needs to find a club or hobby or something to keep her busy and start feeling better about herself and give her something to do other than interfering with your lives.
Good luck!
2007-09-17 12:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by Debi N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that is her son...there is no getting her out of your life. She probably treats you like children because to a mother her children are always her children, no matter how old they are...when you can realize this, it will be easier to take some of what she is telling you. You can just listen politely and not take her advise...don't let her get the best of you...she might not be sunshine but you married her son!!!
If it is any consolation, when you have children of your own, you will understand her more...but it is tuff right now...been there honey
2007-09-10 16:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by missyj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this woman you are talking about the one who raised your husband from an infant to adulthood so you can be with him?
I can assure you that the bad mood your husband is in is not because of his mother but because you and her don't get along.
2007-09-10 16:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by cynic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not going to care about your opinion but she'd care about her sons. Have your husband talk to her. That's what my husband had to do with his mother after so many years of misery on my part. Now we all get along and she now minds her own business.
2007-09-10 16:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by ods 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, if I understand wisely this guy is your fiance's brother. Is he married? You did no longer say. appears like an extremely painful problem and that i do no longer condone his habit or your mom's. yet while it comes right down to it, that's not your intercourse existence, no one is cheating on you. as much because it sucks, that's not possibly your place to do something approximately it when you consider which you're portion of the relatives, in spite of the undeniable fact that it would not immediately contain you. and admittedly, they're the two adults, in case you instructed them it harm you will possibly they end doing it?
2016-10-10 08:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by brence 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a shame you feel that way.My mother in law called me all the time,she was lonely also,I still took the time to talk to her and to visit,she has recently past away.So I know it may be hard on you but really how would you feel if she was never there to bug you again...
2007-09-10 16:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by shy_smileyfun 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your husbands mother. It does not sound as if he is honoring her the way he should so she does these things to get his attention.
Try some honey and you will find her attitude changing.
When your kids are grown and get married you will be in her shoes. Good Luck
2007-09-18 07:37:31 · answer #11 · answered by walt631 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋